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    I guess I don’t completely understand why you would tip someone 5$ when you decline a dance.. but then turn around and tip a dancer on stage 2$ for a motor boat.. if you gave away 5$ to every dancer you’ve ever declined.. that could be more then the amount paid in dances in a year.. any thoughts on this?

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    my thoughts on this are that you should have picked a better name if you want serious answers to a question that starts off with "i just don't understand why you would tip someone $5" and saying you could get more for less.

    if you came here to learn how to make us like you and be considered a good customer then take the advice posted on the forum. or don't- no one's gonna make you do anything or tell you how to spend your money. you won't get kicked out for being a bargain hunter.

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    So just don't tip when you turn someone down. It's not customary. No one has ever tipped me when turning me down (except for the maybe later/ill think about it type of rejection) but that's because I don't sit around talking to anyone hoping to sell them a dance but some dancers do spend more time talking to them and now they've just wasted time that they could have spent making money with someone else so I guess some customers think it's a nice thing to do to at least tip them a little bit.

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Because not everyone is a bargain hunter.

    Because some men are more generous financially than others.

    Because maybe he really liked her just didn't want anything more and compensated her for her time/efforts for those few minutes.

    And because sometimes as soon as a mf set their pinky toe across those club door thresholds ----- all logic goes out the window.

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    I had a dancer come sit with me towards the end of the night during my last visit. I was only getting dances from one woman, so when she asked if I wanted a dance, I said no thanks. She mentioned that she can't seem to get dances with anyone. While we talked a bit more, I pulled out one of the $20s I had and handed it to her. I told her that this way, she could keep all of it and the house wouldn't get a dime. I was enjoying relaxing, she looked gorgeous, and I was having a pretty good night. I dunno why I did it, but I'd probably do it again. And next time I visit, I definitely plan to bring in a $100 to dance with her.

    Related note: I hate that the house gets my money. That's why I tip 5 for every dance I get. If I pay for a service, I want the dancer to keep all of it. I'll cover the tip-outs.

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Quote Originally Posted by Titus23 View Post
    I had a dancer come sit with me towards the end of the night during my last visit. I was only getting dances from one woman, so when she asked if I wanted a dance, I said no thanks. She mentioned that she can't seem to get dances with anyone. While we talked a bit more, I pulled out one of the $20s I had and handed it to her. I told her that this way, she could keep all of it and the house wouldn't get a dime. I was enjoying relaxing, she looked gorgeous, and I was having a pretty good night. I dunno why I did it, but I'd probably do it again. And next time I visit, I definitely plan to bring in a $100 to dance with her.

    Related note: I hate that the house gets my money. That's why I tip 5 for every dance I get. If I pay for a service, I want the dancer to keep all of it. I'll cover the tip-outs.
    That makes a lot of sense, I agree with tipping for a conversation instead of a quick walk by

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Nice username, OP.

    It may be that the guy wanted her to come back, just not right that second. Or that he's just got it to spend.
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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Idk. if the girl wanna dances me or plops down next to me without invitation, I generally don't feel any obligation to give her anything. Now one exception to this is if she came over because I was staring at her while she was onstage but did not get off my lazy ass to go tip her, at which point I might feel guilty enough to give her $5 and call it a belated stage tip. But otherwise, my conscience is clear.

    Now if she asks to sit and I say yes, or if I otherwise tie up a lot of her time (even if she sat uninvited) because I am enjoying my conversation with her, then I feel like I've assumed some obligation to give her something for her efforts. At that point, she's likely to get at least $20 for her troubles and potentially much more if she sits and drinks for a while.

    The problem that some guys seem to have is that they don't know how to disengage, which puts them in these awkward situations. Some girls understand this and will even ask for a small amount even if he manages to croak out some weak excuse to avoid a dance with her. These girls understand that some guys will cough up the $5 just to end their discomfort over the interaction, which to me makes them savvy as they turn nothing into a little something, which can turn into a lot of something if there are enough guys involved.

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    I don’t expect five bucks for every rejection , which is why I make it short and sweet til I know the guy will spend. I WISH I was brazen enough to ask for a tip after every rejection , being shameless about making money and willing to ask probably makes those girls some decent money
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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    I have tipped some dancers quite well who I turned down....If they were my “type”.....but I was waiting for a dancer I know......just so they might come back later.

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    If you plan on going back to the club or staying for a while it might build a little goodwill.
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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    This last weekend I went to a local strip club. It’s been 7 years from ever stepping foot in a strip club... I must say I rather enjoyed tipping the girls when I rejected. I sat at the rail mostly and tipped 300$ over 3 hours. Each girl only did 1 song... when I went to the bar they would start the hustle for dances. I politely told them I don’t want to waste your time, I’m not buying dances tonight, Handed them a 5$ and said thanks for offering. I noticed a lot of the other guys wouldn’t even verbally respond.. they would just put a frown on and shake their heads back and fourth.. seeing these girls light up on a rejection tip was well worth it..

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Stay home. You're broke as fuck and cheap. 2-5 tips is a pathetic joke.

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Read the forums a little closer, most dancers struggle making tips in the lower end clubs. It’s not their fault they live in small town in the middle of nowhere and not somewhere like Vegas/Dallas.. you would rather people stay home and not plan to dump 100$ an hour per visit? That’s insane.. also kinda hurtful to the girls that are new and struggling. Do you think you can add something relevant to your post like a “typical” rail tip ammount?? Plenty of posters on SW have said they are happy with 5$ rail tippers..

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Quote Originally Posted by Titus23 View Post

    Related note: That's why I tip 5 for every dance I get.
    Dose this mean your also a pathetic joke? I’m confused

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    Quote Originally Posted by Womenarntobjects View Post
    Read the forums a little closer, most dancers struggle making tips in the lower end clubs. It’s not their fault they live in small town in the middle of nowhere and not somewhere like Vegas/Dallas.. you would rather people stay home and not plan to dump 100$ an hour per visit? That’s insane.. also kinda hurtful to the girls that are new and struggling. Do you think you can add something relevant to your post like a “typical” rail tip ammount?? Plenty of posters on SW have said they are happy with 5$ rail tippers..

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...191292-Tipping

    https://www.tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=18485
    I'm in a relatively small market as well, and I won't go to a club unless I can bring $500 in with me. I usually do the Friday/Saturday night thing, so $1000 total. Of that, I earmark $300 for stage tips, split with $100 ones and $200 fives. The rest I use for cover, drinks for the dancers (I don't drink), and dances. I usually get dances in bunches of 5 ($100 total) and tip $25.

    Not saying everyone should or can do the same, but I can confirm that you'll quickly become popular, you'll be remembered, and overall, you'll have a pretty good time.

    The point of the club is the fantasy. Trust me, it's much better if you go once a month and spend big then if you go weekly and sputter along.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Womenarntobjects View Post
    Dose this mean your also a pathetic joke? I’m confused
    Oh, you're one of those. Ok, please disregard the advice of my previous post. Now that I understand more about you, I recommend you only bring enough cash for the cover. Make sure you wear gym shorts too, and sit at the stage all night not tipping. That will guarantee that everyone there will love you.

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Quote Originally Posted by Titus23 View Post
    Oh, you're one of those. Ok, please disregard the advice of my previous post. Now that I understand more about you, I recommend you only bring enough cash for the cover. Make sure you wear gym shorts too, and sit at the stage all night not tipping. That will guarantee that everyone there will love you.
    Still confused. You thanked someone’s post saying tipping 5$ is pathetic... then you go into your normal SC visit re confirming you tip $5...? I would agree 300$ was light for a visit

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    Default Re: Saying no to a dance and tipping 5$?

    Meh, don’t worry about responding. Thank you for confirming my tipping edict and giving some insight

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    Quote Originally Posted by Womenarntobjects View Post
    Still confused. You thanked someone’s post saying tipping 5$ is pathetic... then you go into your normal SC visit re confirming you tip $5...? I would agree 300$ was light for a visit
    I stage tip $5 a song minimum, more if I get attention. I tip $5 each dance. If a dancer spends some time with me in public, I usually tip a $20 for her time, and my favorite usually gets a crisp $100 at the end of the night.

    Granted, I'm usually her ride to and from the club when I visit, but still.

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    Banned - OP and his later incarnation clearly identified himself as male yet assigned himself a pink ribbon, and he clearly intended to troll SW. He's banned for his own good, I don't want any women to hit him with the objects they aren't.
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