Hello all! (if this belongs in Stripping General or Hustle Hut please move)
I know we each have our own boundaries, and I am looking for some help. Some Portland clubs are very minimal contact, and some are quite high. My current one it is apparently "up to you"and they don't really check, no cameras etc; I am guessing there are some extras from what I can tell.
I don't mind some touching; NO kitty, and I have discovered it really irritated me when people put their mouths on me or try to play with my nipples. However, I don't mind some breast touching otherwise. Problem is, when I try to tell people my rules, they go for the boobs but the nipples are so close it's like a gray area to them and invariably the "accidentally" touch my nipples.
I am working on holding my boundaries because it makes me feel better about myself... but when this accidental nipple brushing happens I find it hard to feel like I am keeping my integrity, even if I move their hands away. It pisses me off that it happened at all after I said for it not to, and by then it feels too late and another layer of irritation sets in.
Should I work on not caring as much about certain things? Like, if I loosen some boundaries, there are fewer to cross and irritate me and less monitoring I have to do, which is exhausting? It didn't used to bug me at all if someone kissed my shoulder or whatever but I find I am starting to bristle at this kind of thing. I don't know how to say "please keep your fucking mouth off of me" without killing the mood and further sales.
Should I just allow no boob touching at all? With the climate and culture in Portland clubs, is this going to kill my money? I am not sure if this belongs in Stripping General or Hustle Hut or what...
Do you list out your rules for each customer before each dance? My ideal world would sound something like "No touching the kitty, no boobs, no licking or sucking/don't kiss me anywhere." How to put that in a more playful way that doesn't kill the vibe?
Anyone enforce minimal touching in high mileage clubs and have it work for them?
Other higher mileage clubs in other cities feel free to chime in![]()



and they don't really check, no cameras etc; I am guessing there are some extras from what I can tell.
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I tell guys I can't kiss them cause I'm a singer and omg what if I get sick, my angelic voice! If necessary. I think what jinxPDX said about telling them what they CAN touch should be the first step.

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