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    Default Portland contact clubs and boundaries/rules

    Hello all! (if this belongs in Stripping General or Hustle Hut please move)

    I know we each have our own boundaries, and I am looking for some help. Some Portland clubs are very minimal contact, and some are quite high. My current one it is apparently "up to you" and they don't really check, no cameras etc; I am guessing there are some extras from what I can tell.

    I don't mind some touching; NO kitty, and I have discovered it really irritated me when people put their mouths on me or try to play with my nipples. However, I don't mind some breast touching otherwise. Problem is, when I try to tell people my rules, they go for the boobs but the nipples are so close it's like a gray area to them and invariably the "accidentally" touch my nipples.

    I am working on holding my boundaries because it makes me feel better about myself... but when this accidental nipple brushing happens I find it hard to feel like I am keeping my integrity, even if I move their hands away. It pisses me off that it happened at all after I said for it not to, and by then it feels too late and another layer of irritation sets in.

    Should I work on not caring as much about certain things? Like, if I loosen some boundaries, there are fewer to cross and irritate me and less monitoring I have to do, which is exhausting? It didn't used to bug me at all if someone kissed my shoulder or whatever but I find I am starting to bristle at this kind of thing. I don't know how to say "please keep your fucking mouth off of me" without killing the mood and further sales.

    Should I just allow no boob touching at all? With the climate and culture in Portland clubs, is this going to kill my money? I am not sure if this belongs in Stripping General or Hustle Hut or what...

    Do you list out your rules for each customer before each dance? My ideal world would sound something like "No touching the kitty, no boobs, no licking or sucking/don't kiss me anywhere." How to put that in a more playful way that doesn't kill the vibe?

    Anyone enforce minimal touching in high mileage clubs and have it work for them?

    Other higher mileage clubs in other cities feel free to chime in

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    Anyone enforce minimal touching in high mileage clubs and have it work for them?

    I have not been in the industry for a while but when I danced, I did enforce minimal touching for my own sanity. I was mainly selling one dance at a time but to a lot of customers which worked pretty well for me. Maybe my rules did not allow me to bank but I could sleep well at night without nightmares lol. I just made sure I was in top shape lookwise to get a lot of "yes" to my one dance hustle. And I moved quickly from one customer to another, avoided time wasters. Hope this helps!

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    sometimes i tell them they're "technically" not supposed to touch at all even though i don't mind some touching.. and guide their hands away if they go for a no-fly zone. lol. no matter how much you give them men will always try for more so it's good to tell them you're ok with less than you really are.. bc so many will try to push limits. and if they're respectful you can always give them the OK for more as the dances go on.

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    I have worked in Portland for six years and the level of touching allowed in dances has changed considerably. I have worked at both high contact/two way touch clubs, and virtually no touch clubs. I prefer no touch, but two way contact is becoming something of a norm in Portland, so I allow a reasonable amount of contact.

    What works best for me is telling a customer what they CAN touch--my legs and my back. It is a shorter list than what they cannot touch.

    If a customer becomes handsy, I either domme them or act coy and demure while moving or dodging their hand. A little role playing goes a long way.

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    I would not recommend loosening your boundaries!!! Don't do anything you're not okay with. The psychological trauma is not worth it.

    I work in a one-way contact club, but guys are still constantly trying their luck. Depending on the customer, sometimes I'm assertive and forward about boundaries, other times I take the disguised approach of being cutesy... Say you're really ticklish so they can't put their mouths on you. Tell them your nipples are *very* sensitive so they can't touch them I tell guys I can't kiss them cause I'm a singer and omg what if I get sick, my angelic voice! If necessary. I think what jinxPDX said about telling them what they CAN touch should be the first step.

    If I suspect a customer may be problematic (but not so problematic that I would refuse to dance for him), I make sure to get paid upfront. That way, if he tries to cross my boundaries, I can just up and leave

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    Default Re: Portland contact clubs and boundaries/rules

    I completely hear and you fully agree. I have allowed boob touching in the past, but do find if your restrictions go against what the perceived norm of the club is, your money drops and your customers just go elsewhere. Are there clubs by you that have stricter contact restrictions? The first couple clubs I worked had strict no contact in any area a bikini covered, management had our backs for the most part and guys would get kicked out if they got to handsy. Of course this didn't stop guys from trying but you could block or move their hands without too much issue.

    After reading your post, I feel your best bet might be looking around at other clubs. I've never been or danced in Portland, so I'm sorry I can't help you more. If Portland is too high millage, are there other decent clubs within driving distance that can still bring in ok money? We all get tempted by more money, but I would much rather see you make decent to good money and feel great about yourself than see you make amazing money and lose you're integrity, self worth and learn to absolutely hate men.

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    There are a number of zero contact or low contact clubs in Portland. I'd check out Hawthorne Strip, Dancin' Bear, and I believe Lucky Devil/Devils Point are really strict still too. If the club has that policy it'll be less likely you have to lay out all your rules.

    I usually do two priced dances that seem to clear up their ideas. So Underwear on, no touching except like legs or fully nude where they can play with these (and I grab my boobs) Then once we get started I do clarify no mouth if I need to. I also read the situation and mention nothing between the legs if I feel it's necessary. Usually, that keeps it light and fun still. Always keep with your standards period though. I've known a number of girls that are no contact and work in higher contact clubs and they sometimes make more doing that. It's all about your confidence and attitude!

    And ALWAYS get the money first so if you do get uncomfortable you can give them a 2 warning chance to behave or walk with the cash! I've been in PDX for 6 years and definitely agree contact is getting more prevalent.

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    Default Re: Portland contact clubs and boundaries/rules

    I second guiding their hands as a way of controlling the situation.
    I personally don't mind a bit of boob touching but around my period my nipples get unbearably sensitive, or you get the guys who come in and start twiddling them like radio dials, I find it really helpful to just play with my tits a LOT. They never get a chance to grab them because i'm just suggestively touching them and shaking them in their face just close enough. I really doubt they even notice that they never touched them, so usually I can get away without telling them "please dont do xyz" because once I say that it's just going to be on their mind.

    But definitely don't compromise your on your boundaries!!It can't be healthy. I feel like it will make you start resenting work which will all start impacting your work performance and attitude

    good luck girl xox

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    OMG cocoheartt Great idea!! I am so going to try this...

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    Default Re: Portland contact clubs and boundaries/rules

    I definitely agree not to let people push your boundaries for money. Your mental health is really important and if that goes down the drain, your money inevitably will too no matter what you're letting them touch. My main club is a one way contact club but I've worked at quite a few clubs where you choose your own boundaries and I always tell customers "You can touch, but you have to tip and stay away from my butthole and pussy" and if they still try, I remind them that that's a no no zone. I use playful language but I'm firm so they know I'm serious but I'm saying it in sucha fun/cute way that it doesn't ruin the mood and feel like they're restricted.

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