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    Duh Has anyone ever left a "good job" to dance??

    So, tl;dr--from age 18 to 20 I danced on & off around the country because I had a hard time finding "clothed" jobs. We're talking: I was getting rejection letters from Burger King. I was also a severe alcoholic. It was kind of a disaster honestly. I got pregnant at 20 and returned to college, got a practical degree for a good office job, etc. I am 26 now.

    I am so burnt out it's not even funny. I feel way worse than I did even when I was dancing in shitholes with women who offered full service. I feel sort of betrayed I guess? Like I did so much hard work getting sober, getting a degree, etc. and my life is so not how I wanted it to turn out. My day-to-day is mostly drop my kid off, stare into a screen, pick my kid up, and pretend I'm happy that I've made everyone so proud of me. The 9-to-5 lifestyle seems to be for people who are proud of their careers. And I'm just not. Mostly I feel like I've sold out. I've tried talking to my superiors, other people in my industry, and I just don't see a way out of how miserable I am. I feel like I've got no time for even my daughter, much less my other pursuits. I am back in therapy.

    Anyway, I'm back in college--for business, to start my own business. A friend of mine tipped me off to a good club, 100% female-owned & female-run, that has very strict rules about sobriety, physical contact, etc. I'm thinking about saying to hell with it and seeing if they'll let me do a night or two per week. Has anyone else thrown away a "respectable" career? If my family found out I was even thinking about this I would get an earful about how spoiled & immature I am and how ungrateful I am to even be given the privilege to have a respectable career.

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    Default Re: Has anyone ever left a "good job" to dance??

    I think the most important thing in this situation is your sobriety. If you feel like that is going to be a struggle to maintain in a club environment you should absolutely not do it. Plus even though your current job seems meaningless and time consuming stripping has plenty of negative attributes. Maybe you could find a different job that’s less boring but not such an extreme departure. Maybe you could do a night or two at the club and see how it feels. Might also be good to talk to a therapist doing that has often helped me figure out what I really want and what about a situation is really bothering me.

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    I don't think it'll be much of an issue for me, as I am also a musician and perform in bars frequently.

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    What jumps out at me is that you were a severe alcoholic in the past. To be honest these days the more meaningful $$$ in stripping is in bars that also push liquor sales. You will be around liquor even if you opt for virgin drinks. The temptation will be there.
    Camming might be a better option.

    & I did see that you perform in bars as a musician....however the "hustle" part of stripping involves talking to men to get them comfortable & men come to drink in bars. It is a bit different than performing & keeping busy while in the bar.

    I honestly advise you seek a more interesting occupation. Even something wild like bail bonds or music promotion.

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    Default Re: Has anyone ever left a "good job" to dance??

    Try a few shifts, start slow. Yes I do know women who have stripped after getting good jobs and "careers" although most do it on the side so they can keep up their work history in the vanilla world
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    Default Re: Has anyone ever left a "good job" to dance??

    Aside from sobriety issues the other real issue here is having a resume gap (especially since you have a child to support.) In this post 2008 economy employers don't extend sympathy to workers like they did in the past & it's way more competitive to get good jobs. Personally my resume gaps are the bane of my existence. It's humiliating to have people at work look at me like I'm some mega- f-up when in reality I benefitted from a job I won't discuss with them (adult work.)

    Honestly several sections of Reddit have advice that can help in this sort of scenario. I wouldn't talk about going back to stripping (Reddit is male-centric) but for the other parts of life you want to re-arrange/manage, there is good advice on there.

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    Default Re: Has anyone ever left a "good job" to dance??

    I would maybe do 1 or 2 nights a week and see how you feel. If you like it maybe look for another office job and do both. Or look for a work at home office job like call center/secretary services so you will have more energy to work both jobs. Goodluck.
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    I feel you. I've been in a "good" office job for a couple years after dancing through school, and it is hard. I have problems with authority and being milked by a corporation. Sounds like small fries compared to the benefits/stability, but when you're miserable you're miserable. I've been just biding my time there and saving money/paying my student loan debt because the options for arranging health/disability insurance and retirement savings are not awesome as a self employed person. I would think this would be more of a concern for you with a little one--I have no kiddos.

    I fantasize about leaving, and maybe I will if my savings grow enough and my debt shrinks enough. Maybe think about doing it on the side to build your savings/get poised to start that business. When you've got earning potential behind your vanilla hustle bust out and use dancing to fund your business and keep your bills paid.

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    I retired from a 9-10 yr long career to dance yes. It makes me serious about it and more focused i believe.

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    I forgot what my username was on this site and couldn't thank everyone. Lmao my bad. But yes thank you all! Update: I ended up just doing it. I'm a lot happier now vocationally, though I do feel some sense of guilt for that. Why am I happier dancing than working a proper job? Either way. I found a quite good club money-wise that is understanding about me dancing sporadically due to college/family/poor health. I'm majoring in what I actually wanted to be pursuing this whole time regardless of how practical it is. Thanks all.

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    I’m 30 and I left a “good job” this year to start stripping.Why? I made 60k a year plus a bonus and amazing benefits and I had NO TIME to have a life and enjoy it. I worked over 40 hours a week, usually 6 days a week. I could never use my vacation days because of the nature of my job—I actually got an entire month of extra pay when I left just from those days. I have diagnosed mental health issues that were becoming problematic and I couldn’t take the time to deal with it. Dancing lets me make my own schedule, I can stay up all night (I prefer this), I can work as much or as little as I want to, and I find it really fun and interesting. I have another long gap in my resume from before I started dancing so i’m not super worried about it if I ever decide to try for vanilla jobs again. And I have awesome skills and references from that world so that’s a comfort too. I’m super happy I left my “good job” to dance, one of my top 3 best decisions ever.

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    Dude word. I have chronic health problems and my last several months of working my Good Job were struggling to make 40hrs/wk and spending the rest of my time in bed recovering. I'm really happy that I did this. When I'm able to work, I can work, and I do something physical & social as opposed to what I felt like I was "supposed to" do. And I have the flexibility now to major in what I actually wanted to major in. This year I decided I'm just gonna stop listening to the voice in my head telling me what I am "supposed to" do. It's a lot different than when I danced when I was younger and felt like I had no other option. Now, I know that I have other options, I just prefer this one.

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    Default Re: Has anyone ever left a "good job" to dance??

    Respectable career? This means trying to please others.

    Life is too short trying to please other people, half of whom are happy with their own lives. Plenty of people in “respectable” careers just going through the motions.

    You have desires for a reason. Go after what it is calling you. Just be wise and have a savings safety net and make sure you enjoy the next step before quitting your day job.
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    Ooh, I need to hear this, great thread!
    Re-breaking in my shoes
    Also, that sounds like a great club! Female run, love that!


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    Default Re: Has anyone ever left a "good job" to dance??

    Yep, same as LunaMae. I was relocated to another state with my current job and was making decent money, but had no life whatsoever. And then they transferred me to another state AGAIN after only being with the company for 2 months. It was too much and too ridiculous, so I gave my notice and am about to audition at a club tomorrow to dance full-time while I find another vanilla job.

    Honestly, what I've found that works best for me is working both a vanilla job and working at night. If I stick to one or the other, I feel like I'm going crazy.

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    maybe dance nude, I made good $, worked around extras but no alcohol is served. however dont hang out in the dressing rooms with the Hennessy pounderz
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    I’ve left “respectable” jobs to go back to stripping. Numerous times over 8 years. Both occupations have positives and negatives. 90% of the time I miss club life. But I’m trying to get pregnant and ultimately my husband isn’t ok with dancing (he’d rather I become a Manager or Owner of a club down the line...which I also agree would be the best of both worlds for both of us). I’m fortunate enough that my parents also support the idea of me being a Manager or Owner of a club one day. Until I can, I’m looking at my current job as a means to an end.

    I never let anyone dictate how “respectable” dancing is or isn’t. It got me through college, it paid my bills and then some, helped improve my social skills and made me a more focused, independent and confident woman. If that’s not respectable, idk what it is. Plenty of people in “respectable” jobs hate their jobs and live miserable lives. That’s not respectable. Creating a life you want and that makes you happy is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovelydancer View Post
    Plenty of people in “respectable” jobs hate their jobs and live miserable lives. That’s not respectable. Creating a life you want and that makes you happy is.
    This is the person I was turning into my last several months at my "respectable" job. Which yes I had things to be proud of: I faced an unplanned pregnancy at a young age, overcame alcoholism, and earned a degree and a good career. But I was so miserable & bitter that it wasn't all it's cracked up to be, that I was turning into a shitty person. I was becoming the kind of person I hated: the sort of person who hates their life because they feel like they don't get to actively choose the life they want, so they take it out on everyone else. I ended up changing my college major too, to a subject I actually found interesting instead of something *else* that would lead to a "respectable" job I'd hate also.

    I am very glad to read everyone's replies and see that I'm not alone.

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    I've taken breaks from dancing to try other jobs, and at first I tend to enjoy the break. After a couple weeks though I miss being able to control my schedule and have extra money for the things I want so I always end up going back. I also feel I stick out like a sore thumb in everyday job environments no matter how nicely I dress and act. I love my platinum blonde hair and huge fake boobs too much to get rid of them, but in an office job they garner a lot of attention. I actually feel more disrespected by men in everyday jobs than I do at the strip club. At least in the strip club we both know I'm smarter than them - they may think otherwise at first, but the proof is in the fact I just got $1000 from them for dancing around for a couple hours. And regardless of intelligence, a lot of men view us in a "goddess" type way. In an office job, men's egos think they run the show and it is really repulsive. Maybe it's just me, who knows, but that's the experience I've had

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