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    I have gone with my wife to a few clubs, and of course the girls are there to make money, so they won't turn down a dance with a woman. But, some girls are obviously just not that into it, and it's just boring, even though I've seen them having tons of fun with guys earlier. Some girls get really fun and go under her skirt and grab her chest, you definitely know when the dancer likes women. The problem is, you never find out until after you pay. Is there some way to tell ahead of time? Can you just come out and say it, "hey are you bi? Do you really like women in real life." Too many lame dances that feel like a ripoff. For you dancers on here that actually enjoy dancing for women, do you go out of your way to tell female customers before they pay for a dance? I do realize that many female customers are...not a nice way to say it, but not pleasant to look at. That's not the issue here. She is VERY attractive, seriously. Not just saying that because I'm married to her. Also, not loud and obnoxious, or anything like that. She's super shy and quiet.

    Just for the record, we tip well, that's not the issue.
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    Yeah you can ask if the dancer is bi but she can lie and say she is even if she isn't. When i'm the club it's yes i'm bi, yes I love older men, no I don't mind if a man has some extra weight on him, and so on and so on. And you could get a really good dance from someone who doesnt like girls if they're good at faking it. Or a shitty dance from someone who is actually bi and just isnt feeling it. News flash: we're usually not attracted to the people we dance for even if they're the gender that we're interested in. I bet a lot of those girls you think "really like women" actually did not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Daniellaa View Post
    Yeah you can ask if the dancer is bi but she can lie and say she is even if she isn't. When i'm the club it's yes i'm bi, yes I love older men, no I don't mind if a man has some extra weight on him, and so on and so on. And you could get a really good dance from someone who doesnt like girls if they're good at faking it. Or a shitty dance from someone who is actually bi and just isnt feeling it. News flash: we're usually not attracted to the people we dance for even if they're the gender that we're interested in. I bet a lot of those girls you think "really like women" actually did not.
    Yeah, that makes sense. I assume that a huge part of this profession is the ability to be a good actor. And, really, if you are totally faking it, but make it REALLY convincing, that would be better than someone who is actually into it but not very good.

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    Default Re: How can you tell if a dancer REALLY likes girls?

    Dancers are sometimes hesitant to give really "fun" dances to women because it's not always clear what the boundaries are, i.e. is your wife REALLY into dances and wants a girl to go wild or is she just pretending she's okay with them and is gonna freak out etc. Be up front about what her boundaries (or lack of boundaries lol) may be and that makes things a lot easier for us.

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    Dancers are sometimes hesitant to give really "fun" dances to women because it's not always clear what the boundaries are, i.e. is your wife REALLY into dances and wants a girl to go wild or is she just pretending she's okay with them and is gonna freak out etc. Be up front about what her boundaries (or lack of boundaries lol) may be and that makes things a lot easier for us.
    That's a good idea. Makes sense to take the dancer aside and tell her she can do whatever she wants. My wife has no boundaries, even though it might not seem that way, because she appears to be shy. She is TOTALLY into it, though.

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    Yeah if your wife is shy that's probably the issue more so than whether the dancer is "really" into girls or not. When the man is the one doing all the talking it can def make it seem like his date isn't into it. Try having her be the one to approach the dancers.

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    ^Exactly - I was going to say that is your wife really that shy or is she just not into it and doing it to please you?? Im sure most dancers can pick up on when women are really bi themselves or they just doing the shit for shits n giggles/checks off bucket list/revenge on their dude or some other disingenuous reason.

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    if she really is that attractive, combined with her shyness, a lot of dancers might be intimidated. not much you can do about that. trying to force your wife to be more outgoing with the dancers is not a good idea for a lot of reasons.

    the only thing i can think of is to spend more time talking to the dancers before you jump into lap dances w/them. if they say they do like women, ask about the last time they were with a woman. ask some questions, offer a drink/tip and chat them up for a bit. you should be able to gauge how the dances will be by their responses and demeanor towards your wife. let them know she's shy but interested.

    i don't see the problem with asking flat out if the dancer likes women either, i get that question all the time and i usually ask most female customers i talk to. it's an important thing to discuss in that setting IMO especially if the woman/couple wants lap dances.

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    Default Re: How can you tell if a dancer REALLY likes girls?

    From my personal experience a small subset of women seem to think that their gender allows them free reign with a dancer. I've been with a few friends like that, and it is embarrassing to say the least. I'm sure once a dancer has experienced that, they might be somewhat cautious. I've also read, on here, that some female patrons are openly hostile, and that must be even worse.

    I might suggest getting to know a few dancers; once they know your wife can be trusted they may be more willing to turn on the chemistry.
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    Default Re: How can you tell if a dancer REALLY likes girls?

    As Daniellaa opined, the right question isn't whether a dancer REALLY likes girls. Putting the shoe on the other foot, how many dancers do we meet who prefer women, but still manage to dance well for men? Also, even heterosexual dancers will struggle to find a 400 lb slob with food stains on his shirt attractive, yet there are plenty who can still manage to give them good dances - at least after pushing their bellies off of their laps.

    IMHO the question you are really trying to answer is how to determine a dancer's comfort level with performing for a woman. Well, for starters, she approached you, which right there is a good sign as many dancers avoid female customers. From there, IMHO it is just trial and error, like it is with any customer buying dances from any dancer. If there is a sure fire way to truly tell, in advance, how good a dancer will perform in the back, I haven't come across it yet and I spend a shit ton of nights in clubs.

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    Wives and girlfriends are known to cockblock spending. Unless she was a former stripper and knows the deal. I won't entertain women bc of that, and they also think they can do whatever the fuck they want. Also, the stupid man will most likely ask if I wanna eat his woman's stank pussy out. Gross. No thx. That's two headaches in one.

    Just go to a swinger's club. It's more fun for couples there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    Wives and girlfriends are known to cockblock spending.
    Seriously. I went to a club one of my friends dances at on Saturday night, and brought along another friend (female). The entire time, my friend kept talking to me while I was trying to enjoy the show. I like to watch from a ways back, go tip a bit, chat with girls as they come and go, but not this time! Probably didn't help that my friend is very attractive, was dressed to the 9s in a tight blue dress. I finally had to say something about it. She didn't take that very well and ended up leaving, but as soon as she left, some dancers came over, we talked some, and the night got better.

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    Default Re: How can you tell if a dancer REALLY likes girls?

    What is your definition of a "lame and boring" dance? Because if it's just that the dancer isn't going up under your wife's skirt or grabbing her chest, maybe your standards are just off?

    I really like girls, but when I danced, I didn't give female customers anymore attention or free reign than I gave male customers. This would often result in women customers, who had gotten used to getting the "VIP" treatment with dancers sucking on their chest and shoving their pussies in their face, walking away from me with sour looks on their faces because I did the exact same thing for their dollar that I did for every other patron's dollar. It doesn't make a dancer "boring" or mean she's not really into girls - it's just strip club boundaries. Why should a female customer get any more bang for their buck than a male customer, just because "I really like girls?" I really like men too, but they have to follow all the rules.

    Even doing the dog and pony show for female customers doesn't mean a dancer is "really into girls" - it just means they know that that's what keeps female customers and their male counterparts happy, so they've adapted to that sort of behavior. You're not really asking "how do I know if a dancer is really into women," - you want to know "how do I know if dancer is going to provide some level of extras to my wife." And the only real answer to that, I suppose, is watch how touchy-feely a dancer is with her at stage or your table before going back for dances. If they're pulling out the stops for her dollar at stage, they'll probably do the same in the back.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Titus23 View Post
    Seriously. I went to a club one of my friends dances at on Saturday night, and brought along another friend (female). The entire time, my friend kept talking to me while I was trying to enjoy the show. I like to watch from a ways back, go tip a bit, chat with girls as they come and go, but not this time! Probably didn't help that my friend is very attractive, was dressed to the 9s in a tight blue dress. I finally had to say something about it. She didn't take that very well and ended up leaving, but as soon as she left, some dancers came over, we talked some, and the night got better.
    Why did you bring her then? You don't sound like a good "friend".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Titus23 View Post
    Seriously. I went to a club one of my friends dances at on Saturday night, and brought along another friend (female). The entire time, my friend kept talking to me while I was trying to enjoy the show. I like to watch from a ways back, go tip a bit, chat with girls as they come and go, but not this time! Probably didn't help that my friend is very attractive, was dressed to the 9s in a tight blue dress. I finally had to say something about it. She didn't take that very well and ended up leaving, but as soon as she left, some dancers came over, we talked some, and the night got better.
    she sounds like she needs to be the center of attention all the time. not the kind of woman you should bring to the strip club. i'm one of the few dancers who is usually down to dance for womenbut if they're all dressed up to be seen i stay away. some women are incapable of watching men fawn over other girls without feeling the need to compete. it's very annoying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    Why did you bring her then? You don't sound like a good "friend".
    She wanted to come meet the dancer I know. They hit it off, but my friend was a bit drunk, and she tends to very umm.. self-centered sounds bad, but definitely needs the focus on her. She's from LA and has lots of club experience back home. There's just so many times I can hear someone say "the dancers in LA are so much better" before I have to step in, you know?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    she sounds like she needs to be the center of attention all the time. not the kind of woman you should bring to the strip club. i'm one of the few dancers who is usually down to dance for womenbut if they're all dressed up to be seen i stay away. some women are incapable of watching men fawn over other girls without feeling the need to compete. it's very annoying.
    Yup. I've learned that's her to a tee. Still my best friend, but her taste in women and mine are very different, so I likely won't be inviting her along anymore. We can do other things instead.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thirteen View Post
    I have gone with my wife to a few clubs, and of course the girls are there to make money, so they won't turn down a dance with a woman. But, some girls are obviously just not that into it, and it's just boring, even though I've seen them having tons of fun with guys earlier. Some girls get really fun and go under her skirt and grab her chest, you definitely know when the dancer likes women. The problem is, you never find out until after you pay. Is there some way to tell ahead of time? Can you just come out and say it, "hey are you bi? Do you really like women in real life." Too many lame dances that feel like a ripoff. For you dancers on here that actually enjoy dancing for women, do you go out of your way to tell female customers before they pay for a dance? I do realize that many female customers are...not a nice way to say it, but not pleasant to look at. That's not the issue here. She is VERY attractive, seriously. Not just saying that because I'm married to her. Also, not loud and obnoxious, or anything like that. She's super shy and quiet.

    Just for the record, we tip well, that's not the issue.
    So you equate boring with a female respecting another's boundaries? Super shy & quiet usually are quiet capable of voicing what they want when they are comfortable with others. Which means ya'll going more often & spending lots of money getting to know a dancer or two.
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