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    Don't usually go to stripclubs but went in January (fourth time ever I think), a stripper asked me out. We've been going out to nice restaurants, and it's like a routine. We have not had sex, I usually have to drop her off at the club after our date. I pay for everything, she never initiates a date, except maybe at the start she did. I'm just starting to think she's seeing me so she can get selfies at nice restaurants?
    Sometime we message each other after the date and sometimes not, but I think that depends on how busy the club is. And she also wants to move to another country in July. I just think I need to bail out now? I can't tell if she's genuine in anyway. We only kiss on the lips when we say goodbye at the end of the night. We rarely snuggle. I just don't know what it is we have. We've done ten dates now. I kinda thought maybe she's just taking it slow to find out about me, but I really don't know. Just this week was weird, we met Thursday and Friday and had a great time, we met Saturday and she was kinda cold but I can't really tell what it is. She always says yes when I ask her out. Also at the start she said she wanted to settle down a bit more, and now she said she's completely changed her mind and she wants to party her whole life, so it might not even be anything I can do. Just until July do I still see her, I'm happy with her, I know she'll go away but I feel like being with her until then, but only if she actually likes being with me, I just can't tell. I just worry that she sees me like she sees her customers?

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    Default Re: Dating a stripper, is she just after going to nice restaurants?

    Ten dates and y'all haven't fucked? Idk what she's after, but it sounds like something other than romance. Is she a lesbian, bi, bi-curious? Maybe she's nervous about being with a woman if she hasn't before?

    I wouldn't put any more effort into seeing her. If she asks you out, cool--let her treat you or you can go dutch. Otherwise it sounds like you can let this relationship wither on the vine.

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    Oops sorry, I'm a guy.
    Dropping her off at the club sometimes messes it up, on a good night where we could be laughing loads, I have to take her to the club and call it a night

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    Quote Originally Posted by AriesJo View Post
    Oops sorry, I'm a guy.
    Dropping her off at the club sometimes messes it up, on a good night where we could be laughing loads, I have to take her to the club and call it a night
    PLEASE come back with a new account. You should have selected male/ blue ribbon not pink.

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    Default Re: Dating a stripper, is she just after going to nice restaurants?

    But I think you're right, I need to leave it, maybe give her some time to wonder where I've gone. not much else I can do I guess, just the whole thing is a little confusing (and frustrating).

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    Guys I've made a new account

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    Guys I've made a new account
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    Thanks guys, I think I just need to hear it and it will help me move on. I might add her on Facebook in three weeks time. Honestly I would have never asked her out, she asked me, I was shocked. She probably is just doing it for the selfies on FB.
    Well the other thing is she'd only been in town three weeks when I met her so I think she must have been lonely, but now she isn't. And not because she's met other people, I think she just wants to move away in July.

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    I've been spending a lot of time lately (she doesn't want me to call it dating) with a woman who has had a lot of relationship issues in her past. She struggles with trust in relationships because of the stuff she's been through, but has asked that I bear with it. Often, it feels a lot like you've described. When we're together we have fun, but it's almost always centered around going out to eat at nice places, or wandering around shopping. When we're not together, she's a lot more aloof, and harder to nail down. She's been upfront about it though, admitting that she feels really comfortable when we are physically together, but as soon as I leave, she puts her guard up because she's accustomed to abandonment and mistreatment.

    I guess, I say all of that to get to this point: If you think she's worth your time, talk to her about it. Be upfront and let her know your thoughts. Maybe she's similar to my friend. If so, and you want to make it last, just have patience. I can tell you that my relationship has been growing stronger every week. We're planning for her to come hang out in my neck of the woods soon, and there aren't many fancy places here! It'll test our ability to have fun when it's just us chilling, and no distractions.

    Either way, whichever you decide, I wish you luck!

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    Default Re: Dating a stripper, is she just after going to nice restaurants?

    Not everyone is going to be ready to get intimate right off the bat some people like to take it slow. Sometimes the best relationships start as friendships.

    Enjoying good food/dining experience is a great way to bond. If it's not breaking you financially maybe you can continue and see how things progress. But also consider that It's possible she just likes your companionship and dining out with you.

    If you want more intimacy maybe date other people at the same time and see who is a best fit for you.
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    Default Re: Dating a stripper, is she just after going to nice restaurants?

    Have you ever discussed this with her? Why don't you ask her if she has any interest in a more serious relationship, or if she's only interested in going out to dinner every once in a while?

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    Quote Originally Posted by KryptoniteJo View Post
    She probably is just doing it for the selfies on FB.
    unfortunately we are in a "do it for the 'gram" culture

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    unfortunately we are in a "do it for the 'gram" culture
    Or periscope. I didn't know what that was until I met my friend. Oh man.. she's on there all the damn time! Like, we're just driving around. What the heck is so interesting that you've got 600 people watching us??

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    Default Re: Dating a stripper, is she just after going to nice restaurants?

    It sounds like she doesn't see whatever it is that you have as anything serious. She might just enjoy your company but not want it to progress to more. You can either take it for what it is or choose to end things. No offense meant but the selfies at nice restaurants thing made me laugh. I would hope that this wouldn't be the case. I'd like to think that she hangs out with you because she likes to be around you, not just for selfie purposes. That seems so superficial but I suppose that could be possible, although honestly if I were in her shoes, I couldn't see myself putting forth any effort to give any guy my time soley for selfie reasons. I don't care to waste time on hanging out with anyone that I'm not interested in but maybe that's just me. Good luck.

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