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    Default This is not how this is supposed to work but..

    I feel like whenever I’m totally chill and “whatever, I have $ in the bank” and I’m just kinda sitting there serenely staring off into space, dudes will be flocking asking for dances and I don’t even need to hustle...
    But when I’m in “I need money and I need to hustle and be super sexy and aggressive, approach everyone and go in for the kill!!” mode and utilize every trick I’ve learned it’s like pulling teeth!!

    Almost like confident ice-princess where I give off the vibe “I know I’m hot , I dont need to beg for your attention, Someone else will be along” but nicer seems to work. Idk, I don’t feel like I come off desperate on the nights when I’m very “pro-active” but maybe I do?? Or is it that guys don’t wanna feel hustled and pressured (even though they in a stripclub, duh) or they feel like I don’t have an aloof air of mystery when I’m all up in their space?

    Does this happen to anyone else?
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    Default Re: This is not how this is supposed to work but..

    It's hard to hide desperation. Even if you think you aren't showing it you probably are. And it affects your decision making.

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    It's ye olde Law of Attraction.

    It happens to me all the time. If I do fierce makeup & methodically get ready for work all carefully, or am all excited to go in and hustle, I make "meh" money. It's always the nights I'm like "Ugh I said I was going so I'm going dammit" and throw on whatever is clean that I'm in demand all night.
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    Yea seriously, I wonder if it’s cause I’m more casual and relaxed or if it’s because It’s a “hard to get” thing in their minds (like how some of them go after the waitresses cause they seem more unattainable)?

    At this point in my career I find I’m super into analyzing what works and exactly why lol. I find it doesn’t help to ask men though cause it’s so subconscious and they have no idea why they like what they do most of the time

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    This happens to me EVERY WEEKEND. I hustle all week and feel like I struggle but then when my good friend who is traveling from five hours away comes in we are in a great mood, have just a few drinks, and mostly hang out having a good time with each other and the men just flock to us.
    I have actually TRIED to be in the "whatever" mood on purpose when she isn't here and it's worked too. I think when men feel like you "want to" be there or are totally in love with just partying they want to give you money vs the girls they can tell are hustling. And honestly sometimes I'll even feign being slightly tipsy when I've had zero to drink and that's works for me too. Just don't be a drunk mess ya know?

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    Default Re: This is not how this is supposed to work but..

    I've done the fake tipsy thing because I sometimes stumble in my heels because goddammit I'm klutsy but a lot of guys like the tipsy farce. Just be careful because some guys may try to take liberties if they think you're drunk or try to get you "more" drunk so just act ditzy but witty like "I may have had a few shots but come on! *giggle* Dances are no less than 10 dollars"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    It's ye olde Law of Attraction.

    It happens to me all the time. If I do fierce makeup & methodically get ready for work all carefully, or am all excited to go in and hustle, I make "meh" money. It's always the nights I'm like "Ugh I said I was going so I'm going dammit" and throw on whatever is clean that I'm in demand all night.
    Yassss law of attraction can be such a bitch sometimes.

    Guys can tell when you're desperate-you put off a different vibe. Best way to avoid this is to work a few extra days a month and keep your bank account padded. Save a small amount of money every shift you work even if it's literally like $10 just set it aside somewhere and don't spend it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by We had a rabbit like you View Post
    Yea seriously, I wonder if it’s cause I’m more casual and relaxed or if it’s because It’s a “hard to get” thing in their minds (like how some of them go after the waitresses cause they seem more unattainable)?

    At this point in my career I find I’m super into analyzing what works and exactly why lol. I find it doesn’t help to ask men though cause it’s so subconscious and they have no idea why they like what they do most of the time
    You'd be surprised there's a wealth of info you can find from certain customers. the customers who understand the game can be useful to talk to. Everyone knows what they like and don't like-they may not be sure why they do or don't but I've asked guys what attracted them to me and a lot of times I hear that they like my calm demeanor and that I'm not a "hustler" in the sense that I'm not so obvious about it. I've also been to strip clubs as a customer many times and that can be an eye opening experience.

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    Default Re: This is not how this is supposed to work but..

    Also, wanting money or being a super hustler can make you do things like speak quickly which is a big no. First of all you're not a used car salesman, second, they're too drunk or tired from working all day to keep up with your fast paced banter halft the time. Not feeling pressure to sell helps the customer set the pace.

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    Default Re: This is not how this is supposed to work but..

    I've had this same problem many times as well. But I agree with almost everyone, it's typically like that in life; if you really need something and might be impatient, it affects how you deal with others and would affect you in that sense.

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    Makes total sense to me. Desperate/urgent energy ends up repelling what you are trying to attract. The more chill you are, the more likely you will attract what you want/need.
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