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    Default WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    Seriously? Don't you realize 99% of us only want your money? How can anyone be so delusional? It's literally a stripper's job to flirt with customers to get them to spend money, why is that so difficult to understand?

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    Sometimes it's very easy to blur the lines between reality and fantasy.

    The mind is a powerful thing......

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    cuz we're just so damn convincing and sexy, and people tend to believe what they want to believe

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    looking at OP's other couple of posts i'm pretty sure they're a troll

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    I'm a troll because I don't have 100s of posts? I lurk more than posting. This thread was for customers anyway. No need to be so fucking rude.

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    Going to admit some rather personal stuff here, so here goes.. I don't go to clubs looking for a girlfriend. That said, I've been going to the same club (my first and only club) since January, and in that time, I've been asked out by two dancers, and received numbers (with real names, etc) from two others that wanted to get to know me better. Only one dancer that I've spent time with has not tried to continue contact outside the club (I don't spend time with very many). I do not pay for anything OTC. I'm not comfortable with the idea of coercing a woman to do something like that with me. If she's interested, great, I'm likely also interested. I'll pick up any drinks, all food, travel, hotels, whatever expenses. But I don't pay for anything special. Anything that has happened between us has been 100% consensual by both parties.

    I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm legally married. Keyword being legally. Marriage in my line of work provides certain benefits to my spouse that enable us to better care for our son. The "spark," if you will, is gone. We pretended otherwise for a long time, but have recently determined that yup, it's not there. But, divorce means she loses healthcare and access to facilities my son needs. Right now, that's not worth divorce. What that means for me though is that I cannot openly pursue the dating game. I can't go to bars, or go on Tinder, or anything like that. Like I said, I'm not looking for anything serious. Even if I was divorced, I don't think a monogamous lifestyle would work for me in the long-term. I believe people, with rare exception, fall in and out of love multiple times throughout their lives. I have no problem with short term monogamy, but don't know if I could ever find happiness with long-term monogamy.

    Where this leaves me is to seek companionship and intimacy in the only legal manner I can, gentleman's clubs. I go with the intent to have a good time, and that's it. The women are incredible and as Miss states, the lines between fantasy and reality often blur. If a dancer wants to spend time together, I'll likely say yes. I haven't said no to a date yet, and don't think I would say no in the future. But, I'm not looking.

    Hopefully that rambling mess made some semblance of sense.

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    I find that a lot of the customers that try to pick you up have a very dim view of women and the industry and extrapolate that to assume that ALL people share their views. Typically they feel a strip club is a "sure bet" for picking up a woman because we're obviously all single, as no man would "allow" his property to degrade themselves by doing such a thing as taking off their clothes for strangers. They are also positive that no women enjoy this job and that if offered any sort of way out we would immediately jump on it. Career strippers in their minds do not exist.

    And their motives are anything but altruistic. Since in their minds strippers are all trapped victims of the industry (drug addicts, desperate single mothers, people with no other options), if they become your escape from the industry, you're now stuck with them.

    Note that I (and coworkers) have dated awesome guys that were initially customers BUT the difference was they didn't show up at the club with the express goal of picking up a stripper, as captain-save-a-ho types do. These guys were just out for some fun and happened to find an actual connection.

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    I agree with the fantasy and reality being blurred as Miss a.p. said. I also think that sometimes these guys feel some kind of confidence boost because a pretty woman is paying attention to them, even if they're paying for her time. Some of them don't realize that without the financial aspect of their "relationship" she'd probably not be giving him the time of day. Occasionally it happens where there might be a real, emotional connection developed between a stripper and customer. That being said, I know some strippers who have ended up dating customers(myself included) but it almost always seems to end with the guy becoming jealous and/or angry that she won't quit her job for him, as if one can just suddenly give up your income source for them.

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    Actually, I understand what the Op is saying. Frankly, I have asked myself that same question as well. Not to be a downer, but I personally will never believe that customers who come into the club, cam site, or phone sex line looking a girlfriend is genuine. Usually, they build this illusion of emotional connections in their minds to soften the blow of not getting it back home. So, I vote to play up their illusions within reason and use it to your financial advantage.
    In addition, I doubt that there's a lot of genuine love connections between customers and sex industry workers. Maybe 5 percent tops! Also, I never befriended nor dated my clientele because I believe there must be barrier between real and fantasy. Nor has any of my sex industry friends decided to take customers to their real lives.That being said, just hustle them using the girlfriend experience, get their money, and leave your relationships at the club. If they become overly emotional, drop those customers and get some new ones.
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    I go because I lost my wife and hate dating. I have no real interest in daring anyone and this fantasy fills a need with no strings. I wouldn't date because it is not for me now, maybe later but I need another five years or so before I can enjoy being with a woman and hopefully connecting in a long term way. Clubs simply occupy my time when I travel, which I do a lot, and are fun places to talk to beautiful women with no expectations.

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    Quote Originally Posted by RUTROH View Post
    Clubs simply occupy my time when I travel, which I do a lot, and are fun places to talk to beautiful women with no expectations.
    This is totally me as well. Sometimes I have the energy to hang out with friends in South Korea or England or Germany or Philippines or Mozambique or California or Hawaii or Denmark <deep breath>
    and sometimes I just want to relax and and chill. If I'm in town for 3 days on a long haul flight I don't have time to coordinate lunch or "drinks" and sometimes because of jet lag it is hard to stay focused on remembering someone's kids, or their divorce, or their new job, etc. My employees always want to talk business, which is great when it's not at 2:30 in the morning.

    A lot of dancers are like mental artists - they can get you chilled out pretty quick

    As for why customers go looking for GFs in the club, two reasons:
    1. Everyone wants a hot GF, even if they already have one. I'm sure for dancers it is a blessing and a curse
    2. They haven't read the threads here
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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    I don't think that most customers go to clubs with the specific intention of finding a girlfriend. I do believe that some customers lose perspective once they are there, especially (1) younger guys and (2) older guys who are lonely and inexperienced with strip clubs. IMHO it is just hard for some guys to grasp that any person could fake affection and enthusiasm so convincingly.

    Now on the flip side, IME there are girls who love these types of customers as they are ripe for romance hustles, but I am guessing that you don't fall into this category, nor IMHO and IME do a majority of strippers. IMHO it takes a particular set of personality traits, along with a shit ton of patience, to run this hustle. But the handful of girls I've seen over the years who were masters at it made a killing doing it.

    Anyway, just my fwiw.

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    I wasn’t being rude just pointing out that it seems like you came here to bring up controversial topics and that’s it. But maybe you’re just venting in which case I do apologize. Sometimes guys from another board post here as girls to stir up shit. If you read their posts you’d see why it annoys me so much. It wouldn’t surprise me if one of those bitter types came here to ask us about rape and otc with customers and try to get us to talk about how much we hate men, since we’re such man hating rip-off-bitches to them. (Sorry, rant over). Anyways I rarely meet guys looking for a gf most of them really just want to fuck.. they say they wanna take you out and “get to know you” bc you’re different than other girls, but it’s b.s.

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    Don't look a gift house in the mouth. Those are the guys you'll wind up getting the most money from.
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    men are opportunists. they'll hit on you at the strip club, at the gym, at your grandma's funeral. they're genetically hardwired to chase tail.

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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    Majority of the time:

    I also don't think they are necessarily looking for a "girlfriend" but more so they are looking for PUSSY ..... free pussy. And maybe some money - see below.

    They do not like going to a place where women are in charge and having to pay for womens time.

    They are trying to reverse hustle the stripper. Convince her on the romance, the stability, the #relationshipgoals when in fact most the time these mfs just want some free nsa sex.

    They think since strippers are hot, take their clothes off for work, exude sensuality then they must be some Freak a leeks. And if they can pull a stripper out the club that means hot arm candy plus free sexual favors that other 'weak' men must pay for. It's all an ego boost for them and their dicks. It's a way for them to feel superior to other males and superior to the women (cause look - I made her guard go down so far she turned off the meter and opened her legs for me)

    They make books on how to pull strippers out the club and into their bedrooms - for free.

    The more manipulative men will take this a step further and make the dancer believe she is a gf to him but in actuality he convinces her to give her earnings to him (for protection, support, management, etc) and uses her for money ... aka pimp pretending to be a bf
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    Default Re: WHY do customers come to SCs looking for girlfriends?

    Never ever went to a SC looking for a girlfriend. I'm 67 so I just enjoy the fantasy, the flirting, and know the reality. Like the fact that a beautiful woman who is a whole lot younger than me would want to give me dances. I love it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sweet_Kimberly View Post
    Seriously? Don't you realize 99% of us only want your money? How can anyone be so delusional? It's literally a stripper's job to flirt with customers to get them to spend money, why is that so difficult to understand?
    Around the world it's pretty common for men to fall in love with sex workers and strippers. It happens all the time and it shouldn't be a surprise that a man falls for a woman who is accommodating and treats him well. Strip clubs are the only place where hot women will give a man the time of day so most guys in that setting are not even going to be thinking clearly and rationally anyway.

    That being said, it makes no difference if a woman plays the role of a sex worker or a wife because we pay money in exchange for a womans companionship either way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luckyguy09 View Post

    That being said, it makes no difference if a woman plays the role of a sex worker or a wife because we pay money in exchange for a womans companionship either way.
    I'd agree. However, (with the exception of the spoiled gf) I don't think men don't usually pay girlfriends. I actually created a thread about this and people jumped down my throat lol!

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    I'd agree. However, (with the exception of the spoiled gf) I don't think men don't usually pay girlfriends. I actually created a thread about this and people jumped down my throat lol!
    Yes and no. I don't pay for a girlfriends time or for anything specific, but I've always treated them to gifts and things. I'll pay a phone bill. Help with rent. I live taking a woman on a shopping spree. So, not paying them in the sense you implied, but certainly there's a significant financial element.

    Obviously, I'm not all men and may be an anomaly, but wanted to throw in my two cents.

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