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    Default Customers shopping for sugar babies: Always an annoyance?

    Of course the customer may be a broke scammer.

    But under the assumption that a customer can pay, say, 50% to 100% of your monthly income, would dancers be open to getting approached in a club setting? Or is it always an annoyance, similar to guys asking you out on unpaid dates? How often are you approached in a club?

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    Default Re: Customers shopping for sugar babies: Always an annoyance?

    I've only come across one legit offer in my entire career. Mind you I'm not looking for that nor do I run a "gfe" type hustle so I imagine those girls are more likely to come across that type of customer. I'm not looking for that but when the offer is a respectable amount I don't mind the ask. I've worked with several dancers who have converted generous regs into SDs so obviously others would be open to the idea.

    I would think that because dancers have a much higher starting income than the average girl just starting sugaring, so it's definitely not a place to come bargain hunt.

    As far as broke idiots offering ridiculous low-ball offers, often. Like, if you know an hour of VIP in a club costs $500, why on earth would you suggest $1000 a month as an appropriate amount for her to quit dancing? These are the same guys who refuse dances and tell you "If you came back to my hotel you'd make some REAL money" and then their idea of real money when you ask is like $200...

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    The problem with that is that so many guys these days are calling themselves sugar daddies without even understanding the whole sugar daddy concept. Being a sugar daddy isn't paying for her dinner and throwing a few dollars at her for her time. What's reasonable depends on the girl. For some of us, we get used to earning a certain amount or have a specific earning goal in mind. If what you offer doesn't at least match her typical earnings, it won't be worth it to her and will annoy her. I have had men approach me before and I've not found it to be worthwhile because it seems to me that they always want a lot for as little as possible. This isn't Mcdonald's value menu here. Some guys think that simply buying dinner and throwing $50 or $60 for my time is enough. That will just piss me off because I know that I could've earned at least 10 times more than that from working. If I usually earn $600+ a night, why would I want to waste my time for a measly $50? I think you'd better be careful in approaching any dancers for this.

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    i'm totally open to that if he's generous in the club. on the first meeting at least. i have zero reason to believe he can afford to pay that and wouldn't even think about seeing him OTC if he doesn't take me to VIP and spend money to show me he's serious. if he really likes me that much and has enough money to be a SD he should be able and willing to do that with no problem. i'm not saying he needs to become a regular or anything- trust me i'd rather not give part of the money to the club but i need to see if there's chemistry and make sure he isn't just a cheap S.A. type looking for an escort.


    but yeah guys who get like two dances and then tell me they want to be my "sugar daddy" are annoying. and very common.

    ETA: i can't speak for every girl but IMO if you can't afford to casually drop 1k at the club on a girl you have your eye on then you're not sugar daddy material. at least not to most strippers
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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post

    ETA: i can't speak for every girl but IMO if you can't afford to casually drop 1k at the club on a girl you have your eye on then you're not sugar daddy material. at least not to most strippers
    Makes sense -- but it could be used as a hustle to rinse $1K out of customer, without any intention of setting up an arrangement.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RichardF View Post
    Makes sense -- but it could be used as a hustle to rinse $1K out of customer, without any intention of setting up an arrangement.
    i see your point. but if you're really worried about dropping money and risking not "getting anything for it" the strip club isn't where you should be looking for sexual or romantic relationships/arrangements. why don't you want to use SA or meet girls at bars? or escorts?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RichardF View Post
    Makes sense -- but it could be used as a hustle to rinse $1K out of customer, without any intention of setting up an arrangement.
    And the same could be used as a hustle to rinse cheap sex out of strippers, without any intention of setting up an arrangement. You either have money like a REAL SD, or you don't.




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    Quote Originally Posted by kortneykay View Post
    And the same could be used as a hustle to rinse cheap sex out of strippers, without any intention of setting up an arrangement. You either have money like a REAL SD, or you don't.
    Agree that the hustle could go in either direction.

    Finding out whether someone has the resources and the intention of carrying through with an arrangement is almost always fraught with uncertainty, no matter what the setting. How would you know for sure? I suppose the customer could come in with a notarized copy of his brokerage statement, title to his house, and the keys to his Tesla Model S. But more likely a paid platonic date at a very nice restaurant would be my style. I personally wouldn't even consider $1K in the VIP and I could see where a customer like myself would be considered a time-waster.


    I did a search of this site using keyword "sugar baby" and came back with 19 pages and something like 500 posts. So the topic isn't new and presumably many dancers think about the prospect of getting a wealthy guy on the side.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RichardF View Post
    Agree that the hustle could go in either direction.

    Finding out whether someone has the resources and the intention of carrying through with an arrangement is almost always fraught with uncertainty, no matter what the setting. How would you know for sure? I suppose the customer could come in with a notarized copy of his brokerage statement, title to his house, and the keys to his Tesla Model S. But more likely a paid platonic date at a very nice restaurant would be my style. I personally wouldn't even consider $1K in the VIP and I could see where a customer like myself would be considered a time-waster.


    I did a search of this site using keyword "sugar baby" and came back with 19 pages and something like 500 posts. So the topic isn't new and presumably many dancers think about the prospect of getting a wealthy guy on the side.
    Waste of a thread asking rhetorical questions....
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Waste of a thread asking rhetorical questions....
    Well, the thread sure seems to annoy you. I did see that you reported me as a troll before editing your post.

    I guess the other 500 posts on sugaring were relevant, whereas mine was merely rhetorical. If I don't get banned I'll try harder in the future.




    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    i see your point. but if you're really worried about dropping money and risking not "getting anything for it" the strip club isn't where you should be looking for sexual or romantic relationships/arrangements. why don't you want to use SA or meet girls at bars? or escorts?
    Good point, and maybe strip clubs are the wrong place for sugaring. That was the purpose of the thread -- getting opinions from the dancers. It would be interesting know the percentage of dancers who have tried sugaring at least once?

    I do this for fun (not romance) and never with age-appropriate girls. I've had lots of success online. I would never dream of approaching someone much younger, out in the wild, for fear of being creepy. Strip clubs are middle ground where I feel more comfortable asking. I've had a handful of sugar-flings with dancers.

    Based on a small sample size, I get the feeling that the majority of dancers, who are not married or in a serious relationship, are open to sugaring if they get the right guy and (especially) the right offer. Undoubtedly it's annoying to a dancer trying to sell dances to a customer shopping for an SB.

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    It's not really annoying to me. Or at least not the most annoying thing a customer could do, not by a long shot lol. And I have met a couple of sugar daddy types in the club before (kind of like a hybrid between escorting and sugar baby-ing honestly) but at this point i've made enough connections in life and have enough guys that I can get money from that I turn down any offers to meet outside the club because it's not my favorite place to meet someone. I feel somewhat preyed on like guys who ask me to meet OTC are expecting me to do a lot for a little bit of money or they can screw me over because im a stripper. But yeah long story short-I wouldnt be annoyed but I wouldnt be interested, but there are lots of dancers who are.

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    If a customer really wants to shop for a SB itc, he is gonna drop some serious money on her and not bitch, huff and puff over vip and $$$$. No bullshitting around.

    REAL SDs give without hesitation. Aren't cheap, aren't offended when a girl ***gasps*** suggests what she wants, doesn't complain, etc.


    Real SD now a days are like a needle in a hay stack. These fake cheap fucks need to stop calling themselves SD. The shit I hear from girls about SD hunting is fkn ridiculous. So sick of hearing about these bargain hunters. Pathetic.

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    I have only had one legitimate SD who I met at the club and this guy was the real deal; a fcking WHALE! He showed me upfront he was serious by spending shit tons of money on me at the club every week and showing me his business website with his real name and everything. Unfortunately these guys don't come around much anymore. But if they did and propositioned me at the club, I would certainly take up the offer, as long as he could prove to me that he's legit. Otherwise, I get annoyed with all the posers and low balling wannabes who offer cheap meth whore rates lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by RichardF View Post
    interesting know the percentage of dancers who have tried sugaring at least once?
    i did something of the sort once and he was incredibly polite and generous the night we met at the club without expecting anything in return. if you do that, and your appearance and clothes and grooming habits showcase your supposed financial status.... the chances of the girl flaking on you are slim unless she's married or something but again.. if you wanna be scouting for SB's at the club, that's a risk you take. and if you can't afford to waste the money then don't try to be a "sugar daddy" at a strip club. js

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    Just a note - if you can't drop $1000USD on a favorite without worrying about it you will do yourself a financial disservice trying to be a sugar daddy. ITC you get attention by doing that 2 or 3 times and then ask the question. Dancer will let you know if they're cool with it, and every dancer will have gotten that question. I knew one would be dancer who lasted one night - even she got that offer several times during that one night.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    Just a note - if you can't drop $1000USD on a favorite without worrying about it you will do yourself a financial disservice trying to be a sugar daddy. ITC you get attention by doing that 2 or 3 times and then ask the question. Dancer will let you know if they're cool with it, and every dancer will have gotten that question. I knew one would be dancer who lasted one night - even she got that offer several times during that one night.
    Absolutely. $1K seems to be the magic number. That and what Girl Anachronism said about grooming. Doesn't matter how much cash you can throw around, if you're gross and nasty, the dancer will find someone else that throws just as much and takes care of themselves.

    I only spend big on a few dancers, but I take care of myself and spend a while prepping to go to the clubs. I treat the dancers with respect. As a result, when the dancers I'm there to see aren't around, their friends come over and hang out with me until they get there. Build a good reputation for yourself and that will go a LONG way.

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    I agree with the ladies who are saying you need to be financially generous and perhaps develop a relationship with the dancer first. I have gone on paid dinner dates with generous customers (and by generous, I mean much more than $1k ITC) but I wouldn't call that much of a SD/SB relationship, it's just a paid date that may or may not reoccur. What gets me into an arrangement is earning my trust on a personal and financial level. That is not going to happen for a one-time, measly 1k splurge at the SC -that's what drunk 20 y/olds do!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cede View Post
    ... -that's what drunk 20 y/olds do!
    Drunk 20-yr-old stripper doesn't sound so bad to me. And who am I to discriminate?

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    ^^She means the patron - although one has to smile at the content of her post. Don't worry, 1k a few times works just fine to get attention.
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    1k at my club isn’t even enough for three rooms, and I would receive about $600 after tipout. I’m not saying that I don’t appreciate customers that do several rooms, especially on a regular basis. But it’s not enough to prove to me that you have enough money/are generous enough to be a sugar daddy. Especially one, or a couple times.

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    That's great - you're earning well and your expectations are where they should be for you. Some SBs are 2000/m for two hours a month, some are 6000/m few dates, some are 10,000/m and some are 20,000/m. Everyone would like to be at the high end of every positive spectrum. We're discussing our own experiences and how they play out in a wide variety of clubs.

    Your opinion is important, and welcome. We assumed you might be mixing in a little hustle above, but if you're not, then we thank you for the straightforward answer and hope you'll tell us more about how you approach customers who show interest in you.
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    Lol, thanks for the mansplanation! I believe the OP was asking dancers for their prospective.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cede View Post
    Lol, thanks for the mansplanation! I believe the OP was asking dancers for their prospective.
    I was trying to compliment you - this is a customer area so if you want to get in a pissing match please take it elsewhere. OP asked, you answered, , I clarified, you responded, I responded, and now we've derailed the thread with our back and forth. I could delete the thread, but how 'bout you PM me if you want to battle and we leave this nice thread alone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    That's great - you're earning well and your expectations are where they should be for you. Some SBs are 2000/m for two hours a month, some are 6000/m few dates, some are 10,000/m and some are 20,000/m. Everyone would like to be at the high end of every positive spectrum. We're discussing our own experiences and how they play out in a wide variety of clubs.

    Your opinion is important, and welcome. We assumed you might be mixing in a little hustle above, but if you're not, then we thank you for the straightforward answer and hope you'll tell us more about how you approach customers who show interest in you.
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    I also want to throw in the idea here that being a sugar baby is a LOT more emotional labor than stripping (at least in my view) & I would expect a lot of strippers won't be interested unless the money was ridiculously good. Many girls aren't going to want to deal with that kind of long-term relationship, they would rather go wham-bam-thank-you-maam in the club for 4 hours & leave the guys at work. The boundaries often get blurry in SB relationships & before you know it, you're being hassled by the guy via text all day and night.

    Also, you don't specify if you are wanting sex to be part of the exchange or if this is strictly platonic? Cause that ups the price significantly in my mind.
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