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    I feel guilty; I have a vanilla job in the career I went to school for, my bosses treat me well and my pay is consistent due to being a salaried. I feel guilty because not everyone is lucky enough to have these things let alone be employed at all when I am, yet I miss dancing. I don’t miss men touching me or being rude or the inconsistent pay. But I miss being my own boss, I miss setting my own schedule, conducting myself however I want, the way dancing to music made me feel, I miss the fun times I did have (when things were good).

    I feel like I should be more grateful for what I have, and while I wouldn’t go back to club life (at this point I wouldn’t be in the right headspace)..I still miss aspects. Wanted to see anyone else that’s retired feels the way I do.

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    Default Re: Anyone miss dancing after retiring?

    Will be entering retirement in August, and I know I'm going to miss it terribly.

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    Default Re: Anyone miss dancing after retiring?

    Maybe find something comparable as a hobby? Bikini competitions are a lot of fun. Might be worth looking into to get a similar experience. Or pole dancing classes?

    There’s always a sense of loss even if change is for the better.
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    Default Re: Anyone miss dancing after retiring?

    I miss a lot about dancing, the vanilla world has been very hard for me, but that's probably because I have not found something I like. Im hoping that will change when I change jobs, but I will always miss the freedom and money of dancing and even the way people are in clubs, I have met some shady fucks in the vanilla world.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lovelydancer View Post
    I feel guilty; I have a vanilla job in the career I went to school for, my bosses treat me well and my pay is consistent due to being a salaried. I feel guilty because not everyone is lucky enough to have these things let alone be employed at all when I am, yet I miss dancing. I don’t miss men touching me or being rude or the inconsistent pay. But I miss being my own boss, I miss setting my own schedule, conducting myself however I want, the way dancing to music made me feel, I miss the fun times I did have (when things were good).

    I feel like I should be more grateful for what I have, and while I wouldn’t go back to club life (at this point I wouldn’t be in the right headspace)..I still miss aspects. Wanted to see anyone else that’s retired feels the way I do.

    Only thing I can say is maybe do some moonlighting to keep that entrepreneur spirit alive, keep a pole at home, etc.

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    YES. I missed it constantly during the seven years that I worked full-time in my vanilla job. Aside from the money, the independence and the crazy outfits that go along with stripping, I really missed the club environment. I just love strip clubs!

    Why don't you moonlight once a week or so? It will remind you of all the things you loved--and the things you hated--about dancing. Plus, it's always nice to not HAVE to make a certain amount during your shift. Dancing is so much more fun when the pressure is off.

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    I seem to think I’ll be happier if I get a vanilla job. My best friend keeps telling me that because she Christian. I’m glad you shared because I feel brainwashed into thinking if I quit dancing and get a vanilla job all my problems will go away. I’ve just heard that from so many people, but I think I’m like many of you guys. I’ll probably miss it a lot and realize the vanilla world isn’t everything I thought it would be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovelydancer View Post
    I feel guilty; I have a vanilla job in the career I went to school for, my bosses treat me well and my pay is consistent due to being a salaried. I feel guilty because not everyone is lucky enough to have these things let alone be employed at all when I am, yet I miss dancing. I don’t miss men touching me or being rude or the inconsistent pay. But I miss being my own boss, I miss setting my own schedule, conducting myself however I want, the way dancing to music made me feel, I miss the fun times I did have (when things were good).

    I feel like I should be more grateful for what I have, and while I wouldn’t go back to club life (at this point I wouldn’t be in the right headspace)..I still miss aspects. Wanted to see anyone else that’s retired feels the way I do.
    it boils down to how do you want to live your life.

    I thought I would retire for full time mainstream / non-adult affiliate marketing. went to a few events and realized I was doing myself a disservice by cutting my experience. lifestyle and income by not continuing to work as a webcam model. I cut off all activities in sex work that were damaging to my well being and sanity.

    The beauty of being able to create your own income on your own terms. is you get to decide which parts of your lifestyle you get to keep because they fit with your core values and vision for your life.

    I know for me I will keep working with webcam, and hopefully soon still be shooting some scenes. I know I do not want it to be my only source of income, but I also know that I can not live my life only making money in affiliate marketing even if the payout is higher to being an adult performer.

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    So I decided to take my first pole class today. I want to try this location out a few more times, but so far so good!!

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    Maybe find something comparable as a hobby? Bikini competitions are a lot of fun. Might be worth looking into to get a similar experience. Or pole dancing classes?

    There’s always a sense of loss even if change is for the better.

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    So I’ve been taking classes...and by no means are the classes bad or no fun. They help. I just feel like I lost part of me when I left club life. I feel guilty that I miss the good parts of it. I wish I could bartend or something a night or 2 a week. But my vanilla job is so demanding that I can’t.

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    I imagine it will feel like what any other person with a skill or talent will feel after they stop doing it, like an athlete who can't play, or a trader or real estate agent or lawyer who are unlicensed or unable to practice, blow to the ego and not getting the daily satisfaction of being good at a thing.

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    I’m not necessarily retired, but it’s been almost a year since I’ve last danced at a strip club. I’ve focused on other forms of sex work and I’m trying to find a club that is within my niche here, but I’m having a hard time getting hired. I definitely miss the fast money, the freedom of scheduling, and being your own boss. Something that the vanilla world does not offer lol

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    It’s been roughly 2.5 yrs since I stopped and it was hard initially, dancing was a part of my identity and I also missed my friends at the club, acting goofy and feeling sexy on stage. It really is addicting and hard to get go of but I knew that I had to start assimilating to vanilla life if I wanted to finish school and achieve my goals outside of the industry, one reason why it took me forever to finish school was because I kept prioritizing dancing and I also felt so detached from all my classmates that I was very stand offish never speaking or participating for fear that they would find me out or something. Over time it got easier because I can easily remember the shitty nights feeling absolutely drained by ugly dudes and pretending to care about whatever was coming out their mouth hole. Every once in awhile I’ll be thumbing through cash randomly and catch a whiff of that dollar smell it really makes you understand why some girls never leave it’s so addicting
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    I have quit several times saying to myself this time it's for good. But every time I get a job doing what I went to school to do I go a few months and I miss putting on my heels and thong. There are things that I don't miss,but all to soon I forget about that and find myself doing a private party or two and I'm right back in the club.

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    I havenít danced in almost three years, after nearly a decade dancing as my only job (and having danced off and on for seven years before that). Today, Iím becoming more established in my career (massage therapy), and I wonít lie-it feels amazing to be able to not just tell everyone I meet what I do, but how successful I am at my job. I quit dancing because I honestly couldnít take the comments, slaps, and propositions anymore-not to mention the toxic staff from the clubs (things changed a LOT since I first went onstage in 1999 at age 1.
    That being said, the only thing I miss is the money. Damn, do I miss that money!
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    Quote Originally Posted by sugartaste View Post
    I haven’t danced in almost three years, after nearly a decade dancing as my only job (and having danced off and on for seven years before that). Today, I’m becoming more established in my career (massage therapy), and I won’t lie-it feels amazing to be able to not just tell everyone I meet what I do, but how successful I am at my job. I quit dancing because I honestly couldn’t take the comments, slaps, and propositions anymore-not to mention the toxic staff from the clubs (things changed a LOT since I first went onstage in 1999 at age 1.
    That being said, the only thing I miss is the money. Damn, do I miss that money!
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    I’m back from the dead and resurrecting this thread, lol.

    I’m still in vanilla work. Tired a few different industries outside of the one I went to school for - don’t enjoy any of them. Which makes me miss dancing even more. I’m not naive about the bad money nights, the times when guys were shitty, or how downhill the industry has gotten, etc. Only reason I don’t moonlight or return period is my husband HATES the idea, and it creates stress between us. He’s empathetic to why I miss it (he really is, if he wasn’t I’d say so) - but he gets really worried about my safety and knows that 99% of the customers that we encounter are people at their worst, and refuses to support me putting myself in an unsafe environment. He also knows I’ve had customers in the past assault me, and while I’d like to think that I’m a relatively normal person, I’m aware that these situations have screwed with my head a little...so this adds to his concern.

    It leaves me torn. I love my husband. I truly do. And by no means do I want to make stripping a full time or long term career again. I just wish I could do it temporarily until I found a vanilla job that I was passionate about (at least 80% of the time, while being able to cover bills) without creating a stressful situation for our household.

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    Iím so glad you guys made this thread.

    Many of yíall have said what Iím already thinking. For me, I thought that after getting my medical degree and working full-time in the ďrealĒ world, everything would be perfect. Yet I sometimes miss dancing for similar reasons - making a ton of money fast, getting paid to party, dancing to the music I like. I also never considered what it would be like waiting every other week on a direct deposit with the taxes already taken out . I had to learn to spend more wisely. The money comes in more slowly but consistently. I have everything I need, but I still feel like I want more.

    At the same time, I canít bring myself to go back to the club. I just donít want to deal with the late nights, the managers who donít do shit but expect to get tipped out for everything, being on those long stage sets, or shitty guys who are rude and grabby. No more lap dances for losers. And the next guy who tries to touch me without my consent is getting kicked in the damn nuts.

    I havenít posted in years but itís been nice to revisit this board as ďretiree.Ē Good luck and Godspeed to all you ladies ✌🏻

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovelydancer View Post
    I just wish I could do it temporarily until I found a vanilla job that I was passionate about (at least 80% of the time, while being able to cover bills) without creating a stressful situation for our household.
    I've been retired for 7 years now and I hate my vanilla job, although it pays well. I danced for over a decade and it suited me until the industry changed as.sociwty changed and there just wasn't the same east money to be made. But I still miss ncounting my cash and the good girls I worked with and the fun times. I figure now it's just a part of my past (although quite well hidden) it's something to shock the nurses in the old folks home when the time comes and that's all. Now I'm.jist a regular person.

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    I often think about whether I'll really miss stripping once I hang it up. Being a stripper is what I used to identify as. Until recently, I thought I'd miss it. Not the creepers, the drama, the crazy custies and co-workers, or the gropers, but I think I'm very good at what I do and can't complain about the money I've made/make. It's been almost 10 years since I first climbed those stairs to that stage... From the beginning, I've had a ten year plan to exit when I turn 30. That'll be this September. Until this year I didn't think I'd really want to retire, but it's just getting harder and harder to stay motivated and want to work those late nights. Plus, my life has really changed for the better the last couple years, especially recently (not that I've had a bad life at all). Passive brag - I just finished my MBA this past December... and I will be starting a vanilla job that I really want and am excited about in July/August. And I really think I've found that someone special. Not saying I'm going to be waking down that aisle soon, but it's the first time in a long time the thought of it doesn't scare the crap out of me. Also, first time I've ever thought about hanging it up because of my significant other, not because I've been asked to in any way, but just because I don't really want to share "myself" with anyone else - if that makes sense...

    I don't know... This thread just hit home today.

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    I really enjoyed reading everyone's posts!

    It's so comforting to know I'm not the only one who feels this way! Even though I just quit stripping August, I already miss it. I take pole dancing classes and have a pole in my apartment. Even though pole dancing is one of my passions, it doesn't fill the void of being a stripper. Like what everyone else said, I miss the fast cash, making my own schedule, and dancing. I freaking loved counting my hundreds after a good night and organizing my twenties into neat piles. I definitely don't miss the perverts, getting irritated over bad nights, and drinking too much at work. Even though I just started my vanilla career, I feel pretty successful. My family and friends look up to me. I can afford my own spacious apartment and take occasional trips. But damn nothing compares to stripper money.

    I kinda feel like a failure if I went back to stripping because I worked so hard in school and at my career. Also, I drank a lot when I worked. If I go back, I know it might be a struggle for me to be sober. But unlike some of you ladies, I'm single and have absolutely no luck in the dating world. Sometimes I think that I should be getting paid to hang out with these guys. I feel like what I do on dates are the same thing I'd do in the club--flirt, dance, and have drinks, so I might as well get paid for it. I do really miss stripping though. Maybe just one night a week to pay off my student loans and buy a new car...

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    The only time I miss dancing is when I hear a good song lol. The other day I was folding laundry and ended up dancing by myself in the house. I had a lot of fun on stage and just dancing in general.

    Other than that I don't miss dancing. I don't miss the lifestyle or the customers. I now have a vanilla job and I just really enjoy the normal sleep schedule, the fact that it's taught me money management (that was a struggle while i danced since money just came and went so easily), and the fact that the question "what do you do" isn't such an awkward conversation anymore lol.

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