Hey ya'll - I need some advice on a situation that has been weighing on my mind since it happened. Maybe just some solidarity or a pep talk.
Here's some back info: I've been at my club for 2 years, never danced anywhere else but from what I've read and what I've heard about other clubs around my area, it's a relatively awesome club. Owners don't pry, managers don't reinforce schedules or snub us over money, they work with us if we need something, minimal drama in the dressing room or from customers. Needless to say, I've never had many complaints about the spot and would hate to leave this club and go to a diff one.
So last night I saw one of the co-managers, Mike, was kind of arguing with a woman at the bar. I didn't think anything of it. Five minutes later I see our bouncer, who's this giant dude man-handle her and push her down the hallway repeatedly until she fell to the ground. She was drunk and stumbling but managed to get to her feet when Mike kicked her and she fell again. They eventually got her out the door and a bunch of us girls were crowding around the front like WTF. One of the dancers took her shoes off and went out to beat this woman up. This bar manager looks at me and she goes, "THAT GIRL IS A FUCKING WHORE". I learned later that this woman was a street sex-worker and was trying to hustle in the club. When confronted by Mike who asked her to leave, she slapped him in the face which is what initially prompted our bouncer to push her out.
I've seen the bouncer lose his complete shit on dudes who are less powerful than him or don't actually pose a real threat to anyone. He does this especially when someone goes at Mike, it's this bro-y allegiance thing. I had never seen Mike lose his cool before, but I know Mike has PTSD and is just generally a simple white bro who tries to act like he doesn't have a soft heart but definitely does.
Anyway so here are my thoughts: One of the perks of my club is that i'm not exclusively competing with girls who do extras. My managers try to keep it that way. I also don't have to deal with the fear of police raids in this conservative ass place I live. Lots of clubs get shut down here, hence why my managers try to keep it clean. I understand that Mike was doing his job, and the bouncer was doing his job by protecting staff and the club. No one wants to do their job. On the other hand, I feel like they were completely abusing their power and were doing so even more because people don't believe full-service sex workers have human rights. I'm sad for this woman, who has no safe place to work especially in this post-FOSTA/SESTA environment. I'm also fuckin mad that I had to watch that senseless violence go down especially knowing that I benefit from it and am protected from that kind of violence for the most part.
So, I texted Mike tonight and told him this situation was bothering me and that I wanted to talk about it. He hasn't answered me probably because he internally knows he fucked up, but also because hes a Dude and doesn't wanna talk about feelings or whatever.
Ok- I'm gonna stop ranting now. What do yall think? Have you ever felt powerless in a situation like this? What would you do? How do you deal with witnessing shit like this and all the complicated shit around the work we do.



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