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    Every woman who has ever dealt with a controlling man just cringed. Do what so many of us wish we’d done sooner. Be the unicorn among us. Leave him girl, and wear your stripper heels when you do it.
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    Default Re: My boyfriend doesn't accept me as an adult industry worker. I need advice.

    I called out a really good friend of mine, several years ago, for being on the other side of this. Three words: it's a JOB.

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    He comstantly shames adult work. He says it is disgraceful, objectifying, and awful.
    Then what does he want to do with you? If he feels that way, then his goal shouldn't be to fuckin Pretty Woman someone up out of the industry and make them feel like trash all day long.

    Edit 2: good litmus test for dudes like this is ask them to change something about THEM that you're not into and they are, and see how badly they try to justify why their thing is "reasonable" or "logical" and so unlike your thing.

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    ^^^ Agreed!!! God all the years I wasted on piece of shit men. I don’t want to tell you young ladies what to do, but I hate seeing women mistreated by low lifes and wasting your TIME. These guys seek us out and then use our job against us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ifyouseekamy View Post
    ^^^ Agreed!!! God all the years I wasted on piece of shit men. I don’t want to tell you young ladies what to do, but I hate seeing women mistreated by low lifes and wasting your TIME. These guys seek us out and then use our job against us.
    Tbh they do. Narcissistic men seek out imperfect/unconventional women in order to make themselves feel better by emotionally abusing us into their standards.

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    Iím a guy, Iím a photographer and Iíve been around the industry forever.

    And Iím actually saying what Iím saying having nothing to do with the fact that you were a dancer or a dancer or did escorting do escorting jump off bridges naked whatever I donít care.

    Get away from this guy heís manipulative heís two faced he doesnít respect you

    he want you to be his little plaything. He wants to date the tiger and turn her into a house cat except what he wants the tiger.

    Has nothing to do with your dancing. Has everything to do with him being a douche bag get away

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    And make sure you give him a lifetime subscription to your website or you become a millionaire in the business LOL

    oh and by the way he’s OK knocking you up but not standing behind your decision if you want to keep the baby? This guy is wrong on so many levels

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    Get rid of him now.

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    He sounds manipulative and insecure. If not for your work heíd also find something else to complain about. Moving on will save you so much stress.
    YAS!!! He doesn't sound this way, he IS. We all know only certain men can really accept it. What bothers me, is that men are ok with dating you in the beginning as-is. Once they fall for you, they cannot control their jealousy and insecurities about it. They then take that out on US.

    Just out of curiosity, were you upfront with him in the beginning? Or did you tell him a few months down the road?

    I am dating a guy right now I just ranted about in the lounge. He frames his non acceptance of my job as him wanting me to have a better opportunity in the future and more security. He tells me "I should not tell people what I do until they get to know me as a person, then if they cannot accept me, forget about them" Stuff like that. He then went and told all of his friends what I do for a living. So he brags he is dating an industry worker, then tells me how to handle a situation that I have handled on my own accord for over a decade. I spoke to a good male friend about this. He said the dude cannot handle me as I am a hand full (in a good way) and this is his insecurity showing. Down the road, he will try to exercise more control over me. He told me that the guy may ultimately want me to show him what I am made of. Instead of giving into him, I should put him in his place. He may then gain some respect for me. I get where the guy is coming from, I have never really cared about what others have thought of my job so I am out of the closet for the most part. But, me telling people is my own decision. If I allow him to make my decisions for me, he will exercise more control. I have to put him in check before this gets more serious....or ultimately move on.

    It is not worth the stress in the relationship. As industry workers, our lives are already stressful enough. We don't need to come home from a stressful job only to have more conflict in our personal lives. Of course, men are going to get jealous and insecure though no matter what. It is in their nature to "protect" the women in their lives, but this could easily turn into "sheltering" and "controlling" There is a fine line and once it is crossed, if left unchecked they will believe this is ok.
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    Oh wait and let me guess? He is typical and predictable. He wants you out of the business for his own reasons, and you left, but when you asked him to support you in the process...

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    Be yourself and do what you want, person who really love you never would behave like this
    Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.

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