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    I am considering doing this in the future. I get a lot of webcam/phone requests for this, and I think this is something I would be very good at. In the past you could put up an ad, but I donít think that is the way to go now. I know domination is a gray area, Iíve also heard it is legal in nyc, but Iím not sure how true that is. Next year I plan to move out of my state, so Iím open minded to travel. I know many girls work in a dungeon, so I could consider that too, I have no idea how that would work as far as getting hired at one. Do younger or older women typically do better in this business? Do you make your clients sign any wavers first? Any feedback is appreciated, thanks.

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    I forwarded this to a homie of mine

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    Default Re: Becoming a dominatrix post fotsa/sesta

    Starting at a dungeon is a good idea. You can get a feel for how things work, before going out independtly on your own.
    Get some dominatrix style photos done and then start with a twitter account.

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    Does anyone work as a dominatrix in the Los Angeles area? And have a conventional career too? Can I pm you?
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    Honestly when this topic comes up I always think the bigger threat is getting involved with a sub who gets out of hand over time.

    There's a famous Domme in Seattle who explained how she deals with aggressive Vice Squads in her state. I'm not sure if her blog is still up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine22 View Post
    I am considering doing this in the future. I get a lot of webcam/phone requests for this, and I think this is something I would be very good at. In the past you could put up an ad, but I donít think that is the way to go now. I know domination is a gray area, Iíve also heard it is legal in nyc, but Iím not sure how true that is. Next year I plan to move out of my state, so Iím open minded to travel. I know many girls work in a dungeon, so I could consider that too, I have no idea how that would work as far as getting hired at one. Do younger or older women typically do better in this business? Do you make your clients sign any wavers first? Any feedback is appreciated, thanks.
    Getting some experience at a dungeon is not a bad idea especially if you find a domme to take you under her wing and show you the ropes (no pun intended) but I recommend moving away from that and going the route of doing it on your own as part of lifestyle, not as a pro domme. Youíd attract a different type of sub/slave and ultimately end up making a lot more than you would doing sessions. I have plenty of experience with both and I can tell you the guys seeking pro dommes are a lot different than the ones who seek woman who do it as part of lifestyle. There is more potential and benefit when you incorporate it as part of your lifestyle. All it takes is a couple loyal slaves dedicated to you and they should work with you on meeting any of your demands, including compensation/tribute. There is more consistency and longevity in this than there would be doing sessions. Iíve tried to explain this on another thread here but I donít think a lot of the woman here want to believe it. But you should have guidelines, rules, expectations, and consequences for your slaves that you are ready to enforce. That includes serious torture or eventually discarding them if they do not live up to them or become a hassle.

    Your slaves should also be willing to spend money to build out your dungeon and/or offer to be dominated, humiliated and tortured in videos you could use of sale on a personal website or clips store, if that is of interest to you. There is a lot of money to be made in this if itís done well. If you get to the point of having a live-in slave this truly be life changing as long it is a trusted slave who has proven your needs are more important than his own and more important than anything in the world for that matter. You can not underestimate the benefits from receiving all of your slaves income from his day job and also having a servant at your disposal 24/7 to do anything for you. Any slave worth living with should also be willing to accept be kept in chastity 24/7 and locked away in his room, a dungeon, a cage, etc. when he is not being utilized for work/service so he does not interfere with your privacy and life. That could mean he is there are set hours everyday/evening or simply upon your command.

    As far as the waiver, i have no advice on that if you were a pro domme. But as far as lifestyle,
    probably not necessary for part time slaves, but if you ever had a live-in slave i would make him sign off on consenting to "non-consensual slavery" so you can do whatever you want... train, condition and torture him has hard and mercilessly as you want until he genuinely fears you and learns to serve you to perfection. Believe it or not a contract/waiver also benefits the slave because he knows there is no alternatives or negotiating anything so he can more easily adjust accept a state of constant obedience, respect and worship of you. If you are concerned the wording "consenting to non-consensual slavery" is too aggressive in your waiver, than you can just say R.A.C.K instead which is Risk Aware Consensual Kink. That means he knows the risks with the arrangement and still willing to participate. Thats my 02, hope it helps.



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    Default Re: Becoming a dominatrix post fotsa/sesta

    Bumping for more feedback...a friend just asked me to help her get started as a pro domme. She wants me to help her with bookings/social media/advertising because she's not tech savvy. She's been active in the local fetish community for over a decade and has several years experience as a dancer. I think she'll do well once we get her set up with some listings, I'm just not sure where all to list her services.


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    Quote Originally Posted by AngelWithHorns View Post
    Bumping for more feedback...a friend just asked me to help her get started as a pro domme. She wants me to help her with bookings/social media/advertising because she's not tech savvy. She's been active in the local fetish community for over a decade and has several years experience as a dancer. I think she'll do well once we get her set up with some listings, I'm just not sure where all to list her services.
    She HAS to go over her state of residence's law books with a "fine tooth comb."

    In some areas any sort of private show that involves semi-sexual contact will attract the attention of local law enforcement. She has to be prepared for that.

    I know Twitter has an add on that is like the encryption app for Facebook. (I forget what it is called.) She might want to use that.
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    Angry Questions about Fosta/Sesta B.S.

    Okay,
    So I quit backpage 2 years before it was shut down because the guys were mostly against me screening them and wouldn't fill out any forms. And honestly, I was burnt out and didn't want to do it anymore. But I have been thinking of going the Dominatrix route lately. So, my question is this. I just looked to see if ero's was still up and they are. Is it a safe format, or has it been infiltrated by L.E. as well? Also, why was BP shut down, but Ero's is still up? I find Trump to be high-minded. I think the lower class sites were shutdown because of it. But that he left Ero's up for the wealthier "gentlemen" . ( I use that word sarcastically). And I believe that he has prolly used that site at one point, himself. Am I right to think this is more about wealth and position? Please respond to my questions. Especially the first ones. And Thank You

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyInWaiting View Post
    Okay,
    So I quit backpage 2 years before it was shut down because the guys were mostly against me screening them and wouldn't fill out any forms. And honestly, I was burnt out and didn't want to do it anymore. But I have been thinking of going the Dominatrix route lately. So, my question is this. I just looked to see if ero's was still up and they are. Is it a safe format, or has it been infiltrated by L.E. as well? Also, why was BP shut down, but Ero's is still up? I find Trump to be high-minded. I think the lower class sites were shutdown because of it. But that he left Ero's up for the wealthier "gentlemen" . ( I use that word sarcastically). And I believe that he has prolly used that site at one point, himself. Am I right to think this is more about wealth and position? Please respond to my questions. Especially the first ones. And Thank You
    Eros probably skirts the legal definition of anything that fosta/sesta qualifies as illegal.

    & Yes it's all about wealth, tax monies and power over people. However we're not allowed to have political arguments on this forum so all I can say is, carpe diem.....
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    Default Re: Questions about Fosta/Sesta B.S.

    I did notice however, that now the ads on ero's are no longer connected to websites. I have been out of the biz for quite some time due to burn out. And I honestly just am DISGUSTED by most men now. So, the Dominatrix route will be all I can stomach anymore. But as I'm also researching about it and the new laws.....I'm finding that many escorts etc. no longer have websites at all? Geez! This is bullshit! I mean, if I go into becoming a dominatrix, then how will I screen? Just email? Omg.....what a pain in the ass! So, nbody on ero's has websites now, except twitter- etc.?
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