
Originally Posted by
cyberstripper
I have an interesting observation about being in this business that I need to get off of my chest. I have been a dancer, cammer, model for over a decade. I provide a service for money.
Why is it that men/people who do not agree with what you do, or want you to "get out" of the business take on the mind set that all adult industry workers "rely on men for money" or that men are "taking care of us"?
We provide a service that is vital to society and provides repressed men an outlet to explore their fantasies in exchange for money. In other industries where people are independent contractors/self employed, workers are not told they are "relying on others for money" or that their clients are "taking care of them" think hair stylists, uber drivers, etc.
I have encountered a lot of people lately who want me to change, stating that I should not rely on others for money. I have also encountered a lot of people who insist that I must get another job with benefits, 401k, etc. for my future. To be honest, I could cam into retirement. I can get my own healthcare, IRA, etc.
Even our "white knight" customers do this. They want us to get out of the business, but they do not offer to help us out financially while we do so. We all have those customers who want us to leave the business for them, but they never offer any help along.
Me thinks this is coming from their own selfish/skewed mind set. Some people have issues with me being in the industry simply because they cannot cope with the fact that I entertain men for money. Others have accused me of gold digging and hustling them in my personal life for money when they made the choice to "spoil me" If I do ask for help, which is a huge blow to my ego if I have had a bad month, this has become peoples go-to. I must work a job that will only pay me less money, or I am hustling them. It is ridiculous.
So, if I get a normal job in which I will make even less money, are these people going to be there to bail me out when I can't support myself? I'm afraid not. Camming does have its up's and down's and I have been struggling lately, so when I open up to people about this, and ask for help....only to hear that they think I am hustling them and need to get out of this business, I don't believe that is a valid solution to my problems. Being accused of these things doesn't help either. I feel if they really wanted what is best for me and are truly concerned, they would offer to help me out with rent/bills until I can find a normal job. Ofc they offer their opinions of you and your work, but never really offer to help out.
In my own opinion, I feel they do this because they cannot accept me as is, it has nothing to do with them wanting what is best for me or my future. I am sure some of these people really do want what is best for me, but I made the choice to enter this industry for a reason. I work really hard and at the end of the day own a licensed business, pay taxes and have learned many valuable skills in business that will only help me in the future. I have always wanted to start my own non-adult business in the long run and camming/entertainment gave me the know how to one day accomplish this goal. Getting a "normal job" is not the only way out in other words. With all of my knowledge though, I do believe that I am not reaching my full potential. However, I do not look at this business as something that I must be in a hurry to "get out of" to have a semblance of a successful future. I think this "I must get out" mind set can be very self destructive as it makes you feel ashamed and that you are less-than because you are in a business that people do not agree with.
I also think that deep down, those who force this "you must get out and get a normal job" mind set on you are just envious that we have so much freedom and make a decent income without being a slave to the man. They also do not realize what a struggle it really is to walk this path, a majority of us alone with odds against us and those closest to us against us.
It is my bad also, for being so open about what I do for a living. I have never been the type to hide what I do, but for my own good I must start doing it so people no longer force their own one sided views on me about what I do for a living.
I am sure a lot of you ladies can relate. End rant.
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