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    It’s my first thread and I know I just joined today but I’ve been reading this forum for a long time and I’ve put many girls in different states onto the hustle tips from here. Thanks to everyone who participate in hustle hut

    Today im really hurt and burnt out from dancing and I really hope I can find some help here. I’ve been dancing almost 2 years and I just can not take the touching anymore. I have naturally big breasts and I am so SICK of customers taking it upon themselves to grab my chest. I observe other girls and from what I see most girls don’t get groped At all and the men seem to respect them. It’s affecting the money I make because I’m constantly comparing myself and my hustle on why they’re so good at getting money without being touched at all.

    Im very big into LOA and I just can’t figure out what it is about me attracting these disgusting men. It didn’t use to be like this and I work in a very upscale club! So I know it’s possible to make satisfying money while my body is being respected.

    Any tips that deter customers from touching are greatly appreciated

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    Default Re: Stop customers from touching / Burnout

    honestly ive had this problem aswell and before i do a dance i collect the money and my tip then tell them no touching tits and hold my tits while i do the dance. hold on to them suckers

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    Quote Originally Posted by nostalgie View Post
    honestly ive had this problem aswell and before i do a dance i collect the money and my tip then tell them no touching tits and hold my tits while i do the dance. hold on to them suckers

    Thank you! I see others girls doing it I’ll try it. I was always scared to explicitly say no touching because It kills the fantasy but I can’t take it anymore

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    How do you know those girls didn't explicitly tell them "No touching"?

    Seriously, if it's burning you out that bad, tell them no. If they try anyway, air dance.
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    I find LOA to be helpful and positive in some ways but I have a big problem with the idea that it’s somehow our fault if we attract shitty, lecherous creeps. It’s not really your fault. I don’t think it’s as helpful to frame it as some kind of vibe you’re giving off or something you’re doing wrong that’s making these guys interested in you. That said it is a good opportunity for you to practice setting firm boundaries and sticking to them, and there is good advice here already about collecting $ up front.
    I had a guy in VIP for half an hour recently. He wanted to do a 2nd half hour so I said OK and made him pay me up front again for the 2nd. I was SO GLAD I did because once the 2nd session started he tried to lick my nipples twice within less than 10 minutes. I gave him the one warning and the second time I just stood up, got dressed, and told him to GTFO.
    I have pretty large natural boobs too. Some guys are just gross about their fascination with them. That’s not within my control, nor is there anything wrong with my own vibe if I happen to attract those guys occasionally. The only thing I have control over is how to respond, which is by shutting that shit down ASAP. Usually I’m sweet about it but if they don’t listen I have no problem walking away from them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    How do you know those girls didn't explicitly tell them "No touching"?

    Seriously, if it's burning you out that bad, tell them no. If they try anyway, air dance.
    You’re absolutely right I have no idea what girls actually say to every customer so I should gbe tvout of my head about that.

    To answer the rest of your response I have no problem telling people no and to stop once they touch me. The point I may have failed to make is how to prevent them from touching me entirely without ruining the fantasy

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    How do you know those girls didn't explicitly tell them "No touching"?

    Seriously, if it's burning you out that bad, tell them no. If they try anyway, air dance.
    Yeah, I think if someone is going to behave poorly, you usually get a bad vibe when you talk to them on the floor. Most don't want to be a bad experience. I didn't mind touching, but I absolutely never, ever wanted some strangers mouth on me and I said as much very clearly when starting dances. If anyone ever tried it legitimately would startle me and I'd usually get an apology and extra good tip at the end. You can tell them rules when starting dances and still be cute and sexy about it.
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    Be firm. Tell them no. Pin their arms back as you say it, so they know you're not playing. Threaten to end the dance early if they continue. Three strikes and they're out, that's why you get the money upfront -- so you know you're not going to get ripped off and you can end the dance without a monetary loss if need be. I'm an avid believer and follower of LOA too but don't ever think you're somehow manifesting situations like this. You're always going to encounter slimy people who try to disregard your boundaries. Put them in their place.

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    OP, maybe you could try teaming up with your bouncers. Just explain how you're tired of getting grabbed on while giving dances, and tell them you'll tip them well at the end of the night if when if they see it, they can tell your customers "watch your hands sir" or whatever. Make security be the fun police instead of you. Usually once a customer is outed, and feels like they are being watched, they are less likely to continue trying anything. (still get your money up front just in case)

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    I often pretend I’m dancing for Paul Rudd (insert whatever hot guy) I tell them what they can touch, can’t touch, and then again what they can touch and praise them for following the rules...lol. I think keeping in fun and positive goes over well with most guys. I think after that, if they break the rules, they probably had no intention following them in the first place. What worked really well is saying “If you respect my rules, I’ll give you a really great dance!” Because it’s true and letting them know they will more if they do less.


    I really think when I’m worn down guys “know it” and take advantage of it. On days where I feel confident and I have the energy to be assertive, I don’t have half the problems.
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    Keep your distance from customers. Slap or guide their hand away. Look at them funny when they misbehave to make them feel guilty, then award good behavior. Or take a break from that club. And try other clubs, while finding another job or gig not having to deal with customers or people trying to violate your body when you get fed-up of it--
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    I too was blessed/cursed with a more than ample chest that sprouted and continued to grow at a very young age. One day I was the same as everyone else and 3 months later I was different. I was looked at different by everyone. I was treated differently than I was. I went from being a kid to q sexual object almost over night. I was made fun of,I was groped. I hated these things that now literally hung off of my chest. UNTIL I learned to use them to my advantage.

    Most of the places I have danced at I have always been the one that was the most endowed. In a room full of barely B's and store bought C's I stand out. It has been mentioned in this thread about ruining or killing the fantasy. What you have to remember is that we are a fantasy,an escape from reality for our customers. We are not in church,we are in a place where we take our clothes off and guys give us money for it. We are adult workers,we are sex workers.

    My advice is use your God given big titties to your advantage. Guys are going to touch, charge for it ! Tell them up front what is on the menu and what it costs. This has always at least curbed any unexpected touching for me,and when they do give the extra tip they get what they pay for. I know that is against the common theme of this site but I'm being real.

    If you get the reputation in the club for being uptight,or a ROB, guys will stay away from you and give their money to girls that give them what they are looking for . If you get paid for guys squeezing the girls now and then you win. If you can't get past that maybe a career change should be in the future.

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