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    Default Re: How do you guys overcome a little anxiety before starting your shift?

    Arriving early for my shift was always essential. It gave me more time to get ready in a quiet-ish dressing room. Having the back be full of girls who were loud, bitching about their personal lives and blasting crappy music without headphones does a number on my mood and my anxiety by extension. Lower house fee didn't hurt either, especially since I could always pay it on arrival and have it be one less thing to worry about.

    The other reason for getting in early -- more time to stretch and warm up on the side stage before having to actually perform. Pole dance in itself is my happy place and giving myself enough time to ease into it did wonders for my confidence.

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    Default Re: How do you guys overcome a little anxiety before starting your shift?

    I have prescribed anxiety medication that I take as needed. Are you diagnosed? Maybe something like that could help you.

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    I am not going to say it will help everyone with anxiety as we all take different medications, have different reactions to things, etc. But, I will tell you about my personal experience. I started out taking CBD for Sleeping issues at about 15mg per day taken during the evening, which it did help with. It doesn’t make you super tired like when you take a sleeping pill, but it takes the edge off of the difficulty of falling asleep(at least for me). For stress and anxiety it can be also very helpful so maybe you should try!

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    Default Re: How do you guys overcome a little anxiety before starting your shift?

    GYM could be the answer.

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    Default Re: How do you guys overcome a little anxiety before starting your shift?

    Taking coke for anxiety is like rubbing salt in a wound to relieve the pain!! It's dumping gasoline on the fire of your anxiety. Cocaine CAUSES your body to go into fight or flight. It's the best thing you would WANT to do if you WANT to make your anxiety WORSE.

    There is a whole wide world out there of other substances that perform the actual function you are seeking, rather than doing the complete opposite. I personally have had good results with passionflower tincture; it works on the GABA neurotransmitter pathways in the brain, just like xanax does. It takes the edge off just a bit, but being an herbal remedy, is very mild. I also have a prescription for an anti-anxiety medication for when it gets really bad.

    So if the yoga, deep breathing, positive affirmations and all that stuff just isn't enough (and believe me, I totally get it that it is sometimes not enough) for the love of GAWD and all that is holy, take something that is actually designed to relieve anxiety, not do the opposite.

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    Default Re: How do you guys overcome a little anxiety before starting your shift?

    I’m say this for my own benefit to remember this. But I learned the 1,2,3 process from Lisa A Romano. 1)accept your feelings 2)feel your feelings (don’t judge and say oh I shouldn’t feel anxious) 3) what can you control vs. what can’t you control.

    I think it’s just about self-care to do what you can do to to get the anxiety down, but I just have to say to myself “Just do it.” Like the Nike slogan. I can’t let my feelings be the boss of me. That’s for me personally. If my anxiety got to be the boss I’d never leave the house. That also takes practice of how to self regulate and when to put the gas on the pedal and when to put it on brake and do self-care.

    I agree get ready before and don’t hang out in dressing room as much as you can.

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    Default Re: How do you guys overcome a little anxiety before starting your shift?

    Quote Originally Posted by trustfundkiller View Post
    I used to have the same mentality regarding coke, and it was fear that saved me. I'm now too afraid of having a heart attack or getting something laced with fentanyl to even think about snorting a line. I realized that it made me feel more confident and put me into a better mood in general. For whatever reason, I never got addicted or began to use it outside the club. It sounds like your relationship with it is similar to how I used to be. It makes you feel good and helps you focus. But there are ways to achieve that effect without the drugs. I really pep myself up before my shift and I enjoy the process. I like to take my time and do my hair and makeup to perfection, I like to pick out accessories and outfits, I listen to music that makes me feel sexy and puts me in a good mood, I use positive affirmations and visualize how I'd like my shift to go. It helps me to do yoga and meditate before my shift (you might be rolling your eyes at this suggestion but try it before you knock it).

    Once I'm at the club I try to get that first dance as soon as possible. Once I've got 3 or so dances under my belt and I do a stage set, I'm in "stripper mode" and the rest of the night flows smoothly. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a shot or two while working, as long as you don't make it a daily habit.

    Another technique that helps me with my anxiety is called "breath of fire" which is a breathing technique practiced in yoga. When you feel panic set in you begin to quickly breathe in and out in short breaths as if you were hyperventilating. You're tricking your brain by leaning into the anxiety and burning through the reaction rather than trying to suppress it. Once your body exhausts the panic, you'll be able to breathe normally. When you're anxious you'll find that you aren't breathing at a relaxed, steady pace.

    All of this is such good advice. The “getting ready routine is something I do as well”. I always do it before I get to the club thou cuz sometimes the negative Nancys are out in full force in the dressing room and I do my best to avoid them killing my vibe. Focusing on goals and getting those first dances is key for sure!
    Adapt and Overcome.

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    Default Re: How do you guys overcome a little anxiety before starting your shift?

    probably "meeting a regular customer"
    autocorrect does that

    To warm up, if I don't see a regular around, I sit for a bit with a nerdy looking customer who is by himself.
    Even if he does not buy dances I do feel better starting my shift

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