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    Default EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    Oh my goodness, I need help.
    I've been living off of phone sex primarily for nearly 2 years now and have been
    living on my own for 6 months now [previously lived at my parents, rent free] and I am struggling so much.

    I used to love or at least like sex work but now I can't even stand to form sentences to say to the guys that call
    me on Niteflirt. Its so hard but I'm so gosh darned bored of it all. With that said, I'm not really in that much of a rush to
    stop working from home or for myself. I'm also not interested in moving back home, the situation there doesn't suit me and
    I genuinely love my new life, so don't want to go back to my old one.

    I am planning to quit sex work but im currently not financially there yet. These past 3-4 weeks have been the SLOWEST EVER!
    So freaking slow!!!
    I am at my wits end, and have zero motivation to even react appropriately. I'm also a student so between trying to
    motivate myself to study and work, study always wins out against work and I stay broke and sad.

    As a last resort, I've booked a day at a massage parlour (UK) but its been a hot while since I escorted and I'm feeling
    uncomfortable in my body (obese 400lbs) to even have sex. I don't mind it though cos it might be what i need right now in order
    to make ends meet while I figure shit out.

    To keep this short, I guess what I'm trying to say is that...

    1) I am experiencing sex work burnout. No motivation to do Phone sex. Always struggled with Camming and out of practice with escorting.
    2) I am too broke with zero savings so I have to stay in sex work to earn while i figure out what my next move is gonna be.
    3) I am aware of the side eggs like video clips, audio clips texting, by my burnout also extends to even these and I was never good at making
    clips anyway.

    Has anyone of you been in this position before? How did you deal with it?

    *I would like to add that I don't hate sex work and I genuinely believe that if I take time off from it for a few weeks or a month or so then
    I might come back refreshed and whoring happily again....but right now?....meh.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    I would work another 3 months and bust ass and then take time off. It's never a good thing to be burned out and not have any financial backing. That's how evictions happen, etc. Work through it until you can afford to take time off and then relax. At least then you'll not have to worry about bills and food.

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    You will have to find the motivation some where.

    Even if you seek professional help to over some those other issues, you will still need to get up and show up and work.

    You can stay broke and burn out with no savings no vision or plan for your future or you can focus on what matters most and get to work.

    Plus some personal development books help you have to pre-program your mindset to stay on track of your goals or sit in the whinny I am burned out and broke pattern.
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    Quote Originally Posted by naughtybustyteen View Post
    Oh my goodness, I need help.
    I've been living off of phone sex primarily for nearly 2 years now and have been
    living on my own for 6 months now [previously lived at my parents, rent free] and I am struggling so much.

    I used to love or at least like sex work but now I can't even stand to form sentences to say to the guys that call
    me on Niteflirt. Its so hard but I'm so gosh darned bored of it all. With that said, I'm not really in that much of a rush to
    stop working from home or for myself. I'm also not interested in moving back home, the situation there doesn't suit me and
    I genuinely love my new life, so don't want to go back to my old one.

    I am planning to quit sex work but im currently not financially there yet. These past 3-4 weeks have been the SLOWEST EVER!
    So freaking slow!!!
    I am at my wits end, and have zero motivation to even react appropriately. I'm also a student so between trying to
    motivate myself to study and work, study always wins out against work and I stay broke and sad.

    As a last resort, I've booked a day at a massage parlour (UK) but its been a hot while since I escorted and I'm feeling
    uncomfortable in my body (obese 400lbs) to even have sex. I don't mind it though cos it might be what i need right now in order
    to make ends meet while I figure shit out.

    To keep this short, I guess what I'm trying to say is that...

    1) I am experiencing sex work burnout. No motivation to do Phone sex. Always struggled with Camming and out of practice with escorting.
    2) I am too broke with zero savings so I have to stay in sex work to earn while i figure out what my next move is gonna be.
    3) I am aware of the side eggs like video clips, audio clips texting, by my burnout also extends to even these and I was never good at making
    clips anyway.

    Has anyone of you been in this position before? How did you deal with it?

    *I would like to add that I don't hate sex work and I genuinely believe that if I take time off from it for a few weeks or a month or so then
    I might come back refreshed and whoring happily again....but right now?....meh.
    I'm in the same boat but I legit hate sex work now. I'm just trying to bust ass and work through it. Stay focused and keep working. The burnout sucks, but being broke is worse.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    I've been through bad bouts of burnout + depression. It is hard when you're stressed with school, bills, and things are slow. I don't have any tricks for when it sucks except to power through it - it does get better. Change your pictures up, change your text, etc.

    Make sure you are taking some time for yourself, just an hour a day. Set a timer and give yourself that freedom. Something that you really enjoy doing and helps you unwind, even if it's just laying down and watching a tv show. With sex work it's easy to feel like we're always working - editing, social media, being 'on call' waiting for sales, etc.

    Also make sure you're getting proper sleep - that's helped me a lot with my mood and how I feel. I have trouble sleeping as it is, so I take extra strength melatonin and sleep like a baby every night on that stuff.


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    And I agree with the "what r u in the mood for" I want to say "well actually I want to go to bed but I need to pay my electric bill so lets just go pvt so I can fake being turned on by a close up of ur penis on ur cam and get this over with"

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    You need to switch your perception of mind from these broke ass cunts to the name of the game: the money. When you dirty talking and asking that dude to stroke his dick? Imagine you're telling that wallet to stroke the money out of it. When you try to orgasm, you orgasm to the thought of you swimming in cash. Imagine those dollars being the creepy ones moaning and groaning on the phone. It's the sound of money being put from their wallets in your bank account. Money money money... it feels disgusting and you burn out from sex work because quite frankly, these men ARE disgusting and thats why it's so easy for a woman to become 'dead in the eyes'. At least that's how I've been feeling these past couple weeks. I would love a real job but then I realize I won't be able to model, party, make more money, and do all the stuff I can do now despite these slow periods. So I drain as many cheap cunts as I can and reward my faithful, good spending regulars with love of abundance.

    Make goals. "3 more phone calls and I have a break with a bag of chips!" Go get some snacks/ cigars/ your little addictions from the store. Keep it moving. Keep thinking about that money. If you're concerned about your weight reward yourself with fruits, yogurts, nuts, hummus, whatever makes you feel healthier. Even walks outside once in a while. Don't forget to take eyes off screen for a little bit but work as many hours as you can on phone... and maybe also on cam.

    Which brings me to my next point. If I were you, I'd give camming another shot. I literally look like a pile of shit and yet I sit on the cam and do flashes and little chats here and there and I still make money. Try different sites if you need to and use up all the *new membership* periods to maximize your profit. If you decide you don't like it, get paid out by the cam companies and move onto it. If you're worried about haters, change it so only those who tip can talk to you and keep doing your phone calls. Even some money is good money

    If you can figure out how to slow/ change voice on video, you can actually record your sexy phone sex calls with customers and sell those as clips instead.

    At the end of the day, it's all in a frame of mind. Switch the frame of it and things will feel just a little bit better. Until you can make enough to get everything paid off and get another job doing something you like. Whatever you want.

    Hope all goes better for you.


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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    I've been there (very recently too) and still dip in & out of that feeling.
    How did I get out of it?

    1: Changed my hustle. Stopped doing the stuff I didn't like. Stopped dealing with the type of customers I don't like. Started charging my worth.

    2: Asked myself what is worse? For me this was, is it worse to stay broke, in debt & without life luxuries OR is it worse to log on today & hustle?
    Well obviously 1 feels worse.

    3: Recognise this ALWAYS feels worse on slow days/weeks. I bet your ass if you was bringing in $500+ a day you would be on cloud 9 and not even
    slightly wanting out. Which tells you it's a money problem, not a burnout problem. Increase the income is the only fix to that.

    4: Take care of yourself & your mind whilst you hustle through

    5: HAVE A GOAL....aimlessly earning money will for sure give you zero motivation. If you need to earn x amount a month to get by and then you need to know x amount you need to potentially get out of the industry (Even if you never do) and to know what you are going to do when you get out of the industry.
    Set the goal, have an aim and go for it.


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    The best advice I can give is to not think of this work as a burden. The second you start thinking its hard to do it, it becomes something you do not want to do. Change your perspective.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    how do I change my perspective overnight?

    I'm getting more and more depressed to the point where I can't bare to log on for phone sex, let alone
    cam or even show up for escorting.

    I'm so tired.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    Quote Originally Posted by naughtybustyteen View Post
    how do I change my perspective overnight?

    I'm getting more and more depressed to the point where I can't bare to log on for phone sex, let alone
    cam or even show up for escorting.

    I'm so tired.
    There are personal development books for everything, pick some and read them or get the audio books.

    or seek out some professional help from a psychotherapist or social worker who does counseling.

    https://www.betterhelp.com/

    There is so much we can post to give you suggestions but you will have to do something.

    If you really hate the work that much and can't even log on to make sure you make payout then maybe you need to find another line of work.
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    Quote Originally Posted by naughtybustyteen View Post
    how do I change my perspective overnight?

    I'm getting more and more depressed to the point where I can't bare to log on for phone sex, let alone
    cam or even show up for escorting.

    I'm so tired.
    If you knew tomorrow/overnight that you'd be evicted, would that snap you out of your depression/funk? Would you work hard today knowing that you could make up rent in ONE day to stop the eviction process? What about an accident or the internet/phone gets cut off and then you have no way of making money?

    You control you future. Decisions made today, while you're reading this will effect next week, perhaps even tomorrow's outcome. Right now, you may be feeling low, but your bills don't care nor does your landlord, stomach, etc. You MUST work. If you're not up for working, your bills must not be getting paid or near shutoff. In order to stop that from happening, you need to work, ask you parents for money, or find a sugar daddy to pay your bills.

    Deal with whatever is keeping you depressed, keeping you lazy, keeping you overweight, and sad and go after what you want in life. Either way, the choice is yours. You're not an infant any longer so reprogram your brain and stop wasting your life. We'd all like to veg out in bed all day but adults are responsible and you're on your own. Once you're on your own you have to parent yourself and take care of yourself, by yourself.

    As you have no back up funds, you cannot afford to slack off right now and you must change your mindset ASAP or you're going to find yourself in a shelter, on the streets, on someone's couch, or back at your parents house and fast. Shake it off, and grind and then take time off after you've earned it and won't be facing hardships. You really can't afford NOT to work. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kortneykay View Post
    If you knew tomorrow/overnight that you'd be evicted, would that snap you out of your depression/funk? Would you work hard today knowing that you could make up rent in ONE day to stop the eviction process? What about an accident or the internet/phone gets cut off and then you have no way of making money?

    You control you future. Decisions made today, while you're reading this will effect next week, perhaps even tomorrow's outcome. Right now, you may be feeling low, but your bills don't care nor does your landlord, stomach, etc. You MUST work. If you're not up for working, your bills must not be getting paid or near shutoff. In order to stop that from happening, you need to work, ask you parents for money, or find a sugar daddy to pay your bills.

    Deal with whatever is keeping you depressed, keeping you lazy, keeping you overweight, and sad and go after what you want in life. Either way, the choice is yours. You're not an infant any longer so reprogram your brain and stop wasting your life. We'd all like to veg out in bed all day but adults are responsible and you're on your own. Once you're on your own you have to parent yourself and take care of yourself, by yourself.

    As you have no back up funds, you cannot afford to slack off right now and you must change your mindset ASAP or you're going to find yourself in a shelter, on the streets, on someone's couch, or back at your parents house and fast. Shake it off, and grind and then take time off after you've earned it and won't be facing hardships. You really can't afford NOT to work. Good luck!

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    I don't know about anyone else....but ANY post you write on this forum gives me INSTANT motivation.
    You are that little reminder of the exact thing we all need reminding of from time to time.

    You say it rather politely in your posts but when I read it in my head I hear "Get off your damn ass and hustle before you are out on your ass on the street" LOL

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    I'm currently going through something similar. I've been depressed because it's slow. Since it's slow, it makes me not want to log in. This just makes me even more depressed and stressed in the end because I am not making any money by not logging on. Have you tried meditating? There are many free apps out there and youtube videos to help you meditate. I've started meditating the past week and I'm slowly feeling better and getting more motivated to log on and work. I meditate either when I first wake up or right before I go to bed. It has helped me to destress a bit.

    It may not change anything overnight but I think it can help you to feel better and hopefully start hustling again.

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    thanks so much guys for your encouragement...
    I'm feeling a lot better today and I'm thinking positive for
    the future.
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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    Glad you’re feeling positive!

    Burnout comes and goes. I would advise you not to push yourself too hard, but instead to focus on self-care. It doesn’t cost anything to go for a walk, exercise, do yoga, meditate. Make every part of your day as enjoyable as possible. Take a bath, watch favorite movies. Then log in and get work done. Set a timer and stick it out. Once you’re done working, don’t think about it until your next shift.

    I’ve been burned out to the point of serious health problems, so definitely pay attention to warning signs your body is giving you. Long term high stress is no bueno.

    It might also help to try some other lines of work. There are lots of recommendations on this forum for non-adult jobs.

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    I agree with seashell, just sounds like you’re sick of adult work and should try
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    The suggestions here are all things I've had to do during my periods of burnout. I had to stick with stripping when I didn't have a choice to quit when I was already beyond burnout, and it gave me health issues that i still deal with now that I just cam. I took a break from adult work the second I was able to when I entered a new relationship, and it was the first time I ever had the option to try a new job, and once I did, it helped a ton. I looked through these forums for job suggestions and I ended up getting hired and worked at the vanilla day job for a while and it helped with my self-esteem and confidence and only prepared me for when I decided I felt comfortable re-entering adult again. And definitely having the timers helps, and take time to care for yourself! I hope your burnout doesn't last long! It happens, and sometimes often depending on the worker.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    Here are some facts of your situation:

    1. You are working on anxiety-filled "tilt" - If you don't make cash, you will be broke
    2. You're working towards something other then sex-work by obtaining a higher education
    3. The "slowness" of the past couple of weeks can add to the anxiety-filled dread of SW.
    4. You're lacking a savings account
    5. The spark you once had for SW has dwindled over the years.


    I, like yourself, do not have a choice to just stop SW. For 4/6 years, I was working on "tilt" - I needed to make X amount of cash for X amount of time of else I'd be fucked. I was living day-to-day with...literally, dailypay.

    How did I escape the TILT?

    1. I took time off to relax my mind and body.
    2. I hustled HARD. Like, really hard, for about a year.
    3. I cut my expenses down in anyway I could. Stopped unnessecarily spending. Stopped getting coffee out. Didn't go out much. Rarely went shopping.
    4. I grew a savings account.
    5. I would dip into the savings account whenever there were great sales on food that I couldn't pass up. I used coupons. Bought in bulk. COOKED AT HOME. Saved so much in the long run doing this. This, to me, is making money.
    6. Budget budget budget budget budget
    7. Suck it up. Understand that your situation is NOT going to change without working at it. You have to work HARD at yourself too. Your mental health, your physical health - all of these factors add into your "burn."
    8. This job thrives on creative juices. Watch motivational videos. Delve into Law of attraction. Listen to funky music. Find something to get you GOING.
    9. Phone sex is one of those niches where you DO and DO NOT have a ton of freedom. I was a cam-worker for years. When I found phone sex, it was a literal GODSEND to get away from Cam. I had the freedom to earn $ in my PJ's in bed - but for my earnings to compete with my cam earnings, I have to leave my lines on all day. Set a schedule for yourself. Dedicate time TO the job and AWAY from the job.

    I wish you luck!
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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!! How to work when experiencing EXTREME BURNOUT? [PLEASE HELP]

    There are awesome tips in this thread already, but to add on, I've noticed that the best ways for me to avoid burnout were always tiny tweaks that I didn't realize would make such a tremendous difference until they did.

    Since you mentioned phone sex, the biggest thing that helped me avoid burnout on NiteFlirt was making my business as automated and text-based as possible. There are times when I love being on the phone, especially at a higher rate 'cause the coin is beautiful, but there are times when I just fucking hate it. So I hiked up my phone rate (it fluctuates but it never goes below $2.99/min.), made a good amount of PTV's, and started pushing for more chats and paid mails. Even before incorporating PTV's, I was shocked when I realized how much stress I wasn't under by not sleeping on chat and raising my phone rate to weed out soul-sucking callers.

    And I used to HATE camming. To think that I came into this industry thinking I'd be a token site superstar is laughable, honestly. I'd be wiped out after less than an hour on Streamate when I first started whether I made money or not. The emoting, dancing, forced smiling, ugh - it was all too much for me, not to mention the emotional drain of just waiting for a guy to spend. Smiling and saying hello and watching them instantly leave was just... blegh. Couldn't handle it. But I realized a few months ago that keeping my eyes out of the shot made sitting in free chat soooo much easier. Not only that but just not "performing" in free chat was a total game changer for me; I saved all of my energy for exclusives and they were awesome because I didn't waste it all out in free chat entertaining trolls. I went from only being able to last like, 30 minutes tops lol, to being able to sit for 12 hours if I really wanted to.

    With SM specifically, I also made sure that no matter what, I only got on cam in the early mornings. If I missed my 7am shift, I just didn't log on unless it was a Sunday since they were always pretty busy for me no matter what time I logged on. I have the most energy in the morning and when I have the most energy, I'm able to make the most money. So a schedule change can do great things as well.

    So yeah, I'd say my biggest game changers overall were changing my schedule, raising my rates (it's funny how phone-sex burnout can miraculously disappear when I get a call at $4.99/min. or higher lmao), and finding out the methods to conserve my energy in the most efficient ways possible.

    Energy conservation is something I think we can always utilize. Like I said, it blew my mind how many times I thought I was truly suffering from a "burnout" when in reality, I was just wasting way too much energy. So I'm constantly looking for ways to work smarter as opposed to harder.

    On the flip side, the emotional burnout of this industry is inevitable, in my opinion. There are times when it's insanely slow, content I worked extremely hard on flopped, or I end up dealing with one-too-many asshole clients and I just can't take it, especially when it's combined with issues in my personal life. There's really not much you can do about that aside from working through it if you must or giving into it by taking a break, but as others have said, if you're going to do that, you better have some savings to rely on while you recoup. I did this for most of August and it really helped, but my living situation allowed for it. Also, I made good use of that downtime by dedicating it to business consultation and heavily revamping my profiles, so I considered it an investment at the very least and I'd say it was well worth it to get back on my feet and onto the right track.

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    I feel the same. I whacked my prices up again to help me 'cope'. It feels so much better to do something you hate when you're getting paid REALLY well. I do primarily cam and even if i only get 10 mins paid chat per hour it's still awesome pay. So yeah, that's my advice. I started back on cam again in earnest 3 days ago so going through exactly the same feelings as you.




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    Quote Originally Posted by starburst View Post
    Here are some facts of your situation:

    1. You are working on anxiety-filled "tilt" - If you don't make cash, you will be broke
    2. You're working towards something other then sex-work by obtaining a higher education
    3. The "slowness" of the past couple of weeks can add to the anxiety-filled dread of SW.
    4. You're lacking a savings account
    5. The spark you once had for SW has dwindled over the years.


    I, like yourself, do not have a choice to just stop SW. For 4/6 years, I was working on "tilt" - I needed to make X amount of cash for X amount of time of else I'd be fucked. I was living day-to-day with...literally, dailypay.

    How did I escape the TILT?

    1. I took time off to relax my mind and body.
    2. I hustled HARD. Like, really hard, for about a year.
    3. I cut my expenses down in anyway I could. Stopped unnessecarily spending. Stopped getting coffee out. Didn't go out much. Rarely went shopping.
    4. I grew a savings account.
    5. I would dip into the savings account whenever there were great sales on food that I couldn't pass up. I used coupons. Bought in bulk. COOKED AT HOME. Saved so much in the long run doing this. This, to me, is making money.
    6. Budget budget budget budget budget
    7. Suck it up. Understand that your situation is NOT going to change without working at it. You have to work HARD at yourself too. Your mental health, your physical health - all of these factors add into your "burn."
    8. This job thrives on creative juices. Watch motivational videos. Delve into Law of attraction. Listen to funky music. Find something to get you GOING.
    9. Phone sex is one of those niches where you DO and DO NOT have a ton of freedom. I was a cam-worker for years. When I found phone sex, it was a literal GODSEND to get away from Cam. I had the freedom to earn $ in my PJ's in bed - but for my earnings to compete with my cam earnings, I have to leave my lines on all day. Set a schedule for yourself. Dedicate time TO the job and AWAY from the job.

    I wish you luck!
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    Quote Originally Posted by PrincessC View Post
    There are awesome tips in this thread already, but to add on, I've noticed that the best ways for me to avoid burnout were always tiny tweaks that I didn't realize would make such a tremendous difference until they did.

    Since you mentioned phone sex, the biggest thing that helped me avoid burnout on NiteFlirt was making my business as automated and text-based as possible. There are times when I love being on the phone, especially at a higher rate 'cause the coin is beautiful, but there are times when I just fucking hate it. So I hiked up my phone rate (it fluctuates but it never goes below $2.99/min.), made a good amount of PTV's, and started pushing for more chats and paid mails. Even before incorporating PTV's, I was shocked when I realized how much stress I wasn't under by not sleeping on chat and raising my phone rate to weed out soul-sucking callers.

    And I used to HATE camming. To think that I came into this industry thinking I'd be a token site superstar is laughable, honestly. I'd be wiped out after less than an hour on Streamate when I first started whether I made money or not. The emoting, dancing, forced smiling, ugh - it was all too much for me, not to mention the emotional drain of just waiting for a guy to spend. Smiling and saying hello and watching them instantly leave was just... blegh. Couldn't handle it. But I realized a few months ago that keeping my eyes out of the shot made sitting in free chat soooo much easier. Not only that but just not "performing" in free chat was a total game changer for me; I saved all of my energy for exclusives and they were awesome because I didn't waste it all out in free chat entertaining trolls. I went from only being able to last like, 30 minutes tops lol, to being able to sit for 12 hours if I really wanted to.

    With SM specifically, I also made sure that no matter what, I only got on cam in the early mornings. If I missed my 7am shift, I just didn't log on unless it was a Sunday since they were always pretty busy for me no matter what time I logged on. I have the most energy in the morning and when I have the most energy, I'm able to make the most money. So a schedule change can do great things as well.

    So yeah, I'd say my biggest game changers overall were changing my schedule, raising my rates (it's funny how phone-sex burnout can miraculously disappear when I get a call at $4.99/min. or higher lmao), and finding out the methods to conserve my energy in the most efficient ways possible.

    Energy conservation is something I think we can always utilize. Like I said, it blew my mind how many times I thought I was truly suffering from a "burnout" when in reality, I was just wasting way too much energy. So I'm constantly looking for ways to work smarter as opposed to harder.

    On the flip side, the emotional burnout of this industry is inevitable, in my opinion. There are times when it's insanely slow, content I worked extremely hard on flopped, or I end up dealing with one-too-many asshole clients and I just can't take it, especially when it's combined with issues in my personal life. There's really not much you can do about that aside from working through it if you must or giving into it by taking a break, but as others have said, if you're going to do that, you better have some savings to rely on while you recoup. I did this for most of August and it really helped, but my living situation allowed for it. Also, I made good use of that downtime by dedicating it to business consultation and heavily revamping my profiles, so I considered it an investment at the very least and I'd say it was well worth it to get back on my feet and onto the right track.
    I see you on NF and I love the whole look (you already know), had an awful day yesterday but im with family right now and I am feeling better.
    My depression is a struggle but I'm proud of myself for recovering as well as I did.
    When my exam is done, and this week is over, I'll start getting myself together as best as I can, I've decided to look into non SW jobs from home, but I know that I'm realistically
    1-2 years away from fully quitting...

    Its a process.
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