
Originally Posted by
beverly_worldshaker
Hi everyone!
I know this has been talked about before, but I went looking for advice on how to deal with parents getting involved in our work and couldn't find much. Anyway, I could use a little support & wisdom on the subject for my particular situation because I'm flustered as fuck.
So I've reestablished a relationship with my folks after 6 years, my dad is old and has cancer so I decided it was time. To clarify, my parents are dysfunctional beyond belief, were physically/emotionally abusive up until I stopped speaking to them. They're less abusive now, but my mom is still super manipulative & shitty and my dad is still a judgey patriarch lol. They recently decided to move to the same city as me after 10 years of being 1,000+ miles apart! My mom has little boundaries & has stalked me before and I know she's going to find out what I do. Both of my parents are super catholic and shame-y/sex negative people, they're not snobby conservative types though! They're more like sad christian rednecks so it's just a weird thing because it's not like I can reason with them on an intellectual or practical level.
I've been stripping for three years because it enabled me do pay for school while being involved in social justice work that pays very little. I'm proud of what I've accomplished and I'm proud of being a dancer and genuinely enjoy it.
So my folks are in town this week and I'm thinking that if they inquire more about my work, I'm going to be super casual and say I work at a titty bar. If they give me any shit I'm just going to take the funny approach and crack some joke about taking money from the rich to give myself an education and just mention that I'm really proud of having a job that has helped me achieve my goals etc.. I don't want to give them any reason to believe that they have a reason to be bothered by what I do.
Anyone been through this? It's just about being brave and not giving a fuck right?
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