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    I danced for a guy last night, we didn’t do vip or anything, just like $120 worth of dances maybe.. but it was dead- so I chilled with him for a while and we talked and I kinda cuddled him and stuff while he bought me a few drinks between dances. I made it pretty clear though that I was working and danced for other people here and there. I gave him my number.. but just my burner textfree number.


    Since last night he has left multiple voicemails and texted over 40 times about how we had a connection, how I held him please remember, that he’s sorry he offered to drive me home bc he didn’t really wanna hook up, how he met me at the right time and we are meant to be, we are so alike and I made him feel so special, please respond, please forgive him for texting so muchsending me selfies.. begging and pleading. Etc etc. WTFFFFF DO I DO/SAY I’m so freaked out!! I’ve encountered weirdos but never anyone this psycho. I don’t wanna set him off like is he gonna kill me and wear my skin??

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    Say nothing. Do NOT respond in any way, shape or form. 99% of these guys get over it or latch onto someone who will reciprocate.

    ETA: Do keep your eyes open for a little while. Pay attention to who's around when you're leaving, make sure you're not being followed, etc. The chances of anything happening are slim, but it never hurts to be aware anyway.


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    Girllllll be thankful it's your burner number! I agree with the above poster. Don't reciprocate because any text back is going to fuel him and encourage him to keep texting you. Just be aware of your surroundings and make sure he's not waiting for you in the parking lot.

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    OMG Arachronism, I'm glad you're ok!

    I'm personally would meditate and focus on other things that make you happy.

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    If you're at a club that would have your back, maybe let them know that this guy is harassing you and let them run interference. I understand not every club is going to be so supportive, but it can't hurt to ask. Sounds like he sent you pics, so that covers any 'Well, we don't know what he looks like so we can't help you' nonsense. At the very least you can hopefully keep him out of your way while you're at work. Have a bouncer walk you to your car, if you're not already doing it. Two pairs of eyes are always better than one.

    Block him if you can, and save all of his communications in case he escalates and you need to take legal action. Agree with the others who have said to not engage him further.

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    ^ May want to take an uber to the club for a few times ( even if you park your own a couple miles away ).

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    I would ignore him too. But if you would feel better by responding in some way, you can text back and say its a wrong number and you have no idea who is the person he is trying to reach.

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    ^^^ I wouldn’t even say wrong number. Girl let him think it’s fake. So cray cray. Use your gut and do whatever you need to do to feel safe. I hope everything’s okay
    Last edited by Ifyouseekamy; 10-28-2018 at 04:56 AM.

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    Thank you guys. I will keep the messages so I have text and photo proof if I need it. Right before I made this thread I already texted him very bluntly “please leave me alone” but that’s all I said. He messaged me a few times after that but then stopped finally.

    So glad it was my burner number. Occasionally I’ll let my guard down and give out my real # to good spenders but now I will neverrrr do that again

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    Thank you guys. I will keep the messages so I have text and photo proof if I need it. Right before I made this thread I already texted him very bluntly “please leave me alone” but that’s all I said. He messaged me a few times after that but then stopped finally.

    So glad it was my burner number. Occasionally I’ll let my guard down and give out my real # to good spenders but now I will neverrrr do that again
    Yeah, don't respond. He sounds like at the very least trouble, or someone who will stalk you for a while. Yikes....

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    I just got rid of a guy like this! I could tell right away he was kind of a psycho, so I was extremely distant and cold to him. I would respond to him in one word sentences and speak in very vulgar, unrefined ways to turn him off and kill the fantasy for him. I didn’t add any fuel to his fire or engage with him at all, I would only respond to him coldly and vaguely when he texted me and most times I would just ignore him completely. I didn’t give his obsession any room to grow and eventually he lost interest. I was lucky! With this guy, just ignore him and block his number but save his texts and pics and tell someone you trust about him in the unlikely event that things escalate with him. If you’re able to tell your club about him, I would do so.

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    How are you doing? Has everything blown over?

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    Ugh, so sorry you've gotta deal with this. I would, while still keeping the texts and million VMs, block him from your burner phone. If you drive to work, maybe mix up your routine? Hopefully, you have a cooler manager you can give a heads up to about the matter. I've definitely been there. While you should be cautious and careful, I'm gonna try to make you feel better: of all the times I've had this happen, only two guys have gone a bit nuttier-and were QUICKLY put in their place by management and none have gotten violent.
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    Quote Originally Posted by allthatglitters View Post
    How are you doing? Has everything blown over?
    i think so, idk. i haven't been back to that club yet, it's not really my main club so i don't go there very often. my guess is he'll be there on friday hoping i'm working since he met me last friday. then hopefully when i'm not there he'll give up and move on

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    i think so, idk. i haven't been back to that club yet, it's not really my main club so i don't go there very often. my guess is he'll be there on friday hoping i'm working since he met me last friday. then hopefully when i'm not there he'll give up and move on
    I hope so as well. I changed towns to get away from a stalker. I hope it gets better for you. Hell, maybe the new club will be more profitable, on your time away!

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    sorry, guess this is my venting thread now for this thing.. ugh. i'm already having a really shitty day and now this psycho starts texting me again, asking if i'm "still mad" and asking to come see me "wherever i am" tomorrow (friday as predicted he'd be lurking) so he can "buy dances and drinks and apologize and make it up to me"

    i shit you not, the only thing i've said back to him is that one single text to leave me alone. this is madness. i can't remember if i mentioned to him which other club i work at but thank god they have amazing security there bc i do plan on working tomorrow night. must've said something about working at multiple places otherwise he wouldn't have said "wherever you are". ?? i almost went into work tonight at the club where i met him, but stayed home because i'm too upset to work. now on top of my personal shit, i'm getting more crazy shit coming at me from someone i don't even KNOW. this sucks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    sorry, guess this is my venting thread now for this thing.. ugh. i'm already having a really shitty day and now this psycho starts texting me again, asking if i'm "still mad" and asking to come see me "wherever i am" tomorrow (friday as predicted he'd be lurking) so he can "buy dances and drinks and apologize and make it up to me"

    i shit you not, the only thing i've said back to him is that one single text to leave me alone. this is madness. i can't remember if i mentioned to him which other club i work at but thank god they have amazing security there bc i do plan on working tomorrow night. must've said something about working at multiple places otherwise he wouldn't have said "wherever you are". ?? i almost went into work tonight at the club where i met him, but stayed home because i'm too upset to work. now on top of my personal shit, i'm getting more crazy shit coming at me from someone i don't even KNOW. this sucks.
    I wish I could kick him in the balls for you. Save your texts and stay safe.

    I was dealing with some triggering people at work-not the same as dealing with a stalker -but when I’m already emotionally bankrupt the last thing I want to do is go to work knowing I have to deal with that shit. Sucks. I hate feeling unsafe.

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