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    Im kind of new and when i started doing lap dances i didnt grind and just danced, but one of the staff told me to grind, i also did a few VIPS and i let him dry hump me and touch my boobs and butt is this normal? what are you supposed to do in vip?

    their was also this one handsome customer i gave him a fast peck on the lips and i will never do that again but the bouncer told me some girls make out and get touched. The customers get mad when you dont let them touch or you dont grind and it pisses me because they smell like straight shit.

    how far is a VIP supposed to go? am i supposed to let the customer dry hump and grab on me?
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    Default Re: Is this normal in a upscale club?

    I don’t work in clubs without cameras and security and management at least attempting to keep everything at the club legal. I’ve worked in mid tier clubs and they always been clean.

    I do notice more rich out of town pricks that talk a big game about the strip clubs “where I’m from they get down BS”. Some upscale guys from big cities get really mad at me because I don’t suck and fuck in the VIP, or upscale guys are amazing gentlemen that tip graciously. It’s 50/50
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    Default Re: Is this normal in a upscale club?

    No staff member is suppose to tell you how to work customers.

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    Grinding during a lap dance is pretty normal, at least from my understanding. Touching of boobs and butt is also normal. I'm pretty sure that under most city ordinances, this touching would qualify as prostitution but it's not enforced. Since prostitution is illegal in the US, as a dancer, you get to be a cross between an actual dancer-dancer and a prostitute. I think in countries where prostitution is legal, there are only air dances. Touching of vagina, anus, or sexual services are NOT normal. Depending on what city you are in, guys may expect to fondle you in a sexual way and yes, that is normal too especially in nude clubs. Personally, I do not think kissing should ever happen in a strip club. Also, unless you are working in a brothel masquerading as a strip club where you are provided with 100% protection from the police and unruly customers, you should not be doing anything beyond grinding and two-way mutual touching of body, just not crotch or lips. Maybe the management went a little overboard in telling you how to do your job, but to tell you the truth, no customer nowadays is going into vip to get an air-dance and conversation over bubbles. Touching is expected. However, I would not work in an environment where your boundaries are pushed or flat-out violated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beautifulflower View Post
    Im kind of new and when i started doing lap dances i didnt grind and just danced, but one of the staff told me to grind, i also did a few VIPS and i let him dry hump me and touch my boobs and butt is this normal? what are you supposed to do in vip?

    their was also this one handsome customer i gave him a fast peck on the lips and i will never do that again but the bouncer told me some girls make out and get touched. The customers get mad when you dont let them touch or you dont grind and it pisses me because they smell like straight shit.

    how far is a VIP supposed to go? am i supposed to let the customer dry hump and grab on me?


    VIP is TIME ONLY. You are under NO obligation what so ever to do anything you don't want to do, if you are back there with a dirty customer, frankly you should be paid upfront and if he makes you uncomfortable you have every right to leave and cut the time short. Management and the club should defend you if a customer complains about that, and if they do not, you can file a law suit. Seriously, use dancing FOR GOOD. use it to STRENGTHEN your boundaries, NOT lose them. Use it to invest your money, not live on artificial income.

    If you notice a lot of customers are dirty that want to go to VIP just start having them "buy you off stage rotation" on the floor and have them just pay by the hour for your time only ($3-500) and if they want to get a few dances thats fine. Do not put yourself in compromising positions. This is the beauty of dancing.. YOU control the energy you choose to entertain.

    I've had customers want to make out before and I just say I don't do that, sometimes they will leave and other times they will respect your boundary. But its up to YOU to have a boundary. In the 4-5 yrs I've been dancing and a top earner, I never grind in my dances, I do more talking honestly and VIP is usually for conversation and some dances as well. I use dances as more of a way to show off my body to the customer and be sensual, I try and connect in a more loving way with customer, not sexual.

    Don't mentally fuck yourself up in this industry, and f*ck whatever advice the bouncer or manager give you they don't know shit.
    Good luck.

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    ^^^ Amen. Your emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being is the most important thing. You should never compromise your well being.

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