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    Default Seasonal Depression and Limiting Beliefs

    So to preface this, I have been in therapy for a year and I spend a good deal of time processing the source of my depression and working through those things. I am on a low dose anti-depression medication and I have other goals and side projects going on in my life at the moment. Everything else is solid in my life at the moment.

    Okay now to get into it. The biggest issue for me is actually getting to work in the winter. Once I'm there I'm 100% fine and in hustle mode. I used to work in Ohio with the ridiculous frigid weather so I always heard the constant feedback of "It's always bad season in the winter." "Store your money away for the holiday season." and "Only work the weekends during the winter, that's the only good money." These are my limiting beliefs still even though now I work in Vegas. It does get a little colder in the winter here and it is considered dead season to most Vegas girls until Convention Season starting in January. I personally still think the money is good here and it has been for me so far because tourist customers are awesome. Trying to replace all those bad beliefs with "When I go to work I will make money." But then my depression comes in the second the sun sets (at like 4pm now) and says: Don't leave to go to work because you're so comfy and warm at home, okay time to cry now!!, and my personal fav: just stay poor because you don't really need the money just don't spend your savings on anything but rent and you're fine.

    AHHHH!!! This is holding me back so much and the two are intertwined. I'll make ultimatums with myself like buying myself something I've wanted when I go in and then typically feeling guilty later. But lately it's just been so hard to get in sexy mode when my depression gets the best of me and my beliefs about how bad money is in the winter. This may just be burn-out but I know the second it gets warmer out, I don't act like this towards work or myself. I know it's just seasonal depression and it sucks because I do want to work, it just feels impossible some days. Do any of you have experience with this and any advice? Thanks!!

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    Me too.

    I got a sunlight bulb from Amazon makes my apartment feel bright.

    I practice opposite action It’s DBT skill. A lot of times I have to practice opposite action because my depression makes me feel like not doing anything.

    Honestly, just writing my goals down for the month helps. I write my bills out on a dry erase board from most important (basic needs) to least important. That keeps me going when I’d rather just stay home. Having a goal of working 3-4 days is important for me.

    I just try to focus on my self care. I think of going to work as “financial self care” makes it sound like it’s loving action step in my recovery program instead of just thinking of it as plain old, ugly WORK.

    i often feel better when I work. I remind myself I will be a lot more depressed if I’m broke. Once I’m there I would rather work than sit in the dressing room. It’s like going to the gym-if I just put my work out clothes on and get to the gym then I’ve won half the battle.

    i hope that was helpful and I’m glad you posted because I needed to remind myself of this.

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    Do you have the bright lamp for treatment ? I have one . It makes a HUGE difference.

    So does simple things like finding a south facing window and getting as much sun on your skin as you can. I just did that today. If the weather is bad, hit a tanning booth 5-7 mintues ( I know it's had for skin but so it severe depression ). I have a big thread about SAD here I think - search for that one too.

    Also , if you can even escape for 7-10 a month during Dec. - Feb. it can help so much. If finances allow, dance in a warmer area just enough to pay the trip and evaluate if you feel better.

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    Wow, thank you so much for this. I love your take on regarding work as financial self care. I'm definitely going to adapt these tips into my regimen. It definitely helps knowing I'm not the only one struggling, even though obviously I don't want anyone else to struggle through this too. Thank you again for your kind words and suggestions!


    Also grabbing a happy light from amazon pronto.

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