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    Lately I've been fantasizing about what I could have done after a customer intentionally crosses a border I established.
    This is mostly customers trying to finger me after I tell them their hands have to stay a certain distance away from my pussy.

    One man receiving a dance kept try and trying to finger me, I kept pulling his hand away and telling him I am not comfortable with that. After telling me the other girls let him do it (which they don't) and I deny him permission to take his tiny dick out he goes for it and tried to finger me. Feeling something in the way he asks if I'm wearing a tampon because it's that time of the month for me. I politely tell him it's a menstruation cup and keep dancing.
    WHAT I WANTED TO DO: Is take the menstruation cup out, and pour the 2 tbsps of blood on him!

    Other times when men try to finger me and I move their hand away, I image then putting them in a wrist lock, or an arm bar (which I am very good at doing)... But the club told me that would be "assault". (which really I think is defense since them fingering me is assault).

    Thanks for reading my rant and fantasy of hurting the men who hurt me at work.
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    Why don’t you end the dances ? It must be exhausting constantly have to fight off a guy that isn’t respecting your boundaries. I get money upfront and give one redirect / warning or a “I don’t do that baby”. If not I end the dance or to be petty have him pay for another and cut it super short and leave( this only works if your security guys have your back).

    I have flipped off a guy for poking my vagina on stage But I wish I had “accidentally” kicked him.
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    Where’s the bouncer? Ugh, I’m think of leaving my home club because the bouncers don’t do their jobs. I’m sorry that happened to you. There’s no excuse for that. We had a guy about a month ago that went to jail for something like that-that’s what should happen to every guy that violates our boundaries. Jail!

    I’m thinking of camming next.
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    Damn St. Louis must be rough. Can you go somewhere else? I've had guys try to touch pussy before but nobody that extreme to REALLY go for it like that or that completely disrespected all boundaries.

    I can understand what you mean. I've gotten violent with customers before over way smaller shit in the past, lol. But some regions/clubs will fire you and always take the customer's side. It just depends where you are at. I've assaulted more than a few customers and knock on wood have zero charges. But I wanna say it is best to head for greener pastures where you stop assaulting men and wanting to murder them.

    ifyouseekamy, a lot of areas or clubs have worse than useless bouncers I think. And honestly if a guy did something to me I don't get why I should spend several minutes trying to find the bouncer who might be fucking off doing god knows what. My first instinct is to hit the offending idiot immediately. But from a legalistic standpoint it is not the best thing to do. Not that it's ever stopped me. I need anger management. LOL

    I feel like most ladies do worse on cam than you can do at the club. But there are exceptional ladies who make hella bank on cam. And the ladies that switch from dancing to cam that did take an hourly or weekly pay cut seem to be happy anyways with the no touch and working from home more on your own terms/rules. A lot of girls do both also.
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    Get at least the first song paid for up front. Every single time I have NOT done so, it has come back and bit me hard. Collect every other song if you keep going. That way if he acts up, you will be either caught-up payment wise or only minimally lose out if your floor men are idiots and 'can't' get the money that dipshit owes you.

    The cup-dumping move ... great thought, but do not! Haha I saw a girl once take out her tampon on stage and drop it in a guy's drink because he tried to finger her. She was fired, because although management (as far as I later heard) agreed with the sentiment ... she was now a liability with the health department as well as any personal legal charges the offender might have tried to bring.

    Don't ever be afraid to walk away from a guy, mid-song if you have to. Be very careful about striking them just because you don't want to start something you can't finish. Some guys will absolutely hit you back.

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    Be very careful about striking them just because you don't want to start something you can't finish. Some guys will absolutely hit you back.

    ^^^^ this absolutely. I've never gotten hit back, but yeah. This is why you need to be careful and not let your temper get the best of you. And also you don't wanna have criminal charges. But I don't really think this is a big deal these days honestly. I've known people with good jobs with felonies- one was even a murderer.

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    Get your money upfront. If they're being an asshat, warn them nicely. If they do it a second time, warn them in a mean way. Third time, walk away.

    Dont risk hitting a person, or doing anything like spilling period blood on them. That's not going to end well for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by random stripper View Post
    Be very careful about striking them just because you don't want to start something you can't finish. Some guys will absolutely hit you back.

    ^^^^ this absolutely. I've never gotten hit back, but yeah. This is why you need to be careful and not let your temper get the best of you. And also you don't wanna have criminal charges. But I don't really think this is a big deal these days honestly. I've known people with good jobs with felonies- one was even a murderer.
    Unfortunately yes. My boyfriend works with a couple guys with violent felony records. They are out there, and the type to start fights over nothing in a strip bar.

    Honestly drawing attention to these customers is safer than trying to fight them. Tell a bartender or a bouncer.

    Also hate to say it there are guys who deliberately Go to bars to harass women, and get off on what they did. Therefore do not feed into their Master Plan of assaulting you for kicks and fantasy material.

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    Default Re: Punishing misbehaving customers

    Every club I've worked at (except one where the guys didn't dare try anything because there was cameras everywhere including the VIP rooms) gives misbehaving customers refunds if you don't finish the dance. It's bullshit.

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    I would move unless you have a lot of reasons to stay. It just sucks that there are areas that all the clubs seem to side against the dancer and with the customer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    Honestly drawing attention to these customers is safer than trying to fight them. Tell a bartender or a bouncer.

    Also hate to say it there are guys who deliberately Go to bars to harass women, and get off on what they did. Therefore do not feed into their Master Plan of assaulting you for kicks and fantasy material.
    So sick of these guys! I am so over it!
    Seriously it used to be that bouncers and other guys would take out the trash that ruined their good time. But not any more

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    Thanks everyone!
    Stop the dance, get your money up front every time, ect, these are the obvious things that don't always come to me in the moment!
    I have a bad habit of just pushing through the dance but you're all so right, if the men are disrespecting me I have every right to stop the dance and walk away with the money.

    Yeah I don't want to get into trouble with the health department, but I bet it would feel SSSOOOO satisfying. I have a martial arts background that might give me a false sense of safety.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SuccubusSasha View Post
    I have a martial arts background that might give me a false sense of safety.
    I have a martial arts background as well (taekwondo and bjj), so I will offer a friendly reminder of martial arts philosophy -- You don't train so you can kick someone's arse or 'put them in their place', you do it to defend and extract yourself.

    A man will almost always cause more damage per hit than you can, no matter what you train in. If you're not already used to getting pounded on by a guy, you don't want to suddenly be on the receiving end of it. Those martial arts skills also won't do you much good if you're not training regularly; in that case you're more likely to get yourself deeper into the mess than be able to extricate yourself from it.

    There is also the fact that unless you've got a really good ground game (rolling about on a strip club floor, EWW!! Been there done that!), you will already be at a disadvantage balance-wise due to your heels.

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    You may also want to be more discerning with who you approach on the floor. I know it is good practice to talk to everyone, but I personally don't risk poor behavior anymore. I profile the shit out of everyone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lynn2009 View Post
    You may also want to be more discerning with who you approach on the floor. I know it is good practice to talk to everyone, but I personally don't risk poor behavior anymore. I profile the shit out of everyone.
    After dancing for years, if I get a bad vibe I just walk away- I don’t even excuse myself. I’m in no way blaming you OP- I hope that fucker loses all his fingers in a bizarre accident-I will say guys don’t fuck with me because I have a don’t fuck with me attitude. The days I’m emotionally exhausted and insecure I have a lot more problems.

    I had a coworker that happened to accidentally kick guys on stage or her shoe would accidentally hit them in the head-accidents happen. Always have plausible deniability.

    I’ve never understood why anyone would mess with a dancer. Do these guys also like playing with poisonous snakes. I’ve read enough news stories about dancers to know better then to kick the hornets nest. Seriously.
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    If the club called the cops whenever a customer assaults you like that, that would be ideal.

    Not sure why such rapey behavior should ever be tolerated. Yet, it's kind of sad that most of the burden falls on the woman. Like, you're rubbing on him and you're a stripper, aren't you asking for it? That's kind of the general consensus is what encourages this type of behavior. You call it 'misbehaving' but really, it's a form of assault.

    I also wish that there would be a place for the guys to go to wherever they can consensually finger someone if that is what they are really after, so that the women who sign up under the dancer/stripper title are not constantly pressured to do more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lynn2009 View Post
    You may also want to be more discerning with who you approach on the floor. I know it is good practice to talk to everyone, but I personally don't risk poor behavior anymore. I profile the shit out of everyone.
    I need to learn to profile so I can start profiling customers. XD
    Are there any major/ easy to spot no-nos you look for?
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    Quote Originally Posted by SuccubusSasha View Post
    I need to learn to profile so I can start profiling customers. XD
    Are there any major/ easy to spot no-nos you look for?
    I will send in a PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SuccubusSasha View Post
    I need to learn to profile so I can start profiling customers. XD
    Are there any major/ easy to spot no-nos you look for?
    Lol I used to do that and then some loser wrote on a stripper review board about me only talking to the "big whale" type of customers. Staff thought of me as racist for sticking to only white and asian customers. In the end, I decided to go up to everyone, spend a small amount of time with those who were less likely to spend on me and more on those who were likely to pay for dances...asians and white guys. Looked bad from staffs point of view, but hell I am there for 5-6 hours and needed to make the most of my time.

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