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    So has anyone had anything like this happen to them?

    here I am minding my own business and I check in the dj and he tells me I forgot to tip him the last shift, I apologized and said I’d tip him what I owed and the tip for tonight also (so $20)

    he puts me up on stage then plays this really dumb song it was dubstep with the opening “lyric” being
    “I look like a 54 year old Indian man”

    so I have to finish dancing to this dumb song and people were literally giving me pity tips because it was messed up. Mind you I am 27 and white and look like I could pass for 24.

    I tell management and I’m like crying so upset so humiliated by this experience and also I bitched the DJ out and told him he will never get $1 out of me again.
    Management said I didn’t have to tip DJS either- so it was an extortion attempt basically.
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    My home club DJ did something really awful to me like that and after that I refused to tip him & even got a bit of revenge. (Sadly the dude was a basket case so I had to quit being pissed b/c he was too stupid to get out of his own way in life.)

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    happens to me at almost every club in some variation. my current club he refuse to put me on stage (except when it's completely dead), and we make a lot on stage. he also played a song 'fuk you you hoe" one time when was on stage. i approached him about it nicely and he said i would have to tip him generously if i wanted that to change.

    i started bitching at him and being rude, and i think that strategy is working, last night he started putting me a lot again. i had nothing to lose, literally, though. like it couldnt have gotten worse for me lol. probably the only situation i'd recommend being a bitch to the DJ. they really do have so much influence over your money in some clubs.

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    Ew, Fuck that pos! I wouldn't bother giving him another dam penny & just smile all the way out the door everynight. When I was faced in these situations as a dancer years ago, all I did was hustle the vips harder, make my coin & walked out without tipping their dumbasses. It's not a rare thing for that kind of thing t happen in the sc industry. It's their only weapon against you & it's so much fun to flip it around on them when frankly unless your club is a stage type club where dances aren't the norm then you always have the upper hand. Honestly, stage is a waste imo anyways. Use that time to get vips!
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    Youre supposed to look out for the DJ regardless of the policy. show respect to get it.. hes hustling for money like you thats his version of an upsell. throw a tip in good faith and watch what happens. i typically give 10% of what i make to the dj .. they always show love. like play your songs, download new shit on the spot, play stuff theyre not supposed to play for you, i never wait to check in., never counted as late get skipped or added back in quickly. and its also a good way to get in with a club when youre traveling ..like all my friends there started off like that and then i could kit and get info on the area like when its good again.. he did try n fuck with you but thats the only way they can get to you..maybe not right but hey we don't like the guys we get money from frfr were just playing the part ya know.. play yours and see

    side note tho there are some corny DJs that are trapped in an era and what they think is still cool (NOT) isn't always on par with the particular music genres/choices you may lean towards not everybody loved dubstep..er whatever cool remix of a song from like over 10yrs ago.. or an oldie but not goodie.. or played out songs.. but truthfully the music is supposed to be for the customers but dancing to what you like helps overall..

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    Not the answer you want to hear... but you have to work with this DJ. You're going to have to go on stage, and he has the power to make the lighting shitty, music bad, and crack mean jokes. Its going to fuck up your money.

    Unless you can make it so you never have to go on stage + never interact with him again, it's times to suck it up and be nice to him. Which includes tipping 5-10%, being polite, trying to be nice to him, get to know him. Build rapport.


    What he did was very rude. This doesn't mean he as a person is rude. Haven't you had an off day before?? Maybe he had a shitty day. Maybe a bunch of girls are not tipping him lately and he has rent to make. He's human too. Just because you two had one shitty interaction doesn't mean you cant fix this. DJs are POWERFUL tools to helping you make money. Work together, make him like you, he probably knows when big customers are coming in. This is one staff member you want on your team! Not plotting against you.

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    Honestly, if you were in tears over 'one dumb song' ... that dj isn't the only one who needs a reality check.

    It was a dick move on his part, no question about that -- but there's nothing classy or professional about running to the boss in tears and throwing a tantrum because of one lousy stage set. Pity tips are still tips and it's not like that was going to be your Last! Set! Ever! For the whole night, was it? Even if it was going to be a busy night with a lot of girls and minimum stage time for you, you certainly weren't going to be eternally branded as The Dumb Song Chick. You could have easily worked that mess to your advantage with customers who felt sorry for you because the dj was being an ass.

    You and that dj owe each other an apology IMO. Sounds like you both take yourselves WAY too seriously. Hopefully it's not too late to turn this around and build a relationship that's beneficial to both of you.

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    The OP didn't exactly handle the situation well but are we really sanctioning what amounts to extortion? Humiliating and harassing someone over a tip is completely inappropriate and... yeah, you go to management when someone is harassing or bullying you at work. You don't pay them money and reinforce the idea that they can harass and intimidate women to get what they want.

    Tips are earned and the idea that club staff expect a percentage of our money, regardless of performance is bullshit. I pay hundreds of dollars to my club every week in stage fees, VIP fees and tipout already. A DJ demanding a percentage of my money is out of his fucking mind. If he wants stripper money, he can put on 10 inch heels and earn it like we do.

    That being said... OP, I would very much suggest growing a pair. Dancing is tough and if a song you don't like is enough to send you into hysterics, I'd hate to see your reaction when shit really goes down. This is a tough world and learning to woman up and deal with it is a good life skill to have.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Missdoll View Post
    So has anyone had anything like this happen to them?

    here I am minding my own business and I check in the dj and he tells me I forgot to tip him the last shift, I apologized and said I’d tip him what I owed and the tip for tonight also (so $20)

    he puts me up on stage then plays this really dumb song it was dubstep with the opening “lyric” being
    “I look like a 54 year old Indian man”

    so I have to finish dancing to this dumb song and people were literally giving me pity tips because it was messed up. Mind you I am 27 and white and look like I could pass for 24.

    I tell management and I’m like crying so upset so humiliated by this experience and also I bitched the DJ out and told him he will never get $1 out of me again.
    Management said I didn’t have to tip DJS either- so it was an extortion attempt basically.


    I've had a DJ announce me as a unicorn before going on stage, have had staff shit talk/laugh about me while I'm in the room, etc. They would purposely play different songs like who let the dogs out or weird kid songs in the past as well and make rude comments if I would retaliate and give them a 1 dollar tip or say something rude. I've yelled at management and staff at quite a few clubs I've worked at because I don't happily bend over the table when I don't agree with their rules when I was hired as an independent contractor. Hell there's a well discussed Vegas manager girls have talked about on here and I have shouted at him, called him names, and annoyed him quite a few times when I was working there too. He was a jerk but he thought it was funny having cussed him out.

    At the end of the day you are there to make money for yourself, and hell you got pity tips out of it so that's a positive in your back pocket. Who cares what they say/do unless it is to the point where it is consistently happening each time you work.

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    We had one who liked to be an ass, until a bunch of us said, “he goes, or we go”. We have one now who tends to be a little bit of a prankster, but nothing disrespectful.
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    You have to suck it up, kiss his ass and tip him extra. That’s just how it is. Orrrr you can rock the shitty music. It’s really not that big of a deal- customers don’t tip for the music. Plus you can bring it up and laugh about it with them. I have been there- imagine dancing to the same EDM remix of “don’t stop believing”, every single night for over a year, while being told that they “don’t have” any of the songs you ask for even if they’re all over the radio and get played for other dancers. People still tipped me and last I heard that dj got fired. When people are assholes to you as a dancer you really have to just ignore it or you’ll go crazy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxxGothBarbie View Post
    Ew, Fuck that pos! I wouldn't bother giving him another dam penny & just smile all the way out the door everynight. When I was faced in these situations as a dancer years ago, all I did was hustle the vips harder, make my coin & walked out without tipping their dumbasses. It's not a rare thing for that kind of thing t happen in the sc industry. It's their only weapon against you & it's so much fun to flip it around on them when frankly unless your club is a stage type club where dances aren't the norm then you always have the upper hand. Honestly, stage is a waste imo anyways. Use that time to get vips!
    unfortunately almost every club down here requires 10% to the dj.. so messed up. they count your rooms and dances too...

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    Well first of all I understand why you are upset and I’m sorry that happened to you.

    Secondly, I don’t think you are in the wrong 99% of the time it’s something subconscious that has nothing to do with you. It’s always amazes me how people play out unconscious roles. I would take the high road and try to talk to him and clear the air. Maybe his mom has cancer. I’m not saying to tip him if he keeps playing you shitty music and being a pushover, but most people don’t know why they are so shitty. He probably took not being tipped personally. It’s best to clear the air and move on because it’s no fun to be on the DJ’s bad side. I’d just feel sorry for him. People who are shitty to others are filled with self-hate and self-loathing and he took it out on you for a precieved slight.

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    This sounds like a nightmare, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Even though you probably need to mend things with this creep, I get that's easier said than done. I would be livid, and it would be really tough to hide it. Good luck <3

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    I’ve had similar situations. I’ve quit clubs where the djs are terrible to work with. When new djs came to my home club I’d have to stick it out with their initial shitty attitude and show them I’m not the type of dancer that is going to ask for special request songs and not tip them every night. The music that you dance to affects the way you dance, the way you dance affects your money. The dj May think what does he have to lose by being a dick if your not tipping anyway? I’d take the advice that I saw from another girl and throw him a decent tip at the end of the night or maybe even a few nights in a row to see if that changes his attitude. I can almost guarantee it will.

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    being enemies with a DJ is never a good thing, it will always work against you and never against the DJ, they won't care,

    do whatever you have to do to become best friends with the DJ, its a path to success

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    Quote Originally Posted by tina4u View Post
    being enemies with a DJ is never a good thing, it will always work against you and never against the DJ, they won't care,

    do whatever you have to do to become best friends with the DJ, its a path to success
    I'm going to disagree. Some are rude and need to be talked to. They get compensated enough to have basic manners to the girls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    I'm going to disagree. Some are rude and need to be talked to. They get compensated enough to have basic manners to the girls.
    Yes, some DJs are just sh-- starters.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yaya_cash View Post
    Yes, some DJs are just sh-- starters.
    so are lots of dancers

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    I always tip the DJ 10% as a rule. It's also an incentive: I make money, you make money. One of the DJ's at work STILL plays me awful music, isn't receptive or nice to me, and makes me feel like I'm wasting my time.

    Own the shitty music. Hustle harder. If they're more concerned about the music than your body moving to it, step up your stage game. Make the kind of money that lets him know you are not to be fucked with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tina4u View Post
    being enemies with a DJ is never a good thing, it will always work against you and never against the DJ, they won't care,

    do whatever you have to do to become best friends with the DJ, its a path to success
    Horseshit. You get too friendly with the DJ, they assume you want to fuck them, and then they try to act on it and don't respond well when you respond negatively to that attempt.
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    I think I would just dance sexy to the shitty music. As long as I still made money I would not care. I would not kiss ass with a DJ. He would get the minimum tip and that's it. The club's take enough and the staff with the stupid attitude that dancers owe them. They get a paycheck. I have been a dancer and a staff so I get it. Most strip club staff act like entitled assholes and think they are better than the dancers.
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    This right here^!

    Me personally, I had a DJ play some off crap (& the same thing every time!)

    But, what REALLY Sucked he outed me at this one place, I won't go into details.

    Now, honestly, I didn't tip him But I'd just started, I had to tip house mom, bouncers too . + I worked slow day shift.
    There's a difference between working w/someone & bleeding them dry before they have a chance!

    I was screamed @ for a1/2 hr. about bouncers tip

    So, maybe if I d gotten a chance, things would've been different, I would have tipped.
    I didn't stay long there


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    Quote Originally Posted by AChildOfBoredom View Post
    Horseshit. You get too friendly with the DJ, they assume you want to fuck them, and then they try to act on it and don't respond well when you respond negatively to that attempt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AChildOfBoredom View Post
    Horseshit. You get too friendly with the DJ, they assume you want to fuck them, and then they try to act on it and don't respond well when you respond negatively to that attempt.

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