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    My bf is extremely excited about me been on stage, is this normal
    He's always liked showing me off, Holliday to byron bay a few years ago I got my first bikini and it was tiny, nervous as wearing it, last day I gave in and did topless
    Last overseas holiday was Barcelona that was basically a g bottom only and last 2 days I did naked apart from ankle bracelet
    Part of him paying for holiday I agreed to any wish
    And he wishes to see me dance in a strip club, kinda nervous but guessing not much worse than naked on a beach

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    He seems very proud that he has such a beautiful girlfriend and wants the world to know by "showing you off". It sounds sweet but it i would air on the side of cautious on why does he need to get the attention from others especially if it's to have them look at my girl being naked. But most of all you need to be comfortable with the idea of being on that stage and bring topless/naked. If your not, then he should be fine with you not wanting to do. On the other side, he can also be just supportive about you wanting to dance (guessing you wanted to before you told him about dancong). My partner met me at the club. Even though he doesn't go there anymore he also doesn't mind me working but he always says "do whatever makes you happy". ��

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Non of it has been my idea, from wearing not much on the beach to been a stripper, but have done to please him, and after a while I did get use to it, actually don't mind the really small bikinis now though topless is still a bit strange and full nude is only for beaches overseas where it's common
    Before meeting him I was rather conservative alot
    Mum has noticed me confidence grow with him, she absolutely loves him, keeps asking him to put a ring on it

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Stripping in a club to please a boyfriend sounds like a really bad idea.

    You shouldn't do things for him you don't want to do. Maybe get some counseling to see why you feel you have to do things you don't want to do to try to please people.


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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    He spoils me alot, money isn't a problem to him but with any big expensive trip there is like a catch, normally involving me wearing not much
    Some of it I'm starting to like, I think I just enjoy been spolit and having him say I'm beautiful

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    Quote Originally Posted by Daisynz View Post
    Part of him paying for holiday I agreed to any wish ... And he wishes to see me dance in a strip club

    I would be VERY cautious about giving into a 'wish' like this. Sounds like potential to become exploitative.

    Have you ever been in a strip club before? Many clubs have rules against partners/spouses being there while you are working to avoid both jealousy issues, and to keep pimps (or possible pimps) out. Even if this had been your idea, it is generally not a good idea to have your SO around while you are working. At best they tend to be distracting to you and annoying to customers who would otherwise be inclined to spend money on you.

    If he wants to show you off, there are plenty of nude beaches in Europe to choose from. Nothing about this sounds like a good idea to me. Taking into consideration your later post about how you've gotten accustomed to him spoiling you, and this idea that 'there is always a catch' especially since you mention the 'catch' tends to involve a lack of clothing, I am wondering if this is less about 'spoiling' for him and more about trying to groom you.

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Does he love you like a partner or an object? I get being proud of your partner, but make sure he isn't just proud of your looks and that's it. Men like that, believe it or not... are time wasters bc most never had the intention of being long term.

    A BF should be supportive of the job you want to better yourself.

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    I think it's fine to play with the fantasy ( i phrase it that way on purpose ).
    He probably wants to see you prance on stage ( only how 10% or so of the money is usually made ).
    He probably may not be as cozy with you selling lap dances / private rooms ect.
    Just don't do anything you don't feel comfy with.

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Audition done, first full night Friday, weirdest thing ever standing on a stage, seems like you so high up, boyfriend super happy and booked hotel for weekend and bringing up more outfits and shoes
    Fml not sure if good or bad

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    I just hope your boyfriend is just being supportive and there's not some ulterior motive. Has he had stripper girlfriends in the past or is it like a bucket list kind of thing for him?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Daisynz View Post
    boyfriend super happy and booked hotel for weekend and bringing up more outfits and shoes
    not sure if good or bad

    You mean the boyfriend is bringing up more outfits and shoes? WTF? How long does he expect (or EXPECT, if you catch my drift) you to do this?

    His interest in having you start stripping is really not sitting well with me. I hope to God I'm wrong here, I really do. But from what you have said, absolutely none of this has been your idea and you really don't give the impression of being at all thrilled about it. He pushed you to audition, and if I am reading you correctly, he is also pushing his ideas on your stripper wardrobe, and you are going along with it because 'Meh, spoiling.' Whatever 'spoiling' is to you. Have you pushed back on any of this at all? Have you considered -- really considered -- how you'll handle it if he pushes you to do things at work that you are really not okay with? Because that's the direction I worry that he is leading you.

    My first real boyfriend was a groomer, and he was subtle about it, especially at first. Everything was framed as being for my benefit, how he wanted to spoil me with beautiful things and bring me out of my shell so I and the rest of the world could see how beautiful he thought I was. He tried to push me WAY out of my comfort zone, especially sexually, and in retrospect was very creepily supportive of my starting stripping (although that was completely my idea and had nothing to do with him). He ended up not only being fantastically full of shit, but eventually tried to pimp me out. Guess who the bad guy was in his mind when I wasn't having it -- how DARE I be so ungrateful after all he had done for me?! How DARE I refuse him after he had given me so much, and embarrass him so thoroughly in the process?! Good God, did that get ugly.

    So this is the lens I am reading your posts through, OP, and as I said, I hope to high heaven I'm wrong. I would be quite relieved if that turned out to be so. Just keep your eyes open as to his behaviour, his real motives, and don't let him lead you too far down a road you don't really want to travel. Be especially careful about whatever money you might earn. I would even go so far as to conceal your full earnings from him and squirrel some of it away, just in case.
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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    I'm neutral on all this. Sounds confusing. Is he living his fantasy life through you?

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Just a reminder to PLEASE not do anything you are not comfy with. No sex ( with him ) in the champagne room ect.
    ^ Make sure YOU enjoy this fantasy too. After a few shifts when the novelty wears off you are going to see how HARD this job can be sometimes.
    I do hope you enjoy it.

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    What do you do for a living? WHat does he do? I just feel like he has ulterior motives to you stripping. Maybe hes heard on social media that strippers make six figures and he wants the money. He could be becoming Pimpy.

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Boyfriend sounds like he wants to pimp her.
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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Sounds like he wants to pimp you out. I really can't think of any honorable reason for a boyfriend to want his girlfriend to become a stripper, especially when it's something you've never been interested in.

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    He might have a fetish for strippers and is trying to make you become one. Or, it might be for bragging rights.

    Please don't become a stripper if it isn't your passion. It could be very traumatic for you and cause you a lot of emotional harm. If it doesn't feel right, then don't do it.

    You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Seems like every guy wants a stripper girlfriend. Thanks, Instagram.

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    the fact u said fml says u really dont want to be doing this
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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Something seems odd with your boyfriend. Like some others above said, he’s treating you like an object to feed his own ego. Just be careful.

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    What do you do for a living? WHat does he do? I just feel like he has ulterior motives to you stripping. Maybe hes heard on social media that strippers make six figures and he wants the money. He could be becoming Pimpy.
    Am In last year of high school
    He works in farming and has no need for extra cash, his parents built him a new home, just done my second weekend stripping and hes paid for hotel and all expenses
    I haven't had to spend a dollar
    He came to club for a few hours each night then went off to drink at a sports bar

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    Quote Originally Posted by 305gurl View Post
    Seems like every guy wants a stripper girlfriend. Thanks, Instagram.
    I think he really just likes showing me off
    Or getting me doing crazy shit
    I wanted a new phone so deal was I drive from my place to his naked
    So viber video call from me stripping in garage and hoping like fuck mum didn't walk in
    To then driving to his place, like that while on video call
    Never speed at all that day

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    Default Re: Normal for boyfriend wanting you to be a stripper

    HIGH SCHOOL?

    Girl run your 18 year old ass far away, this is an exploitative relationship for sure. You're either going to end up pimped out, abused or dead in a dumpster.

    SW gals... Are we sure this isn't a troll?
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    Omg you're in high school. This isn't right, even if you're 18. Your boyfriend doesn't have your best interest at heart. He is exploiting you.

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    You really should get out of this situation while you can. At best, he's exploiting you for his own selfish reasons and at worst he's trying to pimp you out, and it makes sense that he would want to groom you by easing you into it slowly and making you cross one boundary at a time. Pimping isn't always 100% about the money, it's also about control and making someone dependent on you, and the thrill of brainwashing them and seeing how far they will go for you. He might get a thrill out of corrupting you or treating you like his property that he can share with others when he desires. Nothing good can come from this relationship. He's already putting you in risky situations that could have longterm consequences. What if you were pulled over while driving when he wanted you to drive nude (that part honestly sounds so crazy, it makes you seem like a troll but I'm going to give the benefit of the doubt)? Then you would be looking at a public indecency charge.

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