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    I have been frequenting a particular strip club in the South, and from experience, I tend to do the following with dancers:

    1. For a new girl giving a dance, I ask her what her rules are? Usually it has been the obvious "Do not touch between the legs, but anything else is ok.", along with a different one sometimes from each girl.
    2. For girls I have danced with before, I confirm if the rules are still the same as last time? To give her an opportunity to let her be more open to me
    3. For girls that explicitly bring up wanting to get hurt(being choked, spanked) during dances, I give them safety signals (tap my shoulder to let go, say "ow" for too much strength, etc). Then, I do the actual deed.

    My intention of doing this is to make her known she is respected, be sure of her boundaries, and ensure her safety(mostly for #2). Having said those things, are they still acceptable for me to do? Would I come off as a worse customer (or PL) for asking her those things? Or any other ulterior motive that any dancer may have? To milk more money off of me for less work, or for any other reason?

    4. Girls that have given me their numbers (or asked by me in some cases), I ask what her boundaries are, and how often? Half the time, its for anything. Others, it is just for business purposes (to ask when she is in, or she will be working on a certain day)

    Mainly, what are your opinions for customers like me? And how can I improve on that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SC_Custie View Post
    I have been frequenting a particular strip club in the South, and from experience, I tend to do the following with dancers:

    1. For a new girl giving a dance, I ask her what her rules are? Usually it has been the obvious "Do not touch between the legs, but anything else is ok.", along with a different one sometimes from each girl.
    2. For girls I have danced with before, I confirm if the rules are still the same as last time? To give her an opportunity to let her be more open to me
    3. For girls that explicitly bring up wanting to get hurt(being choked, spanked) during dances, I give them safety signals (tap my shoulder to let go, say "ow" for too much strength, etc). Then, I do the actual deed.

    My intention of doing this is to make her known she is respected, be sure of her boundaries, and ensure her safety(mostly for #2). Having said those things, are they still acceptable for me to do? Would I come off as a worse customer (or PL) for asking her those things? Or any other ulterior motive that any dancer may have? To milk more money off of me for less work, or for any other reason?

    4. Girls that have given me their numbers (or asked by me in some cases), I ask what her boundaries are, and how often? Half the time, its for anything. Others, it is just for business purposes (to ask when she is in, or she will be working on a certain day)

    Mainly, what are your opinions for customers like me? And how can I improve on that?
    1. Dancers will tell you the rules without being asked. If they don't, just following the obvious ones should cover you. (No between the legs, no mouth contact, don't be rough etc.) Or you ask one of the club staff what the general club rules are and follow those. Asking the dancer for additional rules is just giving her an opening to choose to give you less. Best to let her assume you expect the same from her as the other dancers. Normally a dancer will quickly tell you if you do anything she objects to. You won't get banned from the club or go to jail just for not guessing a dancer's special boundaries. It's her responsibility to tell you.
    2. As for (1.).
    3. Hurt?? Choke??? If a dancer asks you to do that, get out of there quickly! Spanking I can understand, as long as it's not heavy. Anyway, why do you care what the dancer wants you to do? It's your lapdance.
    4. If they give you their numbers without specifying what it's for, why ask them for boundaries? Any confusion which arises is not your fault. If they do that, it's most likely that they are open to a date.
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    I think I'm gonna be sick

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    Default Re: How to treat dancers?

    This may be a troll post, but I'm going to respond as if this is real because it hits on an important topic that is not discussed much here. Sadly, I've run across a handful of guy who seek to play out their sadistic domination fetish ITC and for some reason lately it seems to be getting more common.

    First off SC, I don't buy for a second that you aren't feeling girls out for this before they ask. It may bot be verbal, but you're doubtlessly doing things during dances to signal them to invite you to go further. Some girls will play along with things like ass smacking because guys with your fetish often tip well.

    The problem with guys like you is that they (1) are prone to taking it too far; and (2) sometimes get too attached to girls that give them the responses that they crave. The worst stalker I ever heard about in any club I've frequented was a customer who started out by paying big $$ for girls to satisfy this fetish, both ITC and OTC. Inevitably he needed more and blew past their boundaries. Then, when the girls were freaked out and tried to avoid him, he stalked them.

    A stripper is as much a civilian as anyone when it comes to dealing with extreme fetishes. Your best bet would be to seek out girls who specialize in pleasing guys with sadomasochistic fetishes, at least when jerking off to rape porn and whatever other sick shit you watch is no longer enough.

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    I'm not buying this wanting to be hurt bullshit. Also, if you ask what's ok ONCE then there is no need to ask again!

    Don't be a pain in the ass.

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    Yeah choked for a $20 dance, sure.

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    I would have you escorted from the club and tell you not to ever come back,, with your picture kept at the front door. Take your fetishes to professionals who deal with such, as a club isnt the place for them

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    Wow. I think you need to find someone who specializes in such fetishes. Don't go to strip clubs for that. There are dungeons and other underground locations run by professionals who are trained in and can give a safe environment for individuals who are into sadomasochist activities.

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    OP I'm watching you closely - your next post better be something that demonstrates you are reasonable person that we might not mind having on this site. Reading your post, I suspect you may have a problem with either distinguishing fantasy from reality, or you may be suffering from extreme social awkwardness.

    If you feel you have anger towards dancers or women in general, I urge you to talk to a professional immediately. If you are considering membership in a BSDM community where your fantasies might have some appropriate outlet, I'm not sure this is the right forum. I don't know that community very well but maybe someone can suggest a good forum.
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    If you could afford a VIP maybe you should find An entertainer that is okay with this dynamic to act out fantasy in. Usually sadistic doms frequenting clubs are very controlling though and get off by taking advantage of girl without paying much or anying. They will give you false hope Or charm you, then try to bring you down, by a lot. Not the type of guy that should be a customer.

    And this person becomes more frequent because our desensitized world creates not very much sympathy for others and their needs. Its me, me, me.
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    The title of this thread is stupid as fuck. How to treat a stripper?? Umm, the same respect as everyone else. We're not subhuman.

    Were you hoping to justify your behavior here??

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    I would have to say no to all of this. Stay out of the clubs if you need to indulged in fetishes such as choking. Personally, I do not believe that many strippers are into getting choked after giving you an dance. Even if you offer tons of money, we all know that you can't stop yourself and someone will get hurt. You know that you might choke out some poor girl and then it will become an huge mess. Plus, strip clubs do not have dungeon masters to ensure safety. You are just trying to shove your fetish onto people not qualified to handle it. You need to either talk with extreme indie phone sex operators or fetish providers who specialized in choking games and other things of that nature. Choking is one of those edgeplay fetishes that most people are not equipped to handle either emotionally and physically.

    Quote Originally Posted by SC_Custie View Post
    I have been frequenting a particular strip club in the South, and from experience, I tend to do the following with dancers:

    1. For a new girl giving a dance, I ask her what her rules are? Usually it has been the obvious "Do not touch between the legs, but anything else is ok.", along with a different one sometimes from each girl.
    2. For girls I have danced with before, I confirm if the rules are still the same as last time? To give her an opportunity to let her be more open to me
    3. For girls that explicitly bring up wanting to get hurt(being choked, spanked) during dances, I give them safety signals (tap my shoulder to let go, say "ow" for too much strength, etc). Then, I do the actual deed.

    My intention of doing this is to make her known she is respected, be sure of her boundaries, and ensure her safety(mostly for #2). Having said those things, are they still acceptable for me to do? Would I come off as a worse customer (or PL) for asking her those things? Or any other ulterior motive that any dancer may have? To milk more money off of me for less work, or for any other reason?

    4. Girls that have given me their numbers (or asked by me in some cases), I ask what her boundaries are, and how often? Half the time, its for anything. Others, it is just for business purposes (to ask when she is in, or she will be working on a certain day)

    Mainly, what are your opinions for customers like me? And how can I improve on that?
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    I am a dork who posts spam links - they were removed by mod
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    Quote Originally Posted by marcF011 View Post
    Hello!
    This is a good article because there are many tips and also many advices that will be very useful to me.
    Dont be an ass like the OP obviously is. If you need an article to tell you how to act like a human being, then you need to check into a hospital and have a total psych workup.

    That you think his actions and reasoning is good, shows you do not belong in a club under any circumstances

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    OP has not been on since February.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OmegaWest View Post
    Dont be an ass like the OP obviously is. If you need an article to tell you how to act like a human being, then you need to check into a hospital and have a total psych workup.

    That you think his actions and reasoning is good, shows you do not belong in a club under any circumstances

    Looks like a bot account. He inserted a link in the text that he quoted.

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