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    This is the fourth time I've had a really demeaning lesbian customer, and I just have to ask. Is it generally a red flag to get a woman in the chatroom?

    I'm not saying this because I'm homophobic or anything (I'm a lesbian, I know women are great). I'm just saying that the women who frequent cam sites tend to be really like, demeaning or violent, whereas the straight men tend to be friendlier and more mild-mannered. Just as a mild example of what happened, she told me to take off my glasses and then called me a bitch when I couldn't read her messages (even though I warned her that I wouldn't be able to see her messages if I did because I'm quite blind). This is the fourth individual "bad lesbian" I've had in my room since I started like two weeks ago.

    Is there something else going on here that I don't know about? Am I being hazed? Should I just start blocking women who show up in my room? Please advise.
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    Default Re: Am I the only one who has issues with lesbian clients? How to deal? [RANT]

    Quote Originally Posted by sexysassylux View Post
    This is the fourth time I've had a really demeaning lesbian customer, and I just have to ask. Is it generally a red flag to get a woman in the chatroom?

    I'm not saying this because I'm homophobic or anything (I'm a lesbian, I know women are great). I'm just saying that the women who frequent cam sites tend to be really like, demeaning or violent, whereas the straight men tend to be friendlier and more mild-mannered. Just as a mild example of what happened, she told me to take off my glasses and then called me a bitch when I couldn't read her messages (even though I warned her that I wouldn't be able to see her messages if I did because I'm quite blind). This is the fourth individual "bad lesbian" I've had in my room since I started like two weeks ago.

    Is there something else going on here that I don't know about? Am I being hazed? Should I just start blocking women who show up in my room? Please advise.
    unless they turned on their cam those probably weren't women.

    most of the women I can confirm have been very nice to me honestly, they are easy shows

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    Default Re: Am I the only one who has issues with lesbian clients? How to deal? [RANT]

    At least one of them was a woman (she did turn on her cam).

    Idk. I made money, and there's that, but I'm also pretty new at this. Still better than food service at least :/

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    Default Re: Am I the only one who has issues with lesbian clients? How to deal? [RANT]

    Well, women or not, you shouldn't let any customer treat you badly or make you uncomfortable in any way, even if it's paying.
    Just block them right ayway and move on. Or just be nasty with them and tell them you don't tolerate a rude behaviour and if they continue being a cunt (either male or female customer), you ban their ass. Stand for yourself and educate your clientele.
    even if "she" turned on her cam, could have been a recorded video. I spot a male and a recorded video from a mile

    They were obivously looking to make you uncomfortable and then insult you. It's just nasty and that is not gender or sexual orientation related. If someone is being an asshole, should be treated accordingly.

    PS: You'll get called bitch all the time, especially when you put the foot on the ground and stand for yourself or refuse to ass kiss the customers, for free or not. People will always insult and try to hurt you verbally. It's part of the business (either frustrated people who can't have a life, either jelaous models trying to put you down because it's hard for them to focus on their own growth rather than digging other camgirls grave, either members who want freebies and get angry when they don't get it). After 8 years of camming, I consider it a compliment. I'm like "awww fuck you too morron!" ))))
    I reccomend you reading this thread. It's funny and it helps you expect that from time to time ) We all get trough it https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...e-heard-on-cam

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    Default Re: Am I the only one who has issues with lesbian clients? How to deal? [RANT]

    Literally only once had a real woman customer... they are usually men playing make-believe. As Cutie says NEVER let anyone push you around. Your chatroom is YOUR room and YOU make the rules.
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    A gay friend of mine who was born male and doesn't want to be trans told me that some gay women who possibly want to be trans or are more ugh...idk.."Butch" tend to be like that. He said it was the fact that they may not totally identify as a female and want to be trans, so they act like literal male jerks that most of us hate and avoid like the plague. He has had to go to a lot of therapy to deal with his sexuality as he was chastised and made fun of his whole life, so he said he learned this in therapy. Over compensation for macho Alpha male behavior that's really not Alpha at all. They are confused, somewhere, someone didn't tell them how to treat a lady. Just like some men were never taught the same.

    I noticed the SAME thing you did with lesbians but on social media sites, not on cam sites. I even had one talk to me in a similar way that an abusive ex boyfriend did! It was as if I was not talking to a person who had a vagina or was estrogen dominant at all. You may be getting trans or people who ID as lesbian but are more like trans. In today's age I see and hear a lot about human sexuality and the grey areas. I work for a large porn corporation but in the retail side and I help lesbians and trans men and women improve their sex lives daily. I hear it all. But I get more lesbians in person who are totally nice and not like the way I have experienced on social media or you have described. It could be the fact a computer is between us that they act out, like a lot of humans.

    Don't block women who show up in your room just because they are a woman. The same thing that a person pointed out most "women" are actually men pretending to be women for fun, I got the same on Fet Life. I can't tell you how many men thought I was a man because I refused to use a photo of me as my main photo and kept my own photos for friends only. It's like they were so afraid to talk to someone with a penis that unless I proved I was a woman by hopping on a camera, that I was a man. No, sorry, I'm not hopping on cam with a person I haven't even chatted with just to ease their homophobia. LOL. I just got a good laugh out of it, they said men pretend to be women ALL the time there too.

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    Default Re: Am I the only one who has issues with lesbian clients? How to deal? [RANT]

    Quote Originally Posted by sexysassylux View Post
    This is the fourth time I've had a really demeaning lesbian customer, and I just have to ask. Is it generally a red flag to get a woman in the chatroom?

    I'm not saying this because I'm homophobic or anything (I'm a lesbian, I know women are great). I'm just saying that the women who frequent cam sites tend to be really like, demeaning or violent, whereas the straight men tend to be friendlier and more mild-mannered. Just as a mild example of what happened, she told me to take off my glasses and then called me a bitch when I couldn't read her messages (even though I warned her that I wouldn't be able to see her messages if I did because I'm quite blind). This is the fourth individual "bad lesbian" I've had in my room since I started like two weeks ago.

    Is there something else going on here that I don't know about? Am I being hazed? Should I just start blocking women who show up in my room? Please advise.
    Yeah, I remember some years ago I had some chick in my MyFreeCams public chat ask me if I'm lesbian or bisexual, and when I nicely told her no, I'm just into men, she threw a tantrum and said something like "Oh, well fuck you then, whore!" HAHAHA. The butthurt little cunt.....

    I don't like women (This includes fellow models) coming in my room if they don't know how to fucking act. Lmao. I won't block women who chat in my room, because I know some of them are cool. But on MFC I do have other model accounts blocked from my room for various reasons.
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    Default Re: Am I the only one who has issues with lesbian clients? How to deal? [RANT]

    99% of the "women" I've gotten have been men pretending to be female thinking they would get to see free tits and pussy if I thought they were female.

    Over the years I've been on cam I've had only one who turned on her cam, was very sweet and thanked me for the private session then tipped me $50! Sadly she didn't ever return.


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    Quote Originally Posted by kamiliam View Post
    unless they turned on their cam those probably weren't women.

    most of the women I can confirm have been very nice to me honestly, they are easy shows
    This is what i was going to say. I'm betting 99% of these are men pretending to be lesbians. I've only ever had positive experiences with gay women in sex work, personally.

    Butchy women, especially, have always been the kindest IME.

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    I've never had this problem, honestly. In sex work, all the lesbians I've encountered in person have been fantastic, and my "female" (unconfirmed) online customers have also been good to me. So I wouldn't block all women in your chat... just the ones who behave badly.. but it is an odd problem, I really hope it gets better for you.

    People will be jerks, maybe raising your prices will help, or trying different sites.

    Alternatively, get into femdom, it will scare away most of the riffraff.

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    Male or female-gay, bi or straight you have to regulate how you want to run your room and set boundaries to how you want to be treated.

    I don't perform for women. I wouldn't know what to do or say. That will make me feel forced and uneasy.
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    This topic is really nice!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    Male or female-gay, bi or straight you have to regulate how you want to run your room and set boundaries to how you want to be treated.

    I don't perform for women. I wouldn't know what to do or say. That will make me feel forced and uneasy.
    Same. I will get a female in my room maybe once a month on SM and its SO awkward for me....I try to be nice about it, but I just cannot do it. There is no way I can perform for a woman and not feel extremely ill-at-ease. I politely turn them down and send them on their merry way.

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    I've had a handful in my lifetime and only one was rude. She was recent. butch lesbian w a bad connection.
    She was a woman, cam2cam and I had stop performing
    everything was fine until she was started saying faster, harder, cum bitch, the show went south.
    DERP HOLD THE FUCK UP, SEE JUST NO ya fuckn disrespectful bull dogged ass dyke ..

    trigger word is bitch, i was ignoring her stupid ass until she called me a bitch.. another woman can not call me a bitch.

    She logged out.
    no fucks given
    every once in a while she pops in and out real quick lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexysassylux View Post
    This is the fourth time I've had a really demeaning lesbian customer, and I just have to ask. Is it generally a red flag to get a woman in the chatroom?

    I'm not saying this because I'm homophobic or anything (I'm a lesbian, I know women are great). I'm just saying that the women who frequent cam sites tend to be really like, demeaning or violent, whereas the straight men tend to be friendlier and more mild-mannered. Just as a mild example of what happened, she told me to take off my glasses and then called me a bitch when I couldn't read her messages (even though I warned her that I wouldn't be able to see her messages if I did because I'm quite blind). This is the fourth individual "bad lesbian" I've had in my room since I started like two weeks ago.

    Is there something else going on here that I don't know about? Am I being hazed? Should I just start blocking women who show up in my room? Please advise.
    No I think deranged people come in both sexes.

    Some people just have zero home training

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    I have never had any on cam, few times I am 100% sure men were pretending trying to get freebies or just fantasizing.
    But I have a problem with them in RL, some of them think it is totally fine being grabby and handsy, giving veeery dirty compliments. Why they are trying to emulate the worst male behavior is beyond me. I am into dick and this is it.

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    I rarely get female, bi or straight. Once they let me know they're female, I kick them out... real females or dudes pretending to be. I don't care.

    On a slightly different note, I get hit on by just as many females as dudes because I'm Trans... that can get annoying as fuck because people assume Trans means you're open to anyone and anything goes. Everything fucking thing gotta be sexual. I just don't get this fucking insatiable sexual obsession with Trans folks.

    Quote Originally Posted by DahliaSimone View Post
    Same. I will get a female in my room maybe once a month on SM and its SO awkward for me....I try to be nice about it, but I just cannot do it. There is no way I can perform for a woman and not feel extremely ill-at-ease. I politely turn them down and send them on their merry way.
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