
Originally Posted by
babypoledancer
I'm weird. I kind of like these kind of customers because I find them very easy to hustle. They have a lot of resentment for women and a lot of preconceived notions about us because they've either been burned in the past (i.e., cheated on) or because they have very little experience with women at all. This makes them easy to crack if you play the "I'm not like other girls", "you're not like other guys", etc. angles. So, I'd make them feel special and different. When they say things like "all you dancers just want money", play coy. Address their concern and turn it around. "Aw, I get why you might think that, some girls in here are only about the money. That's not what I'm about, I find you actually interesting/cute/smart." or "It's a relief to talk to a real guy in here for once, everyone else just acts like an idiot. I kind of like that you won't suck up to me just cause you think I'm cute."
The trick with these types is that you have to seem extra genuine. Don't guffaw at their lame attempts at jokes, bite back a smile like you shouldn't be laughing at what they say (especially if it's some dumb PUA shit) but you can't help yourself, they're too funny. Shake your head slowly, smile, and playfully roll your eyes you can't believe what they just said, they're just outrageous. Pretend to find yourself mesmerized by them and gradually drawn to them, like they're actually saying something novel and opening your eyes to some greater truth. Play into their bullshit while flirting with them very subtly and they'll be pudding in your hands. A lot of dudes like this have a bit of a narcissistic streak to them too [side note: narcs are extremely easy to work as well, though they get tiring after too long] which means that centering them and making it seem like you find them to be the most wonderful/smart/ whatever the fuck guy will go a long way in earning you favor in their eyes and wallets. Word of warning, though: a lot of these guys have severe insecurities related to how they look so complementing them on appearance is tricky because they won't believe you're being genuine and the illusion of you being unique and honest (unlike all other women in their eyes) will be easily broken. Stick to things they chose, like their outfit or watch if you feel the need to talk about their appearance. Make their job sound fascinating ("Oh my god, that must be so hard to do all the time, I can't imagine being a...") and make it seem like you think that they're better than other people you know because of it. Elevate them and they'll be taken off guard because their completely off- kilter worldview is cemented in women being out of reach and unkind.
When you go in for the sale, don't make it about money. You don't want to sell them a block of time, you want to spend more time with them. You don't want to have to go out and talk to those other guys, they're completely lame now. You're having such a good time with this guy and you just don't want it to end. Once you get into these guys' heads, they usually will buy a decent number of dances/your time because they can't stand the thought of a woman they have a "genuine" connection with talking to other guys when they're there.
Bonus points if you pretend you've been cheated on, are unlucky in love, or whatnot. Make yourself a little downtrodden so they can feel like they're above you and 'saving' you with their presence. They don't respond well to women they feel like they could never be with so you've got to make it seem like there's some reason they're "better" than you so they can keep up the illusion that they may have a chance.
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