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    Default How do you not get crushes on customers?

    Assuming you’re single, yes it’s a job and while I get it’s easier for guys to get crushes because pretty naked girl in your lap , if it’s a touching club how can’t you? If you enjoy his company, maybe you tease you’re going to kiss him and he teases you back
    After all you’re human women not robots

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    The short answer? Quite easily.

    The long answer... I don't know. I never really gave this much thought, since developing crushes was never an issue for me. First, you're talking about a game I don't play. So there is that. Secondly, I know your reason for being at the club is what you described - pretty naked girls. That's it. You don't go to a strip club because you want to connect on an interpersonal level. And I don't strip for the sake of that, either.

    In the end, we're both people at a masquerade. Any interest you develop is for what's being presented to you in the club, and likewise, you're tailoring a presentation of yourself while you're in there. At the end of the night, we go back to our regularly scheduled programming.

    I guess it is somewhat of an interesting question, just one which hasn't ever come up for me. I'll let you know if anything else comes to mind.
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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    It’s just fantasy.

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    Quote Originally Posted by maskath View Post
    Assuming you’re single, yes it’s a job and while I get it’s easier for guys to get crushes because pretty naked girl in your lap , if it’s a touching club how can’t you? If you enjoy his company, maybe you tease you’re going to kiss him and he teases you back
    After all you’re human women not robots
    Dude you never know I might just be a cyborg LOL.

    I get crushes on customers, I also crush their wallets a bit. I don't crush their spirits. People with a firm grasp of reality can avoid going too far at work in the bar business world.

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    I do not go into work thinking with my dick, so to speak. It really is that simple.

    I actually abhor being touched by strangers or near strangers. You seem to have the impression that just because a person allows something, they must be enjoying it. Some do, re: touching, for example; I for one do not. I sure as hell am not kissing random guys at my club job, or my straight job for that matter.

    Besides, as far as romance goes, I wouldn't want anything to do with a guy who frequents clubs. I can enjoy a customer's company, provided he is respectful and generous, and appreciate the interaction for what it is with zero problem because the guys I meet at the club have already DQ'ed themselves from my crush list simply by being there.

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    I don't crush easily and even if a customer is attractive, this is my job and I'm not in a romantic headspace. The entire time I'm at work I'm detached and analyzing you so I can figure out how to get in your pockets as quickly and effectively as possible. Lap dancing is about as routine and mundane as brushing my teeth, and while I'm a great actress the reality is that I'm not turned on in the slightest.

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    I was kinda crushing on a customer from a week ago. He was pretty hot but unlike most hot guys he actually spent money pretty easily. And he was easygoing to speak with. I don’t think we really had much in common but he was still really charismatic.

    But that was a complete fluke and doesn’t happen most nights and hopefully I’ll never see him again. Gotta stay focused lol
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    So to answer your question, it can happen. But for me personally, it’s really rare. Like once every 2-3 months.

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    Because 90% of what walks into my club is generally not dateable material in my book.

    Further, what trustfundkiller said. Even if a guy is good looking, I don't care about anything but his money. Its my job. I got bills to pay and wasting time with a dude because hes cute doesnt pay them. I dont care if Chris Hemsworth is there, if he's not giving me money I want nothing to do with him.

    Also, I have a spousal unit. Half the girls I work with are also in serious long term relationships or married.
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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    So many reasons why I don't really get crushes-

    1. I'm picky in general. I don't develop crushes on most guys, in the club or elsewhere.

    2. I touch sooo many guys a night, a week, a month, etc. It's not a big deal for me anymore and it's not sexual for me.

    3. You (the customers) get crushes on us because we're trying our hardest to be appealing to you and get you to be attracted to us and spend money. We're in our zone in that moment. Hustling. We're dolled up and at our best. The customers are not there trying to be crush worthy.

    I've had "crushes" on a few customers and even dated/hung out with a couple of them when I first started out dancing but not any more than I would have in a totally vanilla job.

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    Yeah, I have crushes on men who just sit there to talk me all night without touching me/pushing boundaries and making my night goal.




    In all seriousness. I've seen a lot of attractive guys come in and out, but that's it. I'm not there to connect. My mind is set on money goals, so it won't let me go there.

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    Quote Originally Posted by trustfundkiller View Post
    I don't crush easily and even if a customer is attractive, this is my job and I'm not in a romantic headspace. The entire time I'm at work I'm detached and analyzing you so I can figure out how to get in your pockets as quickly and effectively as possible. Lap dancing is about as routine and mundane as brushing my teeth, and while I'm a great actress the reality is that I'm not turned on in the slightest.
    Yeah, when explaining stripping to my current partner, i often compare it to getting paid beaucoup bucks to do a slightly more glamorous form of toilet cleaning.The grime of the stage, customers, and other dancers, plus the booze and drugs circulating around the club.... disgusting! It's the opposite of a sexy environment to me.

    And i can't even tell you how many times i've been casually assaulted by 'friendly customers' who are 'just having fun' and 'think we have a real connection'. My crushes are often unattractive or old men who pay good money for relatively innocent fun with me in the back rooms. Heart eyes!

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    Women are able to compartmentalize. We can easily separate work life from our personal life. Yes, sometimes crushes can happen but that is typically either another staff member or a long-term regular who is a big spender for us. But even then, many of us are quite aware of how messy getting intimately involved with anyone at or from the strip club can be. I am so jaded from being burned by customers looking for freebies and/or obtaining some kind of cool guy status by dating a stripper, that I don't look at customers in a genuinely romantic way. I'm not even remotely interested in getting involved with any man without a financial benefit of some sort.

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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    Lol, so Maskath I think you have your answer now. The responses are nearby unanimous.

    I also wanted to point out one other thing on my end. You prefaced your thread by saying “assuming you’re single”, but when I’ve been in relationships, there are still other guys who I may find crush-worthy for one reason or another. But when that happened, that didn’t change my behavior with them or make me extra flirty. If anything, I’d want to be extra distant. Because I cared about upholding promises. And just like I was capable of refraining for the sake of a relationship, I am also able to refrain because I respect the club environment.

    I wanted to point out something else, just in case you had personal motives for starting a thread like this. I’ve had many shifts with dealing with pick-up-artists. They like to come in to the club and brag about how he can supposedly get laid anytime he wants. And he has dated all these strippers before. And then he wants to “take you out” and “take care of you” but not buy dances.

    But when I’ve had a crush on a customer, it wasn’t those PUA kinds of customers. The PUA are a dime-a-dozen. So I only ask, if you’re looking for intel on turning on a stripper and potentially pulling her out of the club, that I don’t really know the answer to that. But what I *do* know is if that’s your goal, then I’d advise to try a tactic that’s more subtle than what the majority of these kinds of guys attempt.

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    Modest, aren't we?
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    Default Re: How do you not get crushes on customers?

    Its easy. It does not matter if its a club, or on cam or what not... it's a job. Sure its nice to see regulars, and yes one or two have made a rare showing into my " sort of friends" lists, but it's work. Do people in retail get crushes on every guy or gal going in and out of the store? no they are customers and clients. We also DO have outdoor lives where we have friends, family, significant others etc.
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