First of all... This 'alpha' male stuff is such nonsense. Humans aren't pack animals, ffs. I have yet to see an 'alpha male', or even an 'alpha female' for that matter, that isn't merely an asshole (and using that term as an excuse) or just talking a big game out of insecurity. Let's toss that term aside.
My spousal unit has no issue with me dancing. I suspect it's partly because he knew me for many years before we got together, including before I was dancing. It's probably partly because he views clubs as nothing more than a giant waste of money and that 95% of the customers are not dating material anyway. (Side note, in miss a.p's thread, y'all talk about how dancers have a lot of issues, boy howdy, have I ever seen just as many customers with drama and issues...)
I told him when we got together point blank, that I was going to dance and that was that, it wasn't up for discussion. There's never been any real financial incentive to date me as I have never *given* him money. If anything, I cost him a lot of $$ (he really needs to stop asking me if I want anything from the store...

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You asked what kind of man marries a dancer, so personality-wise... The people who use the Red Pill type terminology would probably call him a beta because he's a genuinely kind human being and because he doesn't care what I do for work. His family is incredibly eccentric, so he's very open-minded. Bit of an 'old soul' who likes to talk philosophy and religion; it's almost like he's transcended caring about petty things like whether someone takes their top off for a living.
Not even remotely interested in any of the swinger stuff. Not in the industry except for a brief stint DJ-ing (which he said was mind-numbingly boring).
FWIW, I see a lot more men in the industry who take issue with their gf dancing... We have a waitress/door girl right now who quit dancing because her bartender boyfriend was being a shit about it.
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