I must have jinxed myself with the Regulars thread in HH![]()
I met this customer 3 weeks ago. He was great until we went to VIP, when he dropped the bomb of "I broke my rule. I used to be a club bouncer, I don't spend $$ on strippers." I knew after that that he was going to be a pain in the ass for the night. The usual asking for my number, etc. I told him my general policy is that I don't exchange numbers unless I've met the person ITC a few times (which is true; I only have a few regulars and they all came in several times first before *I* took *their* numbers. Every other guy, whose intention was to date me, has never even come back a second time). He kept pushing to meet OTC, I kept it vague as we usually do, saying "I just met you! I don't know you at all!"
He asked what I do besides dance at that club. I didn't even want to get anywhere near the actual truth (I didn't want any more familiarity/rapport to fuel him), so I said sometimes I worked at another club 1.5 hours away.
I come back to work the next weekend and multiple dancers & wait staff tell me this guy has been either in the club looking for me, or else has called asking if I'm there, 4 nights in a row. He doesn't show up that weekend, much to my relief. Last weekend though, he sends the door girl to get me. I hadn't even seen him, he was sitting in a corner & didn't even bother to come up to my stage, just sent her after me
He starts telling me that not only was he in and out of my home club for the last 2 weeks (apparently he'd been in almost every night that I wasn't working, so something like 8/14 nights), but he had been DRIVING TO THE OTHER CLUB FIRST. He drove 125+ miles roundtrip and sat in two clubs every other night or so looking for me.
I don't even WORK at this other club. They must have another girl with the same name or were fucking with him, because he said the staff kept telling him "Oh she's not here! I think she works XYZ nights!" He also admitted to having tried to find me on FacebookI was pretty horrified at all this, frankly.
He spent another 1.5 hours in VIP, most of it bugging me for my number/to break my rule of not giving it out quickly, "doesn't all that effort of driving between clubs count for a visit?", OTC dates, etc. When he left, I told him *clearly* that I would not be working for 3 weeks due to various things. I was hoping that he'd cool off in that time & give up.
My friend just texted me saying he was there last night looking for me. Ffs! He did eventually take 2 other girls to VIP, but she said she talked to him for a while and "Man he is OBSESSED with you though". I had already tried to steer him towards one of these other girls & he kept insisting "But she's not you" so I don't know that taking other girls is any indication he's going to cool it.
I am very irritated at this situation. In all the years I've danced, I've never had a guy get so infatuated. Said friend is used to creepers so she isn't bothered too much; she thinks I should keep taking his $$ and say the club is really cracking down on firing girls who give out phone numbers ergo I can't... However, the driving between clubs, looking me up on FB.... the *degree* of obsession is really skeeving me out.
Am I over-reacting or is this way crazy? Do y'all think he'll start to fizzle himself out & move onto another girl if I just ignore him ITC? Or should I just have him banned?




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