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    Dizzy What’s holding me back??

    I’ve been considering dancing since I was 17 now I’m 20 regretting that I didn’t start as soon as I was 18...because if I did I doubt I would be in the Financial Situation I’m in now. My bills are only piling up I always have to push my bills 2 weeks out to pay them then I never have any money left in my pockets...I lost my apartment I’m living with my mom and she told me I could stay here without giving her money she just wanted to me to be responsible and buy groceries. Now she’s telling me I need to be giving her $ or I can go somewhere else. ( she’s bipolar and an alcoholic so she’s always all over the place) I’m just tired of dealing with other ppl’s shit and them taking it out on me. I want my OWN space again so I don’t have to hear anybody’s shit. So many other things are going on in my personal life that I won’t bore everyone with now but I don’t know what’s holding me back from going and auditioning!!? Yes I am nervous for the audition part I know that’s normal...what did it take for you to say FUCK IT I’m going in and doing this! I feel like I’m just about at that point I don’t want to depend on anyone but myself. Maybe if I had a friend to do this with it would be easier ? Too bad I don’t have any friends with the vision I have. Thanks for allowing me to rant I wouldn’t have posted here if I had someone to talk to about this.

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    Default Re: What’s holding me back??

    Dancing and sex work in general is a very independent line of work at the end of the day. You have this website as a resource. You can’t expect anyone from your personal life to hold your hand. 20 is a good age to start just gotta put on your big girl panties and go for it. You will make friends in the industry with time. Good luck.

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    I’ve been considering dancing since I was 17 now I’m 20 regretting that I didn’t start as soon as I was 18...because if I did I doubt I would be in the Financial Situation I’m in now. My bills are only piling up I always have to push my bills 2 weeks out to pay them then I never have any money left in my pockets...I lost my apartment I’m living with my mom and she told me I could stay here without giving her money she just wanted to me to be responsible and buy groceries. Now she’s telling me I need to be giving her $ or I can go somewhere else. ( she’s bipolar and an alcoholic so she’s always all over the place) I’m just tired of dealing with other ppl’s shit and them taking it out on me. I want my OWN space again so I don’t have to hear anybody’s shit. So many other things are going on in my personal life that I won’t bore everyone with now but I don’t know what’s holding me back from going and auditioning!!? Yes I am nervous for the audition part I know that’s normal...what did it take for you to say FUCK IT I’m going in and doing this! I feel like I’m just about at that point I don’t want to depend on anyone but myself. Maybe if I had a friend to do this with it would be easier ? Too bad I don’t have any friends with the vision I have. Thanks for allowing me to rant I wouldn’t have posted here if I had someone to talk to about this.
    I'm going to give nontraditional advice- either rent a studio apartment of buy a van (some can be gotten for a few thousand) and live out of that.

    I'm not talking down to you- just saying it's easier to live in solitude as a dancer & focus on your needs, versus dealing with room mate drama or family members needing money. Plus living in a small space pushes you to go do things, not stay at home and mess around.

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    Thanks for replying to my post I appreciate anyone’s suggests/inputs. My life is non traditional so I’m definitely not opposed to any of these suggestions...I’ll post an update once I make these changes

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    Thanks for being blunt I appreciate your opinion and suggestions! I think that’s exactly what I needed to hear, I’ll post updates once I make some serious moves/changes.

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    Default Re: What’s holding me back??

    If auditioning at a strip club is too intimidating, you could try other jobs in the adult industry first.

    I can relate because I wanted to start dancing when I was 19—even went to a club to audition—but I chickened out. It can be really hard and scary. I ended up getting a sugar daddy and doing nude modeling until I felt more comfortable with myself. That first audition was still scary. Also, I found it easier to audition at a club that allowed me to email them photos. I felt like I already had my foot in the door. Some clubs book just from photos. You could try a place like that.

    I do regret not starting when I was 19. I should have just taken the plunge. I would have made soooo much money as a 19-year-old stripper in 1999, lol.

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    I never thought about modeling...I’ve tried to land a sugar daddy but it hasn’t been successful yet. Thank you for your advice! It’s time for me to just bite the bullet and go..all I’m doing is wasting time being nervous when I could just be making money instead.

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    Default Re: What’s holding me back??

    yeah, at some point you have to just take the plunge! Good luck! You're beautiful--I bet you will have no trouble at all!

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    I myself got tired of the financial situation i was in. I lost my apartment as well.(staying with mom and saving until I can get a house) That's what drove me. And there was my favorite artists' concert coming up 5 hours away and i wanted to make it lol. I guess that helped me say fuck it. Even though i was shaking like mad, i went in and auditioned. Where are you located?

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    I’m in north east PA... yeah I gotta stop being a pussy and just go lol. My goal is to go to a club this Friday because that’s my day off from my 9-5 job.

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    Thank you!

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    I only asked because I’m looking for a partner too ! But I’m far lol. Good luck beautiful ! You fuckin got this!

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    Girl if you are having these financial issues dancing will not help that contrary to popular belief. Being unable to manage your money now means u are unable to manage money even if you make more of it.

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    ^ this, right here. If you're no good with managing money, increasing your money typically only means you'll just not be good at managing more money. So, consider some financial planning resources, as well.

    And the trap you do not want to fall into is assuming that stripping is easy money. There's a reason a section of this forum for hustling exists. And be mindful that you are always in competition with the other dancers there. You can do well at it, just go in with eyes wide open and do your research beforehand.
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    Good Luck!

    ^ & you are very Cute, you can still work on getting an SD.


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    im currently working with 730$ every 2 weeks, as soon as that money comes it goes after I pay all my mandatory bills. Yes my bills ARE being paid, but that’s literally all I can do with the money I’m receiveing...it’s barely just enough to pull my current bills. I don’t want to be working just to be able to pay bills, I need more coming in so I can start a savings account which I don’t currently have. Appreciate your input and opinions but managing $ isn’t my current issue, the issue is getting myself to walk threw the clubs door and audition already.

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    Thanks for your input and opinion love! I can’t wait till the day comes when I post on here and let ya’ll know I finally took the plunge.

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    Yea, you know, maybe try Camming? Get a couple of things going when you can.


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    Quote Originally Posted by cyberstripper View Post
    Girl if you are having these financial issues dancing will not help that contrary to popular belief. Being unable to manage your money now means u are unable to manage money even if you make more of it.
    Or maybe her current job just simply doesnt pay enough and earning more money actually would fix her problens? She's only 20 most of the jobs you can get when you're that young and inexperienced don't pay enough to live comfortably. It doesn't make me think "money management issues"

    Anyways I think you should just go for it keeping in mind that at any moment even during the audition you can leave if you feel too uncomfortable so you have nothing to lose. If you get in there and decide you don't even wanna show your body to the manager you can decide to leave! But you may be pleasantly surprised and feel much more comfortable once you're actually there. Good luck to you

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    You understand my point of view perfectly! Thanks ��������♥️

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