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    Default Cammodels: Managing Stress & Self Care

    This is where I was at stress wise during a meditation session before becoming a full time cam girl. Avg BPM for a 20 min meditation yielded mid forties. It's really rather impressive & something I'm proud of.

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    This is my new average as a full time cam girl. Avg BPM for a 20 min meditation session now yeilds low sixties. It's alarming & quite evident the job is highly stressful.

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    You can find me engaging in a lot of self care on cam. I post about it often. But after seeing this side by side I have to really hulk self care now legit.

    I'm going to try longer meditation sessions when camming plus throw in an hour of yoga a day.

    Can you relate? Have you noticed the effect camming has had on your health? If you can relate & think self care needs to become a priority...please use this thread to post your intentions, self care routine, etc.

    May the force be with you.

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    Yes , I started camming as a freight train who would bull doze through anything many years ago.. almost 2 decades and now to the lil engine who can't. It is literally murder on you... Very important to practice self care.. camming will literally give you cancer from the stress... I am seriously ready to sell my house and make a big change because it's destroying my health big time.

    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_ShaSha View Post
    This is where I was at stress wise during a meditation session before becoming a full time cam girl. Avg BPM for a 20 min meditation yielded mid forties. It's really rather impressive & something I'm proud of.

    fitbit_sharing_8786425060489773134.png


    This is my new average as a full time cam girl. Avg BPM for a 20 min meditation session now yeilds low sixties. It's alarming & quite evident the job is highly stressful.

    fitbit_sharing_8469178823772463846.png

    You can find me engaging in a lot of self care on cam. I post about it often. But after seeing this side by side I have to really hulk self care now legit.

    I'm going to try longer meditation sessions when camming plus throw in an hour of yoga a day.

    Can you relate? Have you noticed the effect camming has had on your health? If you can relate & think self care needs to become a priority...please use this thread to post your intentions, self care routine, etc.

    May the force be with you.

    Namaste <3

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    It's so real it's scary. I used to have a resting heart rate of 38 BPM. Now...no way. The emotional distress has increased my resting rate to 49 BPM.

    In addition to this plan, I'm going to keep training aerobic on the bike 30 min M-F.

    Thanks for validating. Your reality is important to hear about. Thanks!
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    Here's a small for instance:.. I have been fighting Acid reflux,,.. I have the silent LPR reflux and the GERD.. the instant I get online I start to not breathe.. because anxiety and stress can trigger acid reflux.. all day long I am usually good if I am eating the right foods.. I do not even have to do anything wrong other than to press start show to trigger acid reflux.. after being on cam for about 20 mins or so my body calms down and gets in cam mode.... That's what pisses me off about these cam customers.. they think this is not stressful and in fact it's the most stressful job I have ever had to date. Your welcome... but I don't think this is good for our health at all. and NO one should be on cam as long as I have .. NO ONE!.. unless they are very minimally part time.

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    It's so real it's scary. I used to have a resting heart rate of 38 BPM. Now...no way. The emotional distress has increased my resting rate to 49 BPM.

    In addition to this plan, I'm going to keep training aerobic on the bike 30 min M-F.

    Thanks for validating. Your reality is important to hear about. Thanks!

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    This is one of the reasons I am trying to get as comfortable as I can, as a camgirl. Raise the prices, don't use toys, don't bend over to what members ask, soon going full fetish and non nude. I take the days off when it's my birthday or there's an important family event and so on.
    It's not worthing the stress.
    That's why I feel sorry I didn't take advantage to my first 3-4 years, to cam 12 hours a day back then. I could have had retired, or at least, take it easier from then.
    Nevermind, I know what I have to do now.

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    Me2.. I don't work on my birthday and take most holidays off and TRY not to work on these SM contests....lol.. It's just the sheer fact that they are irritating.. it's so offensive and insulting they expect us to work for free.. I think the free loaders are the most stressful of it all.. that's the real problem.. they really need to change things to not allow all these freeloaders and really make it a REAL pay site.. all the sites.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cutie101 View Post
    This is one of the reasons I am trying to get as comfortable as I can, as a camgirl. Raise the prices, don't use toys, don't bend over to what members ask, soon going full fetish and non nude. I take the days off when it's my birthday or there's an important family event and so on.
    It's not worthing the stress.
    That's why I feel sorry I didn't take advantage to my first 3-4 years, to cam 12 hours a day back then. I could have had retired, or at least, take it easier from then.
    Nevermind, I know what I have to do now.

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    I found that camming for me itself is not stressful

    It's outside people who have no idea what I do trying to talk about it that were the route of my stress once I eliminated those toxic people my stress dropped to zero and webcam became a game with lots of score boards. and very simple rules.
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    It is not the job causing your stress ladies, it is you. Yes, you. Yes jobs can influence our stress levels, emotions, and mind set, but at the end of the day we are all responsible for our own emotional/physical states of being. That being said I was a hot mess years ago because I allowed stress from this industry to consume me...but at the end of the day you are in control of your thoughts and emotions....so I speak from experience here. I allowed it. I have been in the industry for over a decade, about 15 years now. A majority of that time I was in a negative state of being, and blamed the industry, etc. That set me back years in my own personal development.

    What helped me break out of my dark time:

    Meditation

    Yoga

    Eating a proper diet

    Set hours: I know it is very easy to cam from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed...it is difficult to manage time and we all procrastinate and or stay on sites far too long. I did this for years and it wore on me. Give yourself set hours to work on a live site, and let it be that...even if you did not make your goal. Fuck staying up too late to make $20. We all have a good day one day and a bad day the next. Accept this, it is the reality, the ups and downs will never end! It is how you manage yourself that makes the difference. The feast/famine game will never change but you can change the way you work and how you react to it. A tip is to work on a live site and sell skypes/indy cam. When you are on off hours you can still make money on skype without being live all of the time. Nothing better than taking a few hours to yourself in the am/pm and making $50-100 in a skype show to start off your day! And it makes the live cam hustle that much easier cause you are already ahead of the game! Unless you are late on rent or have unexpected circumstances, there is no reason to stay on a site 8+ hours a day..it does not increase your money. Giving yourself time off will, because you are well rested and have your head in the game, not some exhausted camgirl zombie.

    Law of Attraction: We all get super stressed if we dont make our goals and it is very self destructive. Cam with intention. Affirm you are going to make tons of money/make your goal/overcome financial challenges. Change your mind set about money, and your money will change. Say your affirmations and intentions out loud before you get on cam, and let that shit go. Watch as the money flows to you from many different sources. The key with affirmations is to stop obsessing over them and let the universe work its magic. Have faith in yourself and faith in the universe. If you are constantly in a negative mindset about money, or think it is hard to make, it will be hard to make. That is the reality you are creating for yourself when you think this way. Your thoughts become your reality. Get rid of the scarcity mind set, and take on a mind set of abundance.

    Same goes with the way we think of ourselves for being in the industry/cammers. I resented myself for being in the business for so long for quite some time. Camming was always something I "had to get out of one day" and when that day never came, I had a difficult time accepting myself. Camming is the ultimate blessing and job and I now look at it that way. We have so much opportunity, so much freedom, and so many ways of making money. It isn't some god awful dead end unless you make it that way for yourself. We can all cam into retirement and that is NOT a bad thing. Cammers are the first gen of sex workers who do not have to "retire" at 30. We can cam until we are all grannies, and nowadays I do not think that is all that bad. If you have a disparaging outlook of this industry, it will not work in your favor.

    Opportunities: Yes there are so many ways we can make money. Tipping sites, members sites, snapchat/fans only clubs, clips stores. Stick with one or two means of making money and focus on those. A lot of us spread ourselves way too thin, and that means you are not reaching your full potential. Fuck appearing everywhere online, because "everyone else does." Be a big fish in a little pond, not a little fish in a big pond. Stop trying to keep up with the herd on social media, stop being that "pick me camgirl" always seeking attention in some way shape or form (even if it is business related) It is exhausting, inauthentic and a waste of time. We all know that social media doesnt convert as much as we would like it to, so use it as a means to keep in contact with your existing fans and not attract new ones. Once new fans see how popular you are with your regulars, they will be interested. What they aren't interested in is yet another camgirl spamming all her links all the time. I'd rather have a lot of followers on one social media outlet, than trying to juggle 5 different social media outlets each with less followers. Work smarter, not harder. And blogs rule..what message are you trying to get across in 40 characters or less? Yawn!! Blogs really allow clients to get a feel for you as a person and have a much better opportunity of converting.

    Practicing Mindfulness/Self awareness/Present moment awareness: Cam models are very easily triggered and very reactive. It turns men off to see you bitching complaining and snapping at your customers due to that one rude guy triggering you. If they wanted to see that shit, they would be with their wives/gf's. Keep your personal life drama to yourself as well. I was once upon a time reactive, too. Don't let that one customer ruin your night or the vibe of your room. If you get triggered, take a minute to yourself and pull yourself back into the present moment. Triggers are not the enemy...after you gather yourself, your trigger can help you find the underlying issue and the reason why you are triggered...usually stemming from childhood..and then you can truly work on that. If you get set off any time someone says something that bothers you, you will never survive. It is very important to become non reactive when you are in any line of adult work. It makes your life a hell of a lot easier too. Use camming as a catalyst to be more mindful, and make you more aware of your triggers so you can work on them. People are our mirrors even on cam. If you see something in someone that is bothering you, it is showing you what you must work on as well. As far as present moment awareness, the NOW is the only time we really have and is the only time that is important, but many of us are trapped in past and future. These are all mind stories. Why ruminate on the past, it no longer exists. Why worry about a future that is not here yet. The now is the only thing that matters, and we are missing out on it by living in past/future. This is much easier said than done and I still have a lot of work to do in this department. But once it clicks, you will not believe what a difference this makes. I know they do not have the brain power we do, but animals as an example...do they worry about the future? DO they ruminate on a thing that happened a year ago? NO. Nor should we. Our minds are a blessing and a curse, but most importantly a tool. Like a tool we should put our minds to use when necessary, and when we are done we should put the tool down and live in the moment. Sadly, I see more and more that people allow their minds and emotions to run them and not the other way around. We are all in control of our own thoughts and feelings..this can actually be quite upsetting for some people to hear but it is the reality. If you are stressed, depressed, anxious..you have created that issue and keep indulging yourself in it. On top of that the media exists to put and keep us all in a state of fear and worry, playing on the reality of people with no control over their own minds constantly.

    Negative energy: Do an energy clearing anytime it is needed. Men can throw negative energy our way even on cam. You can protect yourself from this by clearing your energy field before and after camming, and before you get on cam (along with your affirmations) stating that only energy of the greatest good is allowed into your own energy field and home. If you want to go this far, you can ask for divine protection from the universe ask for safety and protection from negative energy. I know this is a lil out there but many cam models are empathetic and can easily take on sour attitudes projected at us from others.

    Breathing: A large majority of society doesn't even breathe right. We are shallow breathers and this increases stress and anxiety. We should all belly breathe, a practice known as diaphragmatic breathing. It is a difficult habit to break but it is possible and will change you and your outlook for the better. To help, I started doing a diaphragmatic breathing guided meditation every morning. This made me more conscious of my pattern of breath throughout the day. The current way we breathe is keeping us in "prey/fear mode" Shallow breathing is part of the fight or flight response and camming is by no means a threat in this way, nor are our day to day very comfortable lives as opposed to our ancestors.

    Stance: Work on your posture and power stances...standing and sitting a certain way will make you appear and feel more powerful and in control.

    Maintain a life/Get out: Go outside on a walk at least once a day and maintain a social life. Many of us become hermits and I am guilty of this to this day. I have never had a large social circle, but that isnt necessary. Just get out of the house once a day. Even if you just walk to get the mail. Stop ordering things online (i know it is hard not to) and go shop for things in person.

    Savings: We all have emergencies and financial challenges. Savings give you a cushion if you need to take time off or have had a shitty month. When you have a good month continue to be frugal as if you are broke. Especially important to put that money aside that is due at tax time and this will save you from owing the IRS a bunch of money.

    Comparisons: Stop worrying about what other camgirls are doing, how popular they appear, how much money they seem to be making. Stop comparing your day to another persons day. The only person you need to worry about is you. The only person you are competing with is yourself. We are all unique individuals with our own talents to offer. If you lose a client to another girl, another new client will come.

    And last but not least, be honest with yourself. If you can't do this, don't. Don't think it will get any easier "once you build a fanbase/work more, etc" It will not. Be true to yourself and your own values, and do not cross your own boundaries for any type of money. The median camgirl makes 30-50k a year before taxes. This is easily obtainable in other jobs. Camming is not easy or fast money and never was. Many of us stay because of the freedom, but it is so easy to start other businesses and remain self employed in this day and age. If you have other goals/dreams...take the freedom and time you have camming and invest it in those dreams. You have nothing to lose. If you fail, you learn. Always another chance, another opportunity. You are never stuck in camming tho at times it can feel that way. If you want out, get out. Only you are holding your back from accomplishing what you really want.

    Just to ensure my message is coming across the way I am hoping it will, I say this all with love and care. When I use the terms we/you I am speaking generally. I have been bitched at in the past for this because people took it as a personal attack and as if I am speaking for everyone. I am not lol. All of the above helped me in my personal journey and camming career, not saying it will help everyone and not attempting to shove the above down everyone's throat. Namaste, bitches.


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    That camming sucks right now thread is a good example of how negative energy can be contagious and how thinking negatively can produce more negativity in our lives. That thread should be closed, not a sticky. It is not positive or helpful. We all need to vent, I get it but jesus...so many girls complaining yet truly doing nothing about it or to better themselves and live in a more positive state, only spreading more negativity. If you want to have a bad day, check out that thread. If you want to have a good one, read the camming rocks right now thread. And see what a difference this makes.


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    Made sure to sleep good. I got 8 hrs & I'm repeating 15 min of abundance positive affirmations.

    I will be meditating on abundance today & will do a 20 min negative energy clearing session as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cyberstripper View Post
    That camming sucks right now thread is a good example of how negative energy can be contagious and how thinking negatively can produce more negativity in our lives. That thread should be closed, not a sticky. It is not positive or helpful. We all need to vent, I get it but jesus...so many girls complaining yet truly doing nothing about it or to better themselves and live in a more positive state, only spreading more negativity. If you want to have a bad day, check out that thread. If you want to have a good one, read the camming rocks right now thread. And see what a difference this makes.
    Lmao. It's really difficult to see either of your posts as helpful, when they're both so judgemental. Telling someone that it's their fault that they're having a bad day. Telling someone that they are to blame for why they hate their job. Wow, what a way to make someone more depressed.

    "It's not your job, it's you". Wow. I didn't realize that it wasn't the customers being racist or cheap towards me. It was me all along!!!

    I'm well aware of the LOA and how it works. Changing your mindset and your thoughts isn't an overnight process.

    Go outside? Lmao. Yep, because that fixes everything!

    You're doing nothing to better yourself? I didn't realize that you knew all of us personally.

    The camming sucks thread spreads nothing but more negativity? No one is forcing you to read it. It's more than just for venting.

    Did you stop and read the posts that were offering advice, or encouragement? Did you see the posts where someone was venting but then said what they were going to do to change it? Did you stop and think that maybe a lot of us don't have people to connect with and talk to, outside of SW, and that is why we vent on here? Maybe because our friends/family, either don't know what we do or don't understand.

    Also, what worked for you isn't always going to work for someone else. You say that people aren't trying to better themselves, if you read the posts, you would know that some of us battle mental illnesses. Every. Damn. Day.

    You don't know any of us. You can't tell by a post, what we are really going through. You cannot say that we are "complaining yet truly doing nothing about it or to better themselves and live in a more positive state" Honestly, that comment can go to hell.

    Also, I like the beliefs of the LOA, but omg, I wish people would stop trying to shove it down everyone's throats. You're just as bad as freaking christians lmao if I wanted people to shove their beliefs in my face, I'd go to church.

    Camming does cause stress. I'm a whole different person now, because of it. I see men in a whole different light now, thanks to camming. I get asked to do race play or just called the n word, thanks to camming. I have people try to be cheap and scam me for a free show, thanks to camming.

    I'm very confident that if I had never started camming, I wouldn't be so depressed. And no, it's not as simple as quitting and getting a vanilla job. Idk if you've read my posts but if you have, you would see that I've been there and done that. Lol


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    In an attempt to start this week on SM profitable, I just meditated on abundance.
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    Just ate a super clean protein meal: asparagus, power greens, and eggs lightly fried in extra virgin olive oil. I'm going to have peach detox tea and 20 ounces of water.

    For lunch I'll be doing a long negative energy clearing session.

    Must keep my vibration high.
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    Default Re: Stress & camming: it's real!

    Quote Originally Posted by cyberstripper View Post
    That camming sucks right now thread is a good example of how negative energy can be contagious and how thinking negatively can produce more negativity in our lives. That thread should be closed, not a sticky. It is not positive or helpful. We all need to vent, I get it but jesus...so many girls complaining yet truly doing nothing about it or to better themselves and live in a more positive state, only spreading more negativity. If you want to have a bad day, check out that thread. If you want to have a good one, read the camming rocks right now thread. And see what a difference this makes.
    Thanks for your input. There was a strategy behind placing the Camming Sucks thread in the stickies. I'm not 100% sure it worked but it did eliminate some things. For awhile we had some posters who were intentionally bumping all the vent threads one after another. Not everyone wants to see that when enter the forum. I decided to break things up since I can't create sub folders.

    I saw this thread yesterday and I knew it was gonna go in this direction. I don't think the OP created this thread as an extension of one of the many other vent threads. Please let's not turn this into another war.

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    Default Re: Stress & camming: it's real!

    I get stressed when guys think im doing this for free and im ONLY online to have fun & look at pictures of their tiny digusting crusty dicks. Like bitch pay me my coin! Im not here for free.

    But i dont think camming has change me the way the op describes. It has changed the following things for me:

    1) Camming has put me off on dominant men like i use to actually be sexually attracted to male n female bdsm porn but now i just feel digust. Like i find myself lately only able to watch female porn.
    2) realized there are a LOT of peods in the world and rasict men in the world.


    I only get stressed lately when i

    1) dont make money or the amount i want
    2) pedos
    3) raceplay calls

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhatGirlDynomite!!! View Post
    Thanks for your input. There was a strategy behind placing the Camming Sucks thread in the stickies. I'm not 100% sure it worked but it did eliminate some things. For awhile we had some posters who were intentionally bumping all the vent threads one after another. Not everyone wants to see that when enter the forum. I decided to break things up since I can't create sub folders.

    I saw this thread yesterday and I knew it was gonna go in this direction. I don't think the OP created this thread as an extension of one of the many other vent threads. Please let's not turn this into another war.
    Thank you for chiming in. I certainly hope to promote a self care thread. Perhaps editing the title can help. Is it possible to do that?
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    So glad I meditated. I'm at low goal. 5 more hrs to stream. Will take lunch in an hr & clear negative energy.

    I've had 40 ounces of water so far. & keeping vibration up.
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    Thank you for chiming in. I certainly hope to promote a self care thread. Perhaps editing the title can help. Is it possible to do that?
    Done!

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    Amazing advice for the newbies and the oldies.. I practice a lot of this stuff.. I am just tired of the immatures on cam.. irritating me.. I am approaching menopause.. so yea there's that.. but thanks for the reminders.

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    It is not the job causing your stress ladies, it is you. Yes, you. Yes jobs can influence our stress levels, emotions, and mind set, but at the end of the day we are all responsible for our own emotional/physical states of being. That being said I was a hot mess years ago because I allowed stress from this industry to consume me...but at the end of the day you are in control of your thoughts and emotions....so I speak from experience here. I allowed it. I have been in the industry for over a decade, about 15 years now. A majority of that time I was in a negative state of being, and blamed the industry, etc. That set me back years in my own personal development.

    What helped me break out of my dark time:

    Meditation

    Yoga

    Eating a proper diet

    Set hours: I know it is very easy to cam from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed...it is difficult to manage time and we all procrastinate and or stay on sites far too long. I did this for years and it wore on me. Give yourself set hours to work on a live site, and let it be that...even if you did not make your goal. Fuck staying up too late to make $20. We all have a good day one day and a bad day the next. Accept this, it is the reality, the ups and downs will never end! It is how you manage yourself that makes the difference. The feast/famine game will never change but you can change the way you work and how you react to it. A tip is to work on a live site and sell skypes/indy cam. When you are on off hours you can still make money on skype without being live all of the time. Nothing better than taking a few hours to yourself in the am/pm and making $50-100 in a skype show to start off your day! And it makes the live cam hustle that much easier cause you are already ahead of the game! Unless you are late on rent or have unexpected circumstances, there is no reason to stay on a site 8+ hours a day..it does not increase your money. Giving yourself time off will, because you are well rested and have your head in the game, not some exhausted camgirl zombie.

    Law of Attraction: We all get super stressed if we dont make our goals and it is very self destructive. Cam with intention. Affirm you are going to make tons of money/make your goal/overcome financial challenges. Change your mind set about money, and your money will change. Say your affirmations and intentions out loud before you get on cam, and let that shit go. Watch as the money flows to you from many different sources. The key with affirmations is to stop obsessing over them and let the universe work its magic. Have faith in yourself and faith in the universe. If you are constantly in a negative mindset about money, or think it is hard to make, it will be hard to make. That is the reality you are creating for yourself when you think this way. Your thoughts become your reality. Get rid of the scarcity mind set, and take on a mind set of abundance.

    Same goes with the way we think of ourselves for being in the industry/cammers. I resented myself for being in the business for so long for quite some time. Camming was always something I "had to get out of one day" and when that day never came, I had a difficult time accepting myself. Camming is the ultimate blessing and job and I now look at it that way. We have so much opportunity, so much freedom, and so many ways of making money. It isn't some god awful dead end unless you make it that way for yourself. We can all cam into retirement and that is NOT a bad thing. Cammers are the first gen of sex workers who do not have to "retire" at 30. We can cam until we are all grannies, and nowadays I do not think that is all that bad. If you have a disparaging outlook of this industry, it will not work in your favor.

    Opportunities: Yes there are so many ways we can make money. Tipping sites, members sites, snapchat/fans only clubs, clips stores. Stick with one or two means of making money and focus on those. A lot of us spread ourselves way too thin, and that means you are not reaching your full potential. Fuck appearing everywhere online, because "everyone else does." Be a big fish in a little pond, not a little fish in a big pond. Stop trying to keep up with the herd on social media, stop being that "pick me camgirl" always seeking attention in some way shape or form (even if it is business related) It is exhausting, inauthentic and a waste of time. We all know that social media doesnt convert as much as we would like it to, so use it as a means to keep in contact with your existing fans and not attract new ones. Once new fans see how popular you are with your regulars, they will be interested. What they aren't interested in is yet another camgirl spamming all her links all the time. I'd rather have a lot of followers on one social media outlet, than trying to juggle 5 different social media outlets each with less followers. Work smarter, not harder. And blogs rule..what message are you trying to get across in 40 characters or less? Yawn!! Blogs really allow clients to get a feel for you as a person and have a much better opportunity of converting.

    Practicing Mindfulness/Self awareness/Present moment awareness: Cam models are very easily triggered and very reactive. It turns men off to see you bitching complaining and snapping at your customers due to that one rude guy triggering you. If they wanted to see that shit, they would be with their wives/gf's. Keep your personal life drama to yourself as well. I was once upon a time reactive, too. Don't let that one customer ruin your night or the vibe of your room. If you get triggered, take a minute to yourself and pull yourself back into the present moment. Triggers are not the enemy...after you gather yourself, your trigger can help you find the underlying issue and the reason why you are triggered...usually stemming from childhood..and then you can truly work on that. If you get set off any time someone says something that bothers you, you will never survive. It is very important to become non reactive when you are in any line of adult work. It makes your life a hell of a lot easier too. Use camming as a catalyst to be more mindful, and make you more aware of your triggers so you can work on them. People are our mirrors even on cam. If you see something in someone that is bothering you, it is showing you what you must work on as well. As far as present moment awareness, the NOW is the only time we really have and is the only time that is important, but many of us are trapped in past and future. These are all mind stories. Why ruminate on the past, it no longer exists. Why worry about a future that is not here yet. The now is the only thing that matters, and we are missing out on it by living in past/future. This is much easier said than done and I still have a lot of work to do in this department. But once it clicks, you will not believe what a difference this makes. I know they do not have the brain power we do, but animals as an example...do they worry about the future? DO they ruminate on a thing that happened a year ago? NO. Nor should we. Our minds are a blessing and a curse, but most importantly a tool. Like a tool we should put our minds to use when necessary, and when we are done we should put the tool down and live in the moment. Sadly, I see more and more that people allow their minds and emotions to run them and not the other way around. We are all in control of our own thoughts and feelings..this can actually be quite upsetting for some people to hear but it is the reality. If you are stressed, depressed, anxious..you have created that issue and keep indulging yourself in it. On top of that the media exists to put and keep us all in a state of fear and worry, playing on the reality of people with no control over their own minds constantly.

    Negative energy: Do an energy clearing anytime it is needed. Men can throw negative energy our way even on cam. You can protect yourself from this by clearing your energy field before and after camming, and before you get on cam (along with your affirmations) stating that only energy of the greatest good is allowed into your own energy field and home. If you want to go this far, you can ask for divine protection from the universe ask for safety and protection from negative energy. I know this is a lil out there but many cam models are empathetic and can easily take on sour attitudes projected at us from others.

    Breathing: A large majority of society doesn't even breathe right. We are shallow breathers and this increases stress and anxiety. We should all belly breathe, a practice known as diaphragmatic breathing. It is a difficult habit to break but it is possible and will change you and your outlook for the better. To help, I started doing a diaphragmatic breathing guided meditation every morning. This made me more conscious of my pattern of breath throughout the day. The current way we breathe is keeping us in "prey/fear mode" Shallow breathing is part of the fight or flight response and camming is by no means a threat in this way, nor are our day to day very comfortable lives as opposed to our ancestors.

    Stance: Work on your posture and power stances...standing and sitting a certain way will make you appear and feel more powerful and in control.

    Maintain a life/Get out: Go outside on a walk at least once a day and maintain a social life. Many of us become hermits and I am guilty of this to this day. I have never had a large social circle, but that isnt necessary. Just get out of the house once a day. Even if you just walk to get the mail. Stop ordering things online (i know it is hard not to) and go shop for things in person.

    Savings: We all have emergencies and financial challenges. Savings give you a cushion if you need to take time off or have had a shitty month. When you have a good month continue to be frugal as if you are broke. Especially important to put that money aside that is due at tax time and this will save you from owing the IRS a bunch of money.

    Comparisons: Stop worrying about what other camgirls are doing, how popular they appear, how much money they seem to be making. Stop comparing your day to another persons day. The only person you need to worry about is you. The only person you are competing with is yourself. We are all unique individuals with our own talents to offer. If you lose a client to another girl, another new client will come.

    And last but not least, be honest with yourself. If you can't do this, don't. Don't think it will get any easier "once you build a fanbase/work more, etc" It will not. Be true to yourself and your own values, and do not cross your own boundaries for any type of money. The median camgirl makes 30-50k a year before taxes. This is easily obtainable in other jobs. Camming is not easy or fast money and never was. Many of us stay because of the freedom, but it is so easy to start other businesses and remain self employed in this day and age. If you have other goals/dreams...take the freedom and time you have camming and invest it in those dreams. You have nothing to lose. If you fail, you learn. Always another chance, another opportunity. You are never stuck in camming tho at times it can feel that way. If you want out, get out. Only you are holding your back from accomplishing what you really want.

    Just to ensure my message is coming across the way I am hoping it will, I say this all with love and care. When I use the terms we/you I am speaking generally. I have been bitched at in the past for this because people took it as a personal attack and as if I am speaking for everyone. I am not lol. All of the above helped me in my personal journey and camming career, not saying it will help everyone and not attempting to shove the above down everyone's throat. Namaste, bitches.

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    In an attempt to combat stress, I've meditated 3 times today. I'm happy to report my vibration has stayed high & sales are good.

    I'm on lunch. I just did a negative energy clearing session with positive results: low resting heart rate.

    I'm having veggie spaghetti & 20 ounces of water.

    I'm at low goal & intend to exceed high goal with this positive mindset.

    Namaste <3
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    Ill be honest, I dont often find camming too stressful - probably because I dont pull as many hours as most, tho on slow weeks I definitely do feel the stress. Generally my self care is working on my diet, treats for after finishing a shift, taking days off and seeing friends. Im hoping to get a gym membership to as I always found exercise amazing for stress

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    ^^I have to agree with your self care strategy. I do find treating myself to a glass of wine after a long shift while watching stand up comedy such good stress relief. And social medicine? YES! I try to get out once a week with the girls for happy hour or have dinner with a friend.

    I'm with you on that exercise. I just started training in the gym again. It truly helps me feel better energy wise and also accomplishment wise.

    Thanks for your input!
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    I have engaged in self care all day: eaten clean, hydrated optimally, repeated positive affirmations, taken breaks when needed, and meditated several times today.

    I'm happy to report that all this self care has resulted in meeting high goal and I still have 2 more hours to stream. Will take one last 10 minute break then finish off the 8 hr day.

    I plan to do an hr of yoga after my shift.

    I'm so truly grateful.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ravenskyy View Post
    Lmao. It's really difficult to see either of your posts as helpful, when they're both so judgemental. Telling someone that it's their fault that they're having a bad day. Telling someone that they are to blame for why they hate their job. Wow, what a way to make someone more depressed.

    "It's not your job, it's you". Wow. I didn't realize that it wasn't the customers being racist or cheap towards me. It was me all along!!!

    I'm well aware of the LOA and how it works. Changing your mindset and your thoughts isn't an overnight process.

    Go outside? Lmao. Yep, because that fixes everything!

    You're doing nothing to better yourself? I didn't realize that you knew all of us personally.

    The camming sucks thread spreads nothing but more negativity? No one is forcing you to read it. It's more than just for venting.

    Did you stop and read the posts that were offering advice, or encouragement? Did you see the posts where someone was venting but then said what they were going to do to change it? Did you stop and think that maybe a lot of us don't have people to connect with and talk to, outside of SW, and that is why we vent on here? Maybe because our friends/family, either don't know what we do or don't understand.

    Also, what worked for you isn't always going to work for someone else. You say that people aren't trying to better themselves, if you read the posts, you would know that some of us battle mental illnesses. Every. Damn. Day.

    You don't know any of us. You can't tell by a post, what we are really going through. You cannot say that we are "complaining yet truly doing nothing about it or to better themselves and live in a more positive state" Honestly, that comment can go to hell.

    Also, I like the beliefs of the LOA, but omg, I wish people would stop trying to shove it down everyone's throats. You're just as bad as freaking christians lmao if I wanted people to shove their beliefs in my face, I'd go to church.

    Camming does cause stress. I'm a whole different person now, because of it. I see men in a whole different light now, thanks to camming. I get asked to do race play or just called the n word, thanks to camming. I have people try to be cheap and scam me for a free show, thanks to camming.

    I'm very confident that if I had never started camming, I wouldn't be so depressed. And no, it's not as simple as quitting and getting a vanilla job. Idk if you've read my posts but if you have, you would see that I've been there and done that. Lol
    We are all responsible for our own emotional states...it is the reality and not an insult. I have no idea why you are taking my post as a personal attack. I even made a notation at the bottom to ensure nobody would take it this way lol. And talk about the hypocritical outlook you have of me, passing your judgement on me. When you call someone judgmental, you are in fact judging them.

    That being said, I am not responsible for your reaction to me either...have a good day.

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