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    That is horrible. Work on your relationship with your wife.

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    You can go to marriage counseling together. What you've been trying hasn't worked, so it's a good idea to get help from someone who specializes in the issues you two are going through. Look for sex therapists in your area - they counsel individuals as well as couples.

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    No. Do not let someone guilt you into feeling bad. Touch and companionship is an absolute human necessity and I don't think you are doing anything wrong. It's not ok for any of us to judge. For crying out loud, it's not as though he is having sex outside of marriage. Yes people can always try counseling and work on improving their relationships and at the same time, it is unacceptable to expect someone to forego a basic human need for 10 fucking years. Original poster, I am glad you found a way to make life slightly more tolerable and even somewhat enjoyable at times. In a perfect world we could all be 100% honest and open with our partners and hopefully your relationship can move in that direction but in the meantime, you have to take care of yourself before you can truly have the full cup necessary to take care if someone else. Enjoy. Would it be more ideal if everything was above board and you could tell your wife? Absolutely. We all do the best we can.

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    Wow, we actually get a guy who is saying thank you and being nice and someone immediately gives him shit

    Don't judge other people's situations.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    OP I hope you will post more. Nothing wrong with fantasy, some dancers are very good at it!
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    I PM'd some with Mystery and appreciate her concern.

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    Yea.
    As was discussed, we're not here to judge (& we should NOT judge).
    I wish you all the best, & I hope you can resolve your situation, as you deserve what you want!
    Take care, best to you!


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

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    Hey that's what we're there for and your situation isn't uncommon at all no need to feel bad!

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    Your situation is a common one in longtime marriages. Once the sexual activity fades from a marriage, things can go stale. You can end up feeling deficient and deprived of even the most basic of human needs like physical touch. You are not a bad person for doing what you're doing. It feels good to have someone's attention and be in their company when it seems that they are enjoying it, especially when it's an attractive, younger woman. Also, people need physical touch of some kind. That's why platonic cuddling became such a successful business as well. Sure, there's marriage counselling as others have suggested but people often get set in their own ways the older they get. It's absolutely impossible to change someone like that. It sounds like that's the case here, if you said that you've been trying for 10 years without success with your wife in that department. Sometimes you have to get your needs met through outside sources. Don't feel bad about that. If seeing the dancer makes you feel happy and satisfies your physical needs as well, then do it. You only live once.

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    I found a good lap dancer on best pay porn sites also I'm stupid and tried to post a url and be a spammer[/url]
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    Quote Originally Posted by MrDuckie View Post
    Moderator, please delete this entry. I just meant to compliment dancers, not be offered advice and/or critized by people without a clue.
    Sorry you didn't like the discussion, but no need to insult people because you didn't hear what you wanted. You deleted your own post just fine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    Sorry you didn't like the discussion, but no need to insult people because you didn't hear what you wanted. You deleted your own post just fine.

    I'm sorry, I didn't mean to insult anybody.

    Everybody deserves some harmless enjoyment in life.



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    Quote Originally Posted by MrDuckie View Post
    I'm sorry, I didn't mean to insult anybody.
    Apology accepted, I'm sure. They do have a clue, BTW, and these are women who get paid hundreds and even thousands a night to talk - giving you their thoughts for free!

    But let's put that behind us. Give us an update, how are you doing? Been to any clubs lately?
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    So I didn't get a chance to read the deleted OP, but I have a feeling I am in the same boat. Long time marriage here and we are pretty much like roommates, different rooms, together for the kids... I started going to clubs as a way to experience a little bit of pep in my life. I have made some good friends of dancers that I take care of and had some wonderful conversations. I used to feel guilty, but then I thought why? I have worked on my marriage, things are not going to improve and I am fulfilling what I need while also helping people out. In all honesty, going to a club allows me to act like a gentleman and makes me feel good about myself. Sometimes you do need to look after yourself, especially if stuck in a tough situation. Hope this makes sense...

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    Mr Bahuba, I've amended that OP so that it doesn't sound negative. Yes, I do occasionally visit that same club and visit with the same very nice lady.
    Last edited by MrDuckie; 12-10-2019 at 02:52 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrDuckie View Post
    I've learned that dancers are the same as everyone else, except their jobs have a social stigma to some people. For me, without being too political, ICE has a lot more social stigma... and there are MANY other jobs that have much less social benefit.
    Interesting hypothesis.

    Do ICE agents' applications for apartments and mortgages get turned down when they disclose their jobs?

    Can their jobs be levied against them in court to deny them custody of their children?

    Have they ever had their Airbnb or Paypal account suspended because of their job?

    Have they ever experienced a raid, police violence/rape or incarceration because of their job?

    There's no comparison between strippers and ICE agents. We face systemic discrimination in addition to the "social stigma."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winged Dinghy View Post
    Interesting hypothesis.

    Do ICE agents' applications for apartments and mortgages get turned down when they disclose their jobs?

    Can their jobs be levied against them in court to deny them custody of their children?

    Have they ever had their Airbnb or Paypal account suspended because of their job?

    Have they ever experienced a raid, police violence/rape or incarceration because of their job?

    There's no comparison between strippers and ICE agents. We face systemic discrimination in addition to the "social stigma."
    This is extremely sad! I work in the cannabis industry (legal state) and know all too well about social stigma and discrimination with banking, accounts, kids, etc.... One day I hope people wake up and realize there are more ways to feed ones family/take care of themselves than the vanilla industries available.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winged Dinghy View Post
    Interesting hypothesis.

    Do ICE agents' applications for apartments and mortgages get turned down when they disclose their jobs?

    Can their jobs be levied against them in court to deny them custody of their children?

    Have they ever had their Airbnb or Paypal account suspended because of their job?

    Have they ever experienced a raid, police violence/rape or incarceration because of their job?

    There's no comparison between strippers and ICE agents. We face systemic discrimination in addition to the "social stigma."
    Miss Winged, I should have Capitalized “FOR ME”. Generally speaking you are 100% right and I agree. I apologize for not being more clear.

    Everybody deserves some harmless enjoyment in life.



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