I started going to my local club regularly about 2 years ago. I’d go maybe once a month but occasionally I’d visit 2-3 times in say a two week period. Then I may not go for a month or two. You get the idea. So not knowing much about clubs, I think I established myself as a high spender right out of the gate.
I always sit at the stage if there’s a spot right away. I tip several dollars to each girl that dances in front of me. If she stays and chats while on stage, I’ll tip a few more. I tip the girl that brings my drinks, and whenever someone makes change for me. Which is occasionally the bouncer. If a girl sits and talks to me for a while I tip her too. All that I think establishes a good rapport and it’s worked. I am treated very well and some things (not extras, like using my phone to make a call NOT take pics, I’m not an asshole) have been over looked when I see it strictly enforced with others.
Also I buy several lap dances and have done a VIP at nearly every visit. My couple regulars know me and approach me about dances and VIPs which I often take them up on. (Unless I have someone else in mind that night). The girls are friendly and give me plenty of attention because they know I spend. The very few times I did not but a VIP I told them upfront I won’t be buying a VIP tonight, so they know right away so I’m not wasting their time. Often they’ll still chat with me regardless. The last time I went I I didn’t sit at the stage. Because I tip a lot at the stage (far more then people I’m sitting next to.) It just feels cheap and creepy to sit front row for a buck. I’d say at the top rail, if there’s 3 dancers I’ll easily go through $20 in 5 mins and that’s if none of them stop and chat with me from the stage.
But if I sit in a back row, I feel less like an asshole walking up and tipping a $1-2 per song, and honestly sometimes I prefer to be away from the stage and crowd and just enjoy my beer. And maybe but a dance or two and that’s it. I think in the beginning I was awestruck but now that it’s not so “new” for me, and I’m also realizing I cannot not afford to keep dropping $500-$800 (or more once) a night, I’d like to mix in high spending visits with more conservative nights.
My worry? I don’t want the girls to think I’m a cheap asshole now. Do I say “hey I can’t be dropping that kind of cash every time I’m here, but I’ll let you know yo front so you don’t waste your time” I continue tipping what I do at the rail. I just mean it would be nice to sit further back, (still tip) but it would be less. And get a lap dance or two after I’ve had time to chill. (I should mention I give a substantial tip with LD and VIP. And I do plan to still have high spending nights, just not every single visit anymore.
What would you think about this? I feel like I’m saying, “oh so I don’t have as much money as I need for the good stuff so I’m just gonna creep you from the back row for less”.
Is that how a dancer sees it?
Thanks!
TLDR : I spend lots each visit, LD VIP heavy tipper at rail entire night. Want to have so slower nights where I sit further back, still too but not so heavy since not at the rail, and by a LD or two, will the dancers start to think I’m an asshole. BTW I’d tell them up front when I’m not spending big so to not waste their time.


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