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    Default How do you feel when known high spenders (regulars) come in but then don’t spend?

    I started going to my local club regularly about 2 years ago. I’d go maybe once a month but occasionally I’d visit 2-3 times in say a two week period. Then I may not go for a month or two. You get the idea. So not knowing much about clubs, I think I established myself as a high spender right out of the gate.
    I always sit at the stage if there’s a spot right away. I tip several dollars to each girl that dances in front of me. If she stays and chats while on stage, I’ll tip a few more. I tip the girl that brings my drinks, and whenever someone makes change for me. Which is occasionally the bouncer. If a girl sits and talks to me for a while I tip her too. All that I think establishes a good rapport and it’s worked. I am treated very well and some things (not extras, like using my phone to make a call NOT take pics, I’m not an asshole) have been over looked when I see it strictly enforced with others.
    Also I buy several lap dances and have done a VIP at nearly every visit. My couple regulars know me and approach me about dances and VIPs which I often take them up on. (Unless I have someone else in mind that night). The girls are friendly and give me plenty of attention because they know I spend. The very few times I did not but a VIP I told them upfront I won’t be buying a VIP tonight, so they know right away so I’m not wasting their time. Often they’ll still chat with me regardless. The last time I went I I didn’t sit at the stage. Because I tip a lot at the stage (far more then people I’m sitting next to.) It just feels cheap and creepy to sit front row for a buck. I’d say at the top rail, if there’s 3 dancers I’ll easily go through $20 in 5 mins and that’s if none of them stop and chat with me from the stage.

    But if I sit in a back row, I feel less like an asshole walking up and tipping a $1-2 per song, and honestly sometimes I prefer to be away from the stage and crowd and just enjoy my beer. And maybe but a dance or two and that’s it. I think in the beginning I was awestruck but now that it’s not so “new” for me, and I’m also realizing I cannot not afford to keep dropping $500-$800 (or more once) a night, I’d like to mix in high spending visits with more conservative nights.

    My worry? I don’t want the girls to think I’m a cheap asshole now. Do I say “hey I can’t be dropping that kind of cash every time I’m here, but I’ll let you know yo front so you don’t waste your time” I continue tipping what I do at the rail. I just mean it would be nice to sit further back, (still tip) but it would be less. And get a lap dance or two after I’ve had time to chill. (I should mention I give a substantial tip with LD and VIP. And I do plan to still have high spending nights, just not every single visit anymore.

    What would you think about this? I feel like I’m saying, “oh so I don’t have as much money as I need for the good stuff so I’m just gonna creep you from the back row for less”.
    Is that how a dancer sees it?
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    TLDR : I spend lots each visit, LD VIP heavy tipper at rail entire night. Want to have so slower nights where I sit further back, still too but not so heavy since not at the rail, and by a LD or two, will the dancers start to think I’m an asshole. BTW I’d tell them up front when I’m not spending big so to not waste their time.

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    Default Re: How do you feel when known high spenders (regulars) come in but then don’t spend?

    There are plenty of guys who come to strip clubs just to sit and watch the ladies and only tip a dollar or two or nothing at all. Those kinds of guys are annoying, especially if you're the type that expects strippers to want to sit and talk to you for free. Time is money in a strip club. While strip clubs may be a nice way for you to relax and unwind, it is a workplace for strippers. They are there to make money. I guess on the days when you don't plan on buying any dances or going VIP, just be upfront with them about it so as not to piss them off and waste their time trying to get you to buy a lap dance or VIP.

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    Thanks for replying! Like I said I’d still buy dances, just not vip. And rather then sit at the tip rail all night I’d rather hang back (still tip but it’s less) and move up to the rail later on after I’ve had some drinks. And like I said I am always up front about my spending, and I would tell anyone that approached me that I may do a dance with them later but no vip tonight.

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    Default Re: How do you feel when known high spenders (regulars) come in but then don’t spend?

    Have you thought about going less often and just marshaling your resources to have fewer but better visits?

    I'm not saying that you're doing anything wrong. It sounds like you're being very upfront by telling favorites that you're not buying VIP. You also still do some spending, albeit less than on the bigger nights. You are under no obligation to spend at high levels on any club trip.

    But as a fellow club customer, I just couldn't sit there and be a spectator. I'd be frustrated about not being able to pull the trigger on full fun. I might also be tempted to spend money I shouldn't. Idk, but when I'm less liquid, I'd rather find another form of entertainment, like treating myself to a nice steak or a ballgame.

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    Default Re: How do you feel when known high spenders (regulars) come in but then don’t spend?

    I would honestly cut back the visits unless you are doing at least a few dances with someone. Your call of course but then you'll know you'll enjoy / the dancers will enjoy ect.

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    Default Re: How do you feel when known high spenders (regulars) come in but then don’t spend?

    Just go to the regular club/bar/hooters/etc then after that go to the adult entertainment with your allotted budget 45 min from closing time....voila!

    No need to explain finances and you still get to have fun in a short time frame

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    Default Re: How do you feel when known high spenders (regulars) come in but then don’t spend?

    Not too sure what sort of response you are expecting....

    We obviously will give you our time if you are spending money with us but we can’t make you...

    I will say, if I recognize a customer who danced with me previously and he declines to dance with me, I won’t go back to him to chat/ask for a dance next time I see him unless he clearly indicates or says that he wants me to come over. So just be prepared that you may be alienating girls you enjoyed. I agree with others, just hold off on visits for when you’re more comfortable with spending, everyone will have a better experience including you.

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    Default Re: How do you feel when known high spenders (regulars) come in but then don’t spend?

    Thank you all for replies. Decided to cut back a bit on visits, and shorten time there. And spend mainly on one dancer (LD and vip) rather than several dancers in one visit. I am still spending, but less since I’m focused on one dancer (of course tip all on stage though)

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    I endorse this plan.

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