Why does this bother me so much, and what areas is this the norm in?? Thanks
I'll start off the list:
Iowa (from personal experience) yuck
San Antonio (someone informed me)
Indiana (I've been informed)



Why does this bother me so much, and what areas is this the norm in?? Thanks
I'll start off the list:
Iowa (from personal experience) yuck
San Antonio (someone informed me)
Indiana (I've been informed)
Last edited by random stripper; 06-09-2019 at 07:00 AM.




Yes. Iowa-yuck! I hate being touched unexpectedly. There’s too many things that can go wrong. I don’t encourage it but when all the other girls do it it’s hard to keep their hands off me. . I have no idea how this got started but I’d like to strangle the first stripper that started this.
I’ve heard Indiana is high contact on stage




Indiana. *personal experience* Guys expect you to get into their laps for a damn dollar. I came from Connecticut, so I seemed like a prude when I started working here lol guys aren't allowed to touch you in CT and customers get in trouble for that. But nope, not in this backwards ass state! I have to wear pasties here but men expect me to give them a dollar lap dance! Customers literally get on stage and lie down, expecting you to dance on top of them! For a freaking dollar! Never! Screw Indiana!![]()



I mean I was only in that state dancing for a week, and didn't ever see guys touching girls all over while they are on stage or at all really. Also never encountered guys getting on stage and laying down wtf. But I'll believe this. Was this in multiple clubs in Indiana?
Maybe I just wasnt there long enough or not paying enough attention? But just really didnt encounter all of this over there.



Aww, I really wanted to try the Lumberyard in Des Moines at some point. Aside from the stage contact, is it all that bad?
Laying down on stage is definitely a weird thing. :o San Antonio isn’t quite that extreme either. It’s more like there’s a lot of touching boobs/motorboating or a quick couple second grind from the stage going on. Not a full on thing like that.
???
Move to the center of that bitch (outside of arms reach)
Climb up the pole (outside of arms reach)
Prance around the stage (so they can’t touch)
That’s really messed up dudes feel entitled to grope n touch especially on the main floor. Should be allowed to end stage early and take them to ATM or VIP as soon as they start touching
The ironic thing is that this is more common with the 40s+ crowd in San Antonio. For like $2-3. But I let them touch for a couple of seconds cause they are less likely to get dances otherwise. I guess they think your lapdances will suck if you don’t?
The younger ones are more likely to prefer you to put on a show with twerking or pole, rather than touch. And more apt to make it rain.




I don’t know it depends on what your use to. Every club has pros and cons. My biggest pet peeve is being unexpectedly touched. I like to have control over what’s going on. I’m too old to deal with a party club atmosphere. Ive always tolerated the party vibe, but I’ve never been a party girl. So don’t let my negativite opinion disuade you. There’s also lots of Iowa hunks and people are pretty friendly and easy going. I think I’m at an age that I could bank at a low key classy club with regulars. Now I have the gift of gab. When I was in my twenties I only knew how to make money by being groped.
Last edited by Ifyouseekamy; 06-09-2019 at 08:30 PM.
At the club I was at in Houston (was in a veeeery nice area though), customers were allowed to touch girls on stage. BUT, if they were getting too handsy or were becoming too much/pushy, the owner would kick them out. It just depends on the club.
I didn't like people touching me, so I tried to stay glued to that damn pole in the center of the stage. It helped a lot. Also, the more you're walking around, the harder you are to touch.



I just don't understand where people even get the idea it is ok to touch the girls on stage. That should not be a thing unless the guy is tipping quite fucking well imo.
Imo this industry is gonna go to hell without some minimum standards because many of us refuse to put up with this shit.

I definitely agree with this. I've talked to a lot of girls who complain about the industry, extras, cheap dancers etc. I don't really know what to say to that.. You could always quit. It would be nice not to have to deal with it, but I don't see the industry going back to what it was.
We are not supposed to be touched onstage here, but it's tolerated IF the dancer permits. I personally can't stand that shit unless the customer is paying me enough. I also feel like other customers who see me being groped onstage would be turned off by it.. Possibly hurting my money.





There is some light touching on stage where I am.
Most actually don't touch unless you are interacting with them ( inviting it really ).
If they get creepy, just scoot back, easy.
Last edited by carmen_b; 06-10-2019 at 09:13 AM.



No, not onstage. Unless it's on the small stage in the VIP upstairs where customers are upclose.
The main stage and the other satellite stage, there's a catwalk in front of it with rail and table-platform and seats. Basically, a tip rail. Yes, guys tend be perverted. Tipping one dollar while sliding their hand up and down upon my inner thigh close to the V. Don't like it but whatever. Hate when there's no one tipping and being there for two songs naked in the tip rail.



You know what, I am not even gonna get into how fucking disgusting and cheap all this shit is.
But if you are one of the girls actively encouraging guys to touch you on stage for like $4 please fall into a volcano.
You make it hard for the rest of us that don't wanna be molested for cheap.
If it is sexual assault for a random dude to grab at my boob or ass in real life, is it not sexual assault for a random dude to grab at me on stage without my consent?
When a million girls do this then guys expect it from everyone. Then some of these same girls bitch about how hard it is to sell dances or how nasty these guys are for a simple $20 dance. Bitch, what do you expect when a guy only tips you like $3 then you grab his hands and put them on your breasts on stage. There is no fucking upsell at this point unless you're a straight whore. End of discussion.
I can't wait to leave this area in the very near future. It wasn't so wild a year ago. Now just a cesspool of cheap bitches and nasty mofos.
Please, just stop with the extreme desperation. The guys will still spend if they like the product, you.
Last edited by random stripper; 06-10-2019 at 02:26 PM.

no, its not,
by CHOOSING to work at a club that allows this behavior you ARE consenting to it!!
if you don't want to consent to that type of activity, then don't work there
don't complain about it, when its your own choice to be there or not, unless you own the club, you don't make the rules



Sexual assault is sexual assault no matter where it's happening. You might as well say she had it coming since she chose to work there. Let me guess -- in your mind, working at an extras club = consent to be raped by customers? Because that's where you're going with this line of thinking.
Justifications like yours are the reason that this sort of behaviour continues both ITC and IRL.
OP, unfortunately if your city isn't no-contact this seems to be pretty prevalent -- but dependent on club culture as to whether not permitting it will kill your sale chances. In DC -- obviously not a problem and it wasn't tolerated when it did happen; in that respect at least, things tend to go in the dancer's favour. In MD ... ICK. In TX, I found it to be hit or miss but worth the effort to be a little extra vigilant and try to intercept hands before they went where I didn't want them to go. I certainly lost my share of sales after refusing to motorboat or kicking heads after fingers crossed into no-fly zones. It's beyond frustrating and whoever started this trend can rot in hell, but those aren't the kind of customers a decent dancer wants anyway -- disrespectful and pushy.
I just glanced through tina4u’s posting history. It’s a troll.



I wonder how a no-contact low-mileage club look/operates/functions like.
I heard Chicago is a no-contact city. I'll book a flight there one day to check the clubs. Though, from hearing guys, they're not fond of talking Chicago strip clubs comparing to Miami's.





About the only no touch club (that I'm aware of) is Admiral.
There's a recent dancer's review, in Clubs/reviews.
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt





& just an aside, some people on here kinda sound iron fisted
Isn't IA affected by flooding?
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt



I'm only bitching about dudes putting their hands on girls on stage to be clear. Not bitching about girls putting their tits in a guy's face on stage or touching during dances/private rooms etc.





I dont know if I'd say troll but seems like a man. Def someone with a huge attitude problem and chip on their shoulder.
Ignoring tina4u.... No you shouldn't put up with this. My club booted someone out last night for this exact thing so its def not the norm everywhere.
If it's technically not allowed at your club, as in its in your contract or posted somewhere saying "do not touch the entertainers", I would tell customers to knock it off and possibly make a scene to some degree when it happens.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."
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