Hi ya'll. I'm not the best writer, but I'd like to share a story of something I've recently/am currently dealing with.
2016 -
I was just getting on my feet with MFC. A client comes in and we hit it off through PM. He finishes my topic, we have an awesome private, all is well.
The client proceeds to stop by more often. He tips super well, and he seems decent enough after skyping with him a few times. He has a very niche fetish, and I reincarnate the fantasy entirely too well.
I was star-struck. I'd caught the biggest whale i've ever had. When he would "innocently" hit me up on skype seeing how I was, I had zero issues responding. Why would I? My weekly goal was pretty much met by him, and it required much less work. (OR, so I thought.)
Fast forward a few months -
Client is in my room every single time I stream. [Red flag.] He's still tipping exorbitant amounts, online and offline, so it doesn't bother me so much. Our small chit chats on skype have turned into full-blown daily conversations. But...I'm only streaming 2-3 times a week now. The rest of the time is just filled up with making some clips and texting on skype. I thought, cool - Texting is easy AF. This job has gotten so easy!
2017 -
Client has not missed a single stream. [Red flag.] He's still tipping exorbitant amounts, online and offline, but i'm starting to get a little concerned as to why he's ALWAYS on. But - one of the goals of being a cam-model is to get that person hooked on you. OK, so, maybe he just REALLY likes hanging out and blowing through his paycheck weekly on online porn. IDK. A little weird, but whatever. The conversations seem to solely revolve around his niche. Texting used to feel easy, but now it's starting to feel harder then camming. The conversations seem to repeat. At times I wonder if this is what the twilight zone actually is. Alright - He's definitely a tad obsessed. Milk it?
Fast forward a few months -
Client has not missed a single stream. He's still tipping exorbitant amounts, online and offline. Amazon wishlist'ing, too. What a shit mistake on my end. For a brief period, I didn't have my P.O box and when I moved, I switched the wishlist address to mine for the time-being. During that time, one of the items was not delivered and was returned to client with the address of where it was supposed to go. Upon learning that information, a quick google search and BAM - there's my name.
He told me not to worry and to take down the wishlist in case this ever happens. As shitty of a moment that was, I wasn't totally concerned. This person has given so much and does genuinely attempt to better my life. He even proof-read my college essays, for hecks sake.
End of 2017 -
Client has not missed a single stream. Still tipping excessively. Client is now attempting to help out with making me content. He is basically taking privates recorded on MFC and giving them to me. Double-edge whammy because occasionally I can make use of the content but most of the time, I hate it. Client gets frustrated and upset when I don't want to use the content. Makes any attempt at trying to fix it for the better. I'm starting to feel really exhausted talking all the time. I feel like I have no privacy. He won't go away. He continues having the same conversation over and over. I'm starting to lose my mind. I barely stream anymore. I don't feel motivated to make clips anymore. At least I still don't have to worry about money. Thank goodness for savings. Oh, and he sent a christmas card. It was creepy.
*****Yes. I could have blocked him. But someone that has been this invested in me, on top of knowing personal information really sketched me out. I didn't want to create a conflict. Who the f**k knows what he's capable of?****
Start of 2018 -
Client has not missed a stream, but I'm barely on anymore. Still tipping. It fluctuates, but it's still good $. Barely making clips either. I've resorted to just posting the clips so he shuts the f**k up about them. He gets really annoyed when I don't respond. I've been trying to keep busy and say as such, but the messages just continue and continue. I'm actually going insane. So many red flags showing up, and yet I feel completely vulnerable. It's a miracle I still have some other fans. He feels like a cockroach that never leaves. I'm feeling disheartens. Idk what to do. How do I get out of this shit mess? Do I just quit?
Mid 2018 -
Client has not missed a stream, barely on. Tipping is slowing down, but now that I'm so used to not being online, it feels like literal hell. I've been way too spoiled throughout all of this. I decided to make a NF account under a different alias name and twitter just to have some space. Literally everywhere but NF is infested with him. Why won't he stop messaging me? Doesn't he have better things to do with his time then make me shitty clips and talk all day?
Late 2018 -
Client has not missed a stream, tipping is steady but slower. I broke down. I said that I couldn't continue talking the way I have been. I've become pretty busy. Client takes it rough. Guilt trips. Says manipulative things. I still continue to chat, but it's way less. This is the start of getting the fuck away.
Early 2019 -
Client has not missed a stream. Tipping is less. I say something horrible has happened on skype and I'll no longer be active. The only way he can communicate with me now is MV and twitter. I'm hoping he gets bored and moves on. I've stopped posting his clips, and pretty much any clip at this point.
He is a big fan of another model. He was making her clips too. Apparently, she trusted him so much that she decided to give him ACCESS TO HER MV ACCOUNT. He literally posts most of her clips now. Pretty sure he's going crazy with spending on her now since I'm not getting much. IDC. AT ALL. Please - have another obsession other then me. It's actually disgusting - He even sends me the finished copy of whatever he's done and says I should give feedback. Lmao. Psycho psycho psycho psycho psycho.
He now only contacts me via MV. I respond to appease, but things have become much more blunt.
Current:
Client has not missed a stream, but he hasn't tipped in a month. My college is finished and it's expected that I'd be online much more. I decided to throw a big lie out there and say that I found a contract job (Full time.) I'm in the process of rebranding my entire business with strict blocks and geo-blocks. New twitter, tweets protected, new everything. My goal is to basically disappear from this person's internet as best as I possibly can. I feel the safest from his presence on CMD, CB, and NF, so I'll probably be riding those out for awhile until some time has passed. This person knows too much about me, his demeanor has become full blown-creepy, and I'm not in the best position to get up and move. Luckily, the fans I still have understand that I've been dealing with someone like him and it's just the best idea that I came up with.
MORAL OF THE STORY:
Clingy customers, especially investor-type clients, can overall seriously damage your cam-career if it's taken too far. In my case, it went WAY further then I ever wanted it to, and I became so reliant on his high spending that I continued to feed into his narcissism and manipulative nature. Do everything in your power to protect your personal information. I was so DUMB to ever do something like that with my wishlist and I'm paying the price for it now. Make sure you're assertive with your boundaries because I made the mistake of being "too nice." Money can make people do stupid things - and unfortunately I was a stupid person to fall for it.



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