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jack0177057
With a Latina, I speak the language - "Mi amor! Mi belleza!" I can say in Spanish something like, "I love your Latina curves." We can talk about salsa music, reggaeton, Latino culture, etc. Many of them are very ethnic and like ethnic compliments. For example, "I love Puerto Rican girls! Only a Puerto Rican [or Columbian, Dominican, etc.] can have a body like that!" and this is well received.
But, if I say, "I love your Black curves? Only a black girl has curves like that!", is this cool or will I be accused of fetishizing black women? I don't know. That was the whole point of this thread. Some here suggest I leave the word "black" out of my compliments. It is very different with Latinas.
What weird stereotypical statements have I made?
That's not at all what I said. I said I can't tell them apart. Unless, they speak Spanish, Jamaican or Haitian, or are dressed in their ethnic clothing (or dancing to ethnic music, singing ethnic songs, etc.), I cannot tell Afro-Caribbean or Afro-Latinos apart from African-Americans. (And before you get upset about this, I guarantee that you would not be able to tell me apart from Puerto Rican, Colombian, Mexican, Venezuelen, etc. Also, I don't think all Afro-Caribbeans consider themselves Afro-Latinos. For example, Haitians do not speak any Spanish and are not Latinos.) We had lots of dark-skinned Dominicans in my NYC neighborhood and part of my extended family is Dominican by marriage and offspring. I've known a few Jamaicans and Haitians, but, that's about the extent of my experience with Afro-Caribbean and Afro-Latinos.
How do you even ask this question? If they are descendants of African slaves, I don't think they will know what nation of Africa their ancestors where kidnapped from. They were robbed of their heritage. Won't this question bring up America's shameful past? Maybe a safer question is, "Do you consider yourself African American?" ? If the answer is no, then, "Carribean?"
What do you consider yourself to be?
One time, I told a black dancer she was pretty and she asked me, "What do you like about me?" I told her I loved her face and her body and the color of her skin and I loved her hair (which turned out to be fake).
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