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    Hello my fellow sluts,

    This post, I'm warning, may be long...

    Years ago, and under a different username I needed advice on how to survive my first day at the club. It's incredible how fast time flies because day one, ended up turning into four years. I learned so much on this website but unfortunately despite learning the what-not-to-dos, I still did them. After my separation with my previous boyfriend, things spiralled out of control because of how devastated I was. I became your stereotypical stripper. I was a mess. I became addicted to crack-cocaine, spent all my money on drinks, would binge on alcohol and drugs until I blacked out and realized the morning after I had been working for free... *cringe* I could go on, and on...

    Then I met someone, who literally saved my life. He helped me get back on my feet. I left the industry for 2.5/3 years (started when I was around 22). I'm medicated for anxiety and depression which has helped me live my life with a completely different attitude and mindset. I have a full time job in the Health Care. I have regular pay cheques, and can provide a roof over my head AND my kids. And all thanks to him helping me reach my full potential. He told me he never wanted me to go back to stripping. He's convinced I'll relapse and possibly end up dead from either a drug overdose, or suicide.

    But I want to go back. I miss being able to express myself sexually, I miss being society's dirty secret, I miss the cash, I miss my collection of shoes. I'm a completely different person now at 28 years old. I have things in my life that I'd be foolish to throw away. He has legitimate concerns but he's wrong.

    I'm thinking about going to a club in a couple weeks to dance every Friday after my day time job. I guess my question is, how would you handle this situation? Also, do any of you have regular day time jobs that you could loose if anyone found out you danced? That's another worry I have...And, have any of you gone back to dancing while taking years off?

    Thank you everyone!

    Skittles, xo

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    Sounds like you had an event filled and full life so far. Also, kudos to you for having the strength and willpower to improve yourself in a situation where many others couldn’t. If you’re comfortable with another source of income, however, then I’d actually recommend staying put and not dancing. That is, if you don’t want to rock the boat on your relationship. If a break up happens—or you’re comfortable risking either an outright breakup, or allowing the relationship quality to suffer—then pick which club you go to VERY carefully, knowing you’re at a higher risk of falling into addictions.

    In the meantime, why not take a pole fitness class or two? And record yourself being sexy on the pole, where you can can rewatch and admire yourself to your heart’s desire Sure then it’s a money expense versus a money gain, but then at least you still can find similar emotional feelings on the positive end.

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    Quote Originally Posted by skittle View Post
    Hello my fellow sluts,

    This post, I'm warning, may be long...

    Years ago, and under a different username I needed advice on how to survive my first day at the club. It's incredible how fast time flies because day one, ended up turning into four years. I learned so much on this website but unfortunately despite learning the what-not-to-dos, I still did them. After my separation with my previous boyfriend, things spiralled out of control because of how devastated I was. I became your stereotypical stripper. I was a mess. I became addicted to crack-cocaine, spent all my money on drinks, would binge on alcohol and drugs until I blacked out and realized the morning after I had been working for free... *cringe* I could go on, and on...

    Then I met someone, who literally saved my life. He helped me get back on my feet. I left the industry for 2.5/3 years (started when I was around 22). I'm medicated for anxiety and depression which has helped me live my life with a completely different attitude and mindset. I have a full time job in the Health Care. I have regular pay cheques, and can provide a roof over my head AND my kids. And all thanks to him helping me reach my full potential. He told me he never wanted me to go back to stripping. He's convinced I'll relapse and possibly end up dead from either a drug overdose, or suicide.

    But I want to go back. I miss being able to express myself sexually, I miss being society's dirty secret, I miss the cash, I miss my collection of shoes. I'm a completely different person now at 28 years old. I have things in my life that I'd be foolish to throw away. He has legitimate concerns but he's wrong.

    I'm thinking about going to a club in a couple weeks to dance every Friday after my day time job. I guess my question is, how would you handle this situation? Also, do any of you have regular day time jobs that you could loose if anyone found out you danced? That's another worry I have...And, have any of you gone back to dancing while taking years off?

    Thank you everyone!

    Skittles, xo
    My honest suggestion is- if you live near any no-alcohol juice bars, go ahead and work in a drug and alcohol free environment.

    If not, don't do it. Too risky and you will definitely lose your LTR.

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    Honestly as a recovering addict I wouldn’t do it if my bottom was a life or death issue. I use the term addict broadly because in my opinion we’re all addicted to something. I dance in a no alcohol bar. I totally agree. If you go back find a juice bar that no has no drama.

    I think RNs are the only ones at risk for losing their license well getting fined anyways. If there’s no paper trail you should be fine. It’s always a gamble. Until I have my RN I don’t give a fuck. What are they gonna do tell me I can’t wipe asses anymore. I’m just kidding, I’m applying as a pct tech at a hospital. When or if they find out I will tell them they can my kiss my ass and go work at another hospital.
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    This sounds like a lot of us lol. I haven’t danced for 6 months and feel the same way you feel. Everyone has to mess up and it’s better to mess up sooner than later so you don’t waste anymore time. Maybe you should start on dayshift where it’s slower and less pressure to drink. And also start off just going 1 day a week so your not in that environment longer than you have to be. My sister always says that you have to hold hands with Fear. Imagine yourself sober in the club making lots of money, hold onto that feeling because that’s how you want to feel every time you work. It’s easier to hustle when you have a purpose behind it.

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