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    Hi all.
    I'm new here, but anyway I thought I'd post this thing I've been wondering about for ages. I've kind of had this hobby for a long time. Its BDSM and the like. So I'm wondering, is being a Dominatrix in London a good choice of occupation these days? Guys all seem to be a bit flakey. I mean I have a full time job which is great, albeit its not my passion. I was wondering if I give it up, would there be the work there. Everyone says "you'd be amazing, you look gorgeous" etc. But I think there's more to it than looking like a fetish model.I'm 25 so not old, but I suspect its not the sort of job with an infinite career span. How hard is it to get reliable, sane, nice clients? Are there safe clients or crazies? I don't want to escort, thats not me. But I wonder if "escorts with whips" are the rival to some would be Dommes? All the things like screening clients, booking facilities and the like seem a bit taxing. Anyone have any experiences and views?
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    Default Re: Being a Dominatrix in its various forms.

    I'm in the United States. Here's my take-

    Domme work is (for some women) extremely mentally taxing. I dabbled in it and found it not to my liking. (I guess the upshot here is there's less competition between Dommes when other women feel that way.)

    Without saying anything inflammatory, you have a responsibility in dealing with your subs. Both for their physical well being and keeping control of the relationship.

    IMO I think having a domineering presence and being physically imposing helps a lot. The "Hollywood Stereotype" of a Domme is a tall, aggressive woman. I'd also agree that the Internet has changed this up a bit (with financial domme work and similar things.)
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    Not a Domme, but know one, she says all guys are subs... She entered it from the sugar baby world, has experience in the BDSM world, was a sub, searching for 'the dom' for a couple years, so knows the head-space. Her theory is that all males secretly want a female to boss them around, LOL Non sexual, only teases, shows them cleavage 'that they won't get to touch', etc. So legal in that respect. Depending where you are, subs may or may not legally be able to consent to getting hit... So lots of pitfalls... More a mental game, vs just fucking, LOL
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    I'm no Domme but I've dealt with fbsm clients who wanted me to be a Domme. I'm not one who can work in that type of energy without feeling too mentally drained but everyone is different. Generally you have to be an assertive, take-no-bullshit kind of lady who will firmly stick to your boundaries and never cave to any crap from subs. They will test your boundaries and some will claim to be sub, while trying to Dom you. There are different types of Dommes, just like there are different type of sub guys. Some subs want you to be mean and treat them like crap, while others want you to be strict while at the same time taking on a sort of caring, maternal role. It's a mixed bag and you never know what to expect. I don't know the London scene. Perhaps you can find a Dominatrix in your area who will be willing to mentor you or if there's a dungeon in your area, you can try to get some experience. Fetlife is a good community for that.

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    Thanks for all your replies girls. Apart from extreme play, I don't think the law is a worry. I just wonder how many subs there actually are. And ones who are prepared to pay £200 GBP or whatever per hour. They seem to get off on the chat. Or some try and "top from the bottom". Then some seem really sweet in emails, then go pyscho and come out with all this mental shit. Or some are so gross it hardly bears thinking about. Then the chamber might cost half my hourly rate and I might have to negotiate a deposit, and think of security too. Plus I hear escorting has been hit hard by migrants charging far lower rates. So ultimately I wonder "yeah £200 per hour sounds great". Then I think "but I might not get that many bookings and walk away with maybe half that rate". I've got the knowhow on most of it... but I just think "can I get my diary filled enough?"

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