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    I’ve only been back to dancing for 9 months. And I only work twice a week, consistently, but only twice a week. It’s technically not that much, but what I have been noticing lately is that I’m just TIRED! I don’t feel like talking to these men and I don’t feel like going to the club. Even if I make good money, everything there irritates me. I think I’m burnt out, but I can’t imagine why... I feel like I don’t work enough to be that burnt out.
    Anyone has any advice?

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    Default Re: Burnt out?? Already??

    maybe its cause you're not doing what you're really passionate about - you're just there cause its a means to an end....idk?

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    Default Re: Burnt out?? Already??

    I've gotten burned out on even less, tbh.

    Take a break. Switch to a vanilla job or different form of sex work for a month. There's an off-season to stripping, just like with sports, and there's nothing wrong with taking down time to rest up.

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    http://titsandsass.com/on-stripper-burnout/

    The best summary of all the things you can do. The last suggestion on the list is especially fun xD

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    Haha yeah acting crazy or retarded at work is always fun and does help with max burnout. That or change of scenery is about the only thing that works for me anymore.

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    It's possible. I felt it last night and I've only been back 6 months .
    Stripping is a challenge for me because i made the mistake of living in an area I have too much family in. I have to travel 3 hours ( min. ) to work. ;/

    Little tricks that help me :
    Make sure you GET THERE not just in the nick of time but enough to get settled in and be out of the dressing when most girls arrive.
    I tell myself that I'm just going " out " for the evening to " have a drink and make $100 ".
    ^ ( I never intend to make just that but this way I get a " start " without panic if the start is slow )

    Tonight I think I'm going to visualize myself playing my favorite gambling game ( craps ). Asking for each lap dance will be a " roll " in my mind haha. I'll visualize myself grabbing the dice pair walking up to each person.
    Each sale = a winning roll.
    Each stack of dances = a long multi roll winning streak.

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    Are you working another job too ?
    If you are working a vanilla job 30-40 hours ...... adding 16 hours in the club puts you working " overtime " on a weekly basis ....

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    I work a vanilla job, and one I’d dare say is more strenuous than what most here do for vanilla work. Absolutely there’s always a risk of burnout. Especially when you take into account that I’m doing something completely anathema to the only way of life I’d known until I moved out on my own and it directs a lot of attention towards me that I don’t particularly want, other than the payout.

    I make sure to schedule some “me” time. I know… the money. If you get so hung up chasing after it that you never get to enjoy it, what’s the point?
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    Are you doing anything with the rest of your time? Do you have school or a straight job, even if it's not full-time? What about hobbies?

    Do you find anything about the job remotely enjoyable, besides the earning potential? Pole time always did it for me, and at a couple of the clubs I worked, I made work friends that were mostly pretty casual but still very enjoyable, and good for filling slow time or double hustling.

    If you want to keep dancing -- for whatever reason, even if it's just for the money -- try a different club. A change of scenery can do wonders for your outlook. Or just take a week or two off if you can afford it. Or do both.

    There's also no shame in dancing not being for you. If that's the case, then pack away your dancer gear for good (or even sell it) and move on to something more enjoyable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jalena View Post
    Are you doing anything with the rest of your time? Do you have school or a straight job, even if it's not full-time? What about hobbies?

    Do you find anything about the job remotely enjoyable, besides the earning potential? Pole time always did it for me, and at a couple of the clubs I worked, I made work friends that were mostly pretty casual but still very enjoyable, and good for filling slow time or double hustling.

    If you want to keep dancing -- for whatever reason, even if it's just for the money -- try a different club. A change of scenery can do wonders for your outlook. Or just take a week or two off if you can afford it. Or do both.

    There's also no shame in dancing not being for you. If that's the case, then pack away your dancer gear for good (or even sell it) and move on to something more enjoyable.
    This is great advice. For me personally i don't love dancing itself, but I love the life that dancing allows me to have. For a lot of us, dancing funds hobbies, travels, education, allows us to volunteer, etc and these things might otherwise not be possible with a typical 40 hr a week barely covers bills kinda job.

    I'd take some time to really consider your goals and passions and move forward from there. It's easier to deal with hustling on nights you don't feel it when you can think things like "I'm 5 dances away from that plane ticket/ course i want to take/ day off to spend at the animal shelter/ whatever"

    Having a strong outside of work life also helps recharge- since this work is physically and emotionally demanding, we're always at high risk of burnout if we don't take care of ourselves physically and mentally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tati1995 View Post
    I’ve only been back to dancing for 9 months. And I only work twice a week, consistently, but only twice a week. It’s technically not that much, but what I have been noticing lately is that I’m just TIRED! I don’t feel like talking to these men and I don’t feel like going to the club. Even if I make good money, everything there irritates me. I think I’m burnt out, but I can’t imagine why... I feel like I don’t work enough to be that burnt out.
    Anyone has any advice?
    My first dancing stint lasted for four years (like, my only source of income was dancing, but i was a full-time student dancing 1-3x/week). The only other time i danced full-time, i lasted a single year of working 1-2x/week before burning out.

    Sounds like you're also a returning dancer. I think age and the cumulative lack of tolerance for bullshit can be a huge factor in burnout. As i get older, my body and mind become more and more...over it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    My first dancing stint lasted for four years (like, my only source of income was dancing, but i was a full-time student dancing 1-3x/week). The only other time i danced full-time, i lasted a single year of working 1-2x/week before burning out.

    Sounds like you're also a returning dancer. I think age and the cumulative lack of tolerance for bullshit can be a huge factor in burnout. As i get older, my body and mind become more and more...over it.
    That’s very true! My bullshit tolerance levels are much lower now than what they used to be...
    I’m really working towards a new career now and have to constantly keep reminding myself that dancing is means to find my education and free up time for projects and internships.

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    after 13 years I'm seriously just at wits end and ready to quit lol! I've been focusing on building a heavy social media following, focusing on modeling more, and have learned to spit fire as well as the fact that I'm working on music production and writing so eventually I'll be using my fan base to share my music and hope I take off as a female DJ and producer Stripping blows and is just easy money now and if it isn't easy, I am not in the right club haha! I don't tolerate cheap fucks. I tell them I'm like a taxi and the meter is running. Always ask for tips after a dance. Don't waste time with guys that aren't spending! But yeah... I miss making at least $100 every stage set
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