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    I KNOW many of you have probably dealt with this, yet I couldn't seem to find a thread...

    This has happened to me numerous times but it's a really sticky situation right now and I'm not sure how to approach this. It seems to happen almost cyclicly in the 4 years I've been camming. I get a good group of regulars (usually during a slow point during the year of course) that hit it off in my chat room. They become room buddies, which I think is awesome BUT at some point it always turns into a frat party, and they start being boys with each other, taking over the chat and it absolutely KILLS the room.

    It's one of the slowest pay periods of the season so money is really scarce and last night just absolutely killed it for me. They are all great guys - but they just take over and make it hard for new spenders to interact. We will be having a good time joking about something stupid but they just take over. They will get into it hard (which I get - they are having fun and I will admit I get sucked in sometimes so it's partially on me), but when a new spender comes in they just keep going and can't seem to remember that I am in there to make money and don't realize that they make it hard for others to interact when they take over.

    Usually I will put them in a time out during busy season or just get rid of them completely if they are being completely ignorant of what they are doing but it is all of my long time regulars (and the only guys that are consistently spending) right now so it's a bad idea to get rid of them, I just CAN'T do it right now. Both of my Mods are involved too....

    So, needless to say it's "touchy" because I would be fucked without them right now but they are taking over to the point where new spenders are getting ran off because the guys are straight up being stupid. I had one guy start tipping HARD and they wouldn't STFU and I HAVE to keep interacting with them because they are regulars, and the new guy just got annoyed (he's in there to jerk off and they are doing a comedy routine) and left. This happened TWICE last night.

    Any ideas on how to handle this with kid gloves so I don't run off my income flow and piss them off (like I said great guys - they are ignorant of what they are doing) but get them to realize they need to calm the fuck down when I get spenders in there...... I guess my first thought is to start ignoring them when a new spender comes in but yet again, don't want to piss them off because they are my only consistent spenders right now.......

    UGH.

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    I guess since you don't want to lose them, your only option is to cut back on the interaction and attention that you are giving them and stay focused on new guys coming in but still be fun and sociable.. They really don't care that you are there to make money to be honest.

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    I agree just focus on the new guys more and making it a fun experience for them. If your regulars get upset about it or something then you were better off without them anyway. The community aspect is nice but you don’t want “noobs” feeling like there’s a hierarchy to break into that has anything to do with anything other than paying you.


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    I would flat out tell them that you appreciate them and enjoy their company but you also need to make money. This means engaging with everyone in your room. In my experience, most guys understand that. They just need a reminder sometimes. I don't think you need them so much. New guys don't stand a chance in that environment. I think a lot of times they feel like they are "interrupting" so they end up leaving.
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    This is some great advice from Dr. Phil that can be applied to any situation and with anyone from dealing with customers, other cam girls, family members, roommates, friends, the list goes on.

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    Mean business as soon as they come in your business or ignore and kick. They don't like it? Oh fucking well. I keep saying that these men don't GAF about anyone but their nut or agendas. Be a bitch, you're working and they're not your coworkers on a break. I don't do hang outs in my room, if you're not spending money, BYE!!!!
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    I used to have this hang out problem in the beginning of camming but I started asserting myself and being a bitch and no one hangs for long.. lol..

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    Mean business as soon as they come in your business or ignore and kick. They don't like it? Oh fucking well. Be a bitch, you're working and they're not your coworkers on a break. I don't do hang outs in my room, if you're not spending money, BYE!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by anonymous camgirl View Post
    I used to have this hang out problem in the beginning of camming but I started asserting myself and being a bitch and no one hangs for long.. lol..
    Exactly. Save the chit chat for your man, lol. We work on commission. These males know the deal. They know what they need to do when they're in a sex worker's face so I don't get the issue? We need to stop dick pandering so much and be about our coin.




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    I guess I'm more of a "bitch" because if you aren't spending then you aren't a regular and I do not want you in my room. I do not allow guys to sit in my room or to stop by to say hi. You're either spending or you're getting out. I use to allow chit chatting and taking up my time and attention for free years back but I stopped when I realized that it was really draining and I wasn't getting anything out of it. I make it blatantly clear to guys that I'm here to drain their dick and wallet. If a guy isn't tipping then he can go private. If he's not going private he can tip and even if he's tipping my attention and time is still limited.

    I am not "mean" when I lay down these rules. If a dude comes in and tells me he stopped by to say Hi I say in a flirty/seductive way no you didn't...you stopped by to jerk to me isn't that right? If he tells me he can't go private I say if you're in here typing to me then yes you can go private, you do want to jerk to me don't you? I'm blunt and to the point. If they don't like the fact that I'm about my money then they can go. Some guys leave or get pissy but I don't really care because there are many who like to be told what they're going to do. I'm coming for their wallets but they love it because I always insert something about their dicks or my body.

    I'm not allowing guys who want to take up my time, energy and assets to get anything from me because they don't deserve anything. They will sit there and drain you dry and still expect more without a fuck to give. My time, attention and assets are always available to guys who want to spend. And even if a guy spends he still doesn't rule over my time, attention and assets. I can't remember how many guys I've had to block who spend tons on me. Be nice to me while you're handing over your money other wise kick rock. Shrugs.

    Men will get away with so much if you keep allowing them to. Online or offline they should be helping you in some capacity to make your life better and or easier.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Blovely View Post

    Men will get away with so much if you keep allowing them to. Online or offline they should be helping you in some capacity to make your life better and or easier.
    Amazing post so true

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blovely View Post
    I guess I'm more of a "bitch" because if you aren't spending then you aren't a regular and I do not want you in my room. I do not allow guys to sit in my room or to stop by to say hi. You're either spending or you're getting out. I use to allow chit chatting and taking up my time and attention for free years back but I stopped when I realize that it was really draining and I wasn't getting anything out of it. I make it blatantly clear to guys that I'm here to drain their dick and wallet. If a guys isn't tipping then he can go private. If he's not going private he can tip and even if he's tipping my attention and time is limited.

    I am not "mean" when I lay down these rules. If a dude comes in and tells me he stopped by to say Hi I say in a flirty/seductive way no you didn't...you stopped by to jerk to me isn't that right? If he tells me he can't go private I say if you're in here typing to me then yes you can go private, you do want to jerk to me don't you? I'm blunt and to the point. If they don't like the fact that I'm about my money then they can go. Some guys leave or get pissy but I don't really care because there are many who like to be told what they're going to do. I'm coming for their wallets but they love it because I always insert something about their dicks or my body.

    I'm not allowing guys who want to take up my time, energy and assets to get anything from me because they don't deserve anything. They will sit there and drain you dry and still expect more without a fuck to give. My time, attention and assets are always available to guys who want to spent. And even if a guy spends he still doesn't rule over my time, attention and assets. I can't remember how many guys I've had to block who spend tons on me. Be nice to me while you're handing over your money other wise kick rock. Shrugs.

    Men will get away with so much if you keep allowing them to. Online or offline they should be helping you in some capacity to make your life better and or easier.
    Preachhhhh! Notice how men nevvvverrrrr compromise their desires and spend on who they value. Yet females are supposed to put ourselves and our wants last, and sacrifice. Fun that, pay me!

    A new reg today who's used to paying per text on a platform added me on Skype, purchased a show, and after thought the convo in between shows would be free and frequent. Like he's messaging multiple times, daily but only bought a 20 min show. So I asked if he wanted to continue on the platform, lol. Like why would I stop my pay per text bag to chat w you for free, idiot??? He said: "What, we can't talk on here?" I replied, sure, but not for free, that skype is for shows. The fuq? Nah, breh. Pay me. Ended up upselling $100 for direct texts. Do you see how they try it? GTFO.




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    Quote Originally Posted by kortneykay View Post
    Preachhhhh! Notice how men nevvvverrrrr compromise their desires and spend on who they value. Yet females are supposed to put ourselves and our wants last, and sacrifice. Fun that, pay me!

    A new reg today who's used to paying per text on a platform added me on Skype, purchased a show, and after thought the convo in between shows would be free and frequent. Like he's messaging multiple times, daily but only bought a 20 min show. So I asked if he wanted to continue on the platform, lol. Like why would I stop my pay per text bag to chat w you for free, idiot??? He said: "What, we can't talk on here?" I replied, sure, but not for free, that skype is for shows. The fuq? Nah, breh. Pay me. Ended up upselling $100 for direct texts. Do you see how they try it? GTFO.
    Pisses me off to no end. I had a guy start messaging me on Skype to talk about our show. I quickly shut him down. Just because we did a show, doesnt mean we are all buddy buddy and going to chat for free now. Pay me for my time on here you idiot!

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    Explain this to them in a kind way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MysteryGirl44 View Post
    Explain this to them in a kind way.
    If you want. They don't say "Show boob, spread pussy, wink booty hole, bb" in any kind way. They just demand it.




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    Quote Originally Posted by kortneykay View Post
    If you want. They don't say "Show boob, spread pussy, wink booty hole, bb" in any kind way. They just demand it.

    Thank you. My original response was more brash, along the lines of "I think tf not" but this is better lol. If you want to stress over being nice then you can literally get any customer service job anywhere and immediately start kissing customer ass. As a cam hoe, I'm nice to who pays me and even that isn't a hard and fast rule.

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    Reading a lot of this makes me appreciate regulars that won't show up unless they spend or tip.
    There could be millions reasons why they don't show up: broke, spending on other models, wives are over their shoulders, joined a no fapping support group, etc... I'd much prefer that than them hauling their asses in my room and wasting my time.
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    Just stopping by to say how much I love the responses in this thread!
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    I test it out sometimes.
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    Or, I'm really feeling sick, but haven't made my goal yet in order to be able to log off. Will he help me out?
    The answer is usually no. He says he's broke. Or worst yet. Just exits my chat room.
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    I have no advice cause I am THE WORST at letting this happen in my room!!! So Im just here to read the comments!! Great thread!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blovely View Post
    I guess I'm more of a "bitch" because if you aren't spending then you aren't a regular and I do not want you in my room. I do not allow guys to sit in my room or to stop by to say hi. You're either spending or you're getting out. I use to allow chit chatting and taking up my time and attention for free years back but I stopped when I realized that it was really draining and I wasn't getting anything out of it. I make it blatantly clear to guys that I'm here to drain their dick and wallet. If a guy isn't tipping then he can go private. If he's not going private he can tip and even if he's tipping my attention and time is still limited.

    I am not "mean" when I lay down these rules. If a dude comes in and tells me he stopped by to say Hi I say in a flirty/seductive way no you didn't...you stopped by to jerk to me isn't that right? If he tells me he can't go private I say if you're in here typing to me then yes you can go private, you do want to jerk to me don't you? I'm blunt and to the point. If they don't like the fact that I'm about my money then they can go. Some guys leave or get pissy but I don't really care because there are many who like to be told what they're going to do. I'm coming for their wallets but they love it because I always insert something about their dicks or my body.

    I'm not allowing guys who want to take up my time, energy and assets to get anything from me because they don't deserve anything. They will sit there and drain you dry and still expect more without a fuck to give. My time, attention and assets are always available to guys who want to spend. And even if a guy spends he still doesn't rule over my time, attention and assets. I can't remember how many guys I've had to block who spend tons on me. Be nice to me while you're handing over your money other wise kick rock. Shrugs.

    Men will get away with so much if you keep allowing them to. Online or offline they should be helping you in some capacity to make your life better and or easier.

    THAT!

    I remember that once when I was a newbie, a member (that was pretending to be my "friend" and would hang out in free chat (but was ok, as in that century there was only free text chat, no free video, told me that a certain (very successful) model did not want him to hang in her free chat anymore and told him "darling, you sitting here is not good for my business". At that moment I was like "OMG what a bitch!", because the guy was really ok, not trying to talk about sex or anything (but obviously, still taking up my time and mental energy). Then, as that conversation stuck with me, little by little I started to see that what SHE was doing meant self respect and healthy boundaries in this job.

    Now I do everything just as Blovely said, and I am feeling great about it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kortneykay View Post
    If you want. They don't say "Show boob, spread pussy, wink booty hole, bb" in any kind way. They just demand it.
    Word. Men take no mercy when they try to come for whatever it is they want. They give no fucks at all. They are ruthless. They don't say sorry or feel remorse but women...we are always told to be nice, respectful and caring. We always have to consider everyone else feelings and needs before our own or even if that.

    In real life and online I'm keeping the same energy that these men have. You wanna come for my pussy, emotions, body, femininity, beauty, etc ok welp I'm going to keep the same energy and coming for your your wallet. If they don't like the directness then all well because I don't have the care or patience to be accommodating to their feelings or ego.

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    Wow - holy shit and THANK YOU!

    I'm guessing this is just what I needed - a kick in the ass. I am always the nice person that listens and is kind and caring and I needed to be reminded that men are only out for themselves and they really don't give AF about what I need. I get walked on BECAUSE I am NICE to most everyone.

    I started to ignore a bit and even told a few of them FLAT OUT that they are killing my room and they have dispersed. Unfortunately my mods have dispersed as well but I just turned off freeloader chat and am having less of a need to silence or kick/ban. As soon as they all fucked off - guess what - my money is getting better

    I also tried the "Hey I need help with *blah*" and no damn response, no help nothing. However if they see something ludicrous that they want to buy me (shoes with chickens on them - it's an inside joke) they are happy to do that - yet if I have a sick cat or medical bills I can go fuck myself....

    I need to up my bitch game a bit.... playing nice is just leaving me broke, annoyed and drained from entertaining their asses all the time...

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