Lately I’ve been working with a good friend of mine I’ve known for a few years. She is very beautiful but extremely insecure - to the point it gets difficult to be around at times (and even annoying). For reference, we’ve both been dancing around the same amount of time. She is wonderful at stage dancing but not the best hustler and I’m the other way around.
Our club is set up so if a customer spends $1000 at once the girl gets a little goodie bag. When my friend saw me walk by with my customer and a goodie bag tonight, I saw her looking at my bag and her face just dropped. She looked very upset and didnt give me a thumbs up, smile, good job or any other form of support you’d expect from a friend seeing you do well. I’d normally give her the benefit of the doubt about it - it’s understandable to be like “why her and not me” sometimes. But this has become a bit of a pattern...in the past she has made the exact same face when she sees me with the bag. Never anything positive or even neutral - she looks visibly distraught for a brief second or so before either pretending she didnt see me or flashing a fake smile right after.
So, after I get done with tonight’s champagne room, I see she sent me a text saying she was “done with this shit” and was pouting in the dressing room. At this point we still have 2 hours of our shift left so I have no idea why shes wasting time pouting instead of hustling (this is why I made the $$ and not her). She pouts the remaining 2 hours of the shift (aside from selling one dance).
We carpooled to work together, so as soon as we’re in the car after our shift I ask if she’s ok. Holding back tears, she said she doesn’t want to talk about it. At this point I’m worried something happened to her - she was violated in VIP, embarrassment on stage, etc. Not once has she not talked to me the whole drive back into town. Plus she said nothing about my multiple goodie bags from tonight (I had a good night, lol).
Right before getting out, I ask one final time if she’s ok. She then bursts out crying and says she doesn’t think she is pretty enough or cut out for the job because she “saw tons of other girls with goodie bags and not her.” In reality she is actually one of the hottest girls at our club - but she lets this weird insecurity shit ruin her shift.
Anyways I just needed to write all this out, I’m not sure what to do when she gets like this and needed an outside opinion. I know she doesn’t actually think shes not pretty enough for the job - she regularly gloats about customers telling her she’s one of the hottest girls there etc and has referred to herself as such before. She also sold the $1000 CR literally one day ago so it’s not like she doesn’t ever sell them. However I wasn’t working on shift with her then.
In short here is my question - how should I respond to this behavior, and is it a potential red flag that she is not happy for me when she sees me doing well? Or am I being a little harsh since obviously it sucks having a bad night etc? She is otherwise an awesome and supportive friend, I just found the obvious wince at my money making to be...alarming.



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