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    Basically the title says it all. I hung up my heels two months ago trying to get back into working in the vanilla world FT & it turned out to be a disaster. Job wasn’t a great fit, bored me & I hated working 8-5. In addition, I suffer from BPD and had a meltdown Tuesday and had to take the rest of the week off due to anxiety and being unsure about my future. I was honest with my job about my mental health, my thoughts on the job (not rudely), honest about being unsure of my career and now I’m canned.
    i was thinking about going to school for dental assisting and I know I can always dance but I just feel like a big fat loser right now and needed to vent.
    thanks for reading.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mz_melanie048 View Post
    Basically the title says it all. I hung up my heels two months ago trying to get back into working in the vanilla world FT & it turned out to be a disaster. Job wasn’t a great fit, bored me & I hated working 8-5. In addition, I suffer from BPD and had a meltdown Tuesday and had to take the rest of the week off due to anxiety and being unsure about my future. I was honest with my job about my mental health, my thoughts on the job (not rudely), honest about being unsure of my career and now I’m canned.
    i was thinking about going to school for dental assisting and I know I can always dance but I just feel like a big fat loser right now and needed to vent.
    thanks for reading.
    I feel ya. I was on the brink most weeks at my (awful) restaurant job.

    Dentistry is a great field. I'm sure it will work out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mz_melanie048 View Post
    Basically the title says it all. I hung up my heels two months ago trying to get back into working in the vanilla world FT & it turned out to be a disaster. Job wasn’t a great fit, bored me & I hated working 8-5. In addition, I suffer from BPD and had a meltdown Tuesday and had to take the rest of the week off due to anxiety and being unsure about my future. I was honest with my job about my mental health, my thoughts on the job (not rudely), honest about being unsure of my career and now I’m canned.
    i was thinking about going to school for dental assisting and I know I can always dance but I just feel like a big fat loser right now and needed to vent.
    thanks for reading.
    Sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you. Everybody goes through setbacks in their life at one time or another. If you find a job you like, you'll be better off than if you weren't fired. Are you taking any medication for BPD?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    I feel ya. I was on the brink most weeks at my (awful) restaurant job.

    Two things I can't do. Serve food in a restaurant is one. I worked several positions in restaurants during college. Cook, dishwasher, cook assistant, no problem. Serving people the food, no way.

    Can's be a wedding DJ. Got started doing Spring Break pool decks as a seasonal side job, the guy who owned the business wanted me to work doing weddings. Tried training with him through a few. No fucking way.

    Also libraries. It's impossible for me to be quiet that long.


    To the OP, I apologize for the slight threadjack. But it's not really off topic. Different people are good at different kinds of work. I serve up the music to extremely fussy costumers all night, and when we do bachelor parties I'm doing the exact same kind of thing that drove me nuts about weddings (cheezy contrived rituals). Though I'm never quiet for more than 3-3 1/2 minutes


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    It happens to most of us, feel unsettling for the transition. Just keep looking, don't' give up yet.
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    Finding the right fit is important in vanilla work. Honestly, if you felt the way you did about your job before they fired you, maybe it’s for the better as opposed to being miserable there.
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    I was taking medication diligently since I got on them but then of course I even up feeling so good I didn’t think about needing them so stopped. Obvi never doing that again. The past week has been rough but I just got a new prescription thankfully. Thx for your kind words!

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    Try to think of this as a learning experience, not a failure.

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    Sorry. All good advice on here. I had something similar happen. Can you get on state benefits for mental health or something?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ifyouseekamy View Post
    Sorry. All good advice on here. I had something similar happen. Can you get on state benefits for mental health or something?
    That’s a great question, and I have no idea. It’s something I can look into for sure but for now I’d probably just rather spend my energy dancing, maybe pick up a serving job, and taking care of me before I go back to school next month. Luckily, my dad said he would help me a bit with the bills if money got tight so right now I’m just trying to relax. Thanks for everyone’s input, it actually did boost my mood

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    I have a friend with BPD. She once went to the state hospital for help.

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