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    Arrow Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    If part of your marital “duties” include sex then would it be possible to marry someone you’re not sexually attracted to?

    Like what if they make a great spouse (good communicator, manage money well, good parent, easy to get along with, etc) and just about every quality was there but you’re just not excited about being sexually intimate with them?

    Would you marry a person/stay married if you’re not feeling it (sexually)? Would you divorce or just get a mistress?

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Fuck NO.

    That's punishing my lol

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Unless I was marrying a rich old dude just weeks from his deathbed, then no. I'd just be unsatisfied and miserable; if I'm not attracted to them but they're a good person I might as well just be their friend.

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    Fuck NO.

    That's punishing my lol
    Not if you convince him to have an “arrangement”

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Not if you convince him to have an “arrangement”
    PuppyBrat's idea sounds ideal. Lol. A la Ana Nichole Smith style. No fucking at all though.

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    ^Omg! lol!

    So is this a no to open marriage???

    Like what if dude was almost perfect but just the sexual spark was missing and every now and then sexual fulfillment could be safely sought outside the marriage

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    ^Omg! lol!

    So is this a no to open marriage???

    Like what if dude was almost perfect but just the sexual spark was missing and every now and then sexual fulfillment could be safely sought outside the marriage
    I'll pass him on to one of my friend's. Lol

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Absolutely. Unless the guy is horrendously unattractive, I just want someone sufficiently attractive and nice. I also like smart guys. Sexual attraction varies throughout the course of the relationship anyhow.

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    If he's wealthy enough but I don't see it could work as a long time marriage though.

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    If part of your marital “duties” include sex then would it be possible to marry someone you’re not sexually attracted to?

    Like what if they make a great spouse (good communicator, manage money well, good parent, easy to get along with, etc) and just about every quality was there but you’re just not excited about being sexually intimate with them?

    Would you marry a person/stay married if you’re not feeling it (sexually)? Would you divorce or just get a mistress?

    None of the other factors would even come to the light if I'm not attracted to him. I'm not doing the universe some sort of moral service by committing my life to a person I don't even like looking at. So no. Not in the habit of settling.

    "Normal looking" or things of that nature are okay. The best person I've ever met has a serious acne problem. But "not sexually attracted to"? Nah. I've got to feel something or I'll be dry down there anyway.

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Open marriages seem to be a lot more difficult in real life. Plus any truly open marriage the wife is having a lot more sex than the husband unless the husband is paying for it, incredibly handsome, or famous. So if you're married to someone you're not attracted to, and you intend to be faithful, that means little or no sex. There are some asexual people, but most people need and want intimacy.

    But I will tell you this, a LOT of women, whether they mean it or not, give you the line: "If a man has more than X million I don't care what he does" where X is 1m below what you have if they like you and 10m over what you have if they don't LOL.
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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by NitaBaby View Post
    None of the other factors would even come to the light if I'm not attracted to him. I'm not doing the universe some sort of moral service by committing my life to a person I don't even like looking at. So no. Not in the habit of settling.

    "Normal looking" or things of that nature are okay. The best person I've ever met has a serious acne problem. But "not sexually attracted to"? Nah. I've got to feel something or I'll be dry down there anyway.
    Well I was thinking average looking with a decent body say a 5 or 6 out of 10

    Someone that could grow on you.

    Not a grotesque repulsive person

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    ....So if you're married to someone you're not attracted to, and you intend to be faithful, that means little or no sex. There are some asexual people, but most people need and want intimacy.
    Well technically no one is going to die from lack of sex

    And two does “intimacy” have to be plowing through pussy every night? Are there non sexual (or even non penetrative sexual) ways to experience intimacy. Like would a husband be happy with a sensual massage for example?

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by ZeroSugarMonster View Post
    Absolutely. Unless the guy is horrendously unattractive, I just want someone sufficiently attractive and nice. I also like smart guys. Sexual attraction varies throughout the course of the relationship anyhow.
    I suppose this was what I was wondering

    like knowing that we in the Tinder culture which is filled with a plethora of fuckbois, thots (male and female) people with narcissistic tendencies who could fuck your brains out but make horrible partners

    Would you really turn down a marriage proposal from someone who was just as you describe/makes a good spouse because lack of *initial* sexual attraction / sex is THAT important of a component (on the front end)?

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    I’m a picky bitch! Lol. I may end up single for the rest of my life but I honestly would prefer that instead of living in a sexless, lack luster marriage and being dishonest to myself and to my husband. And if I feel the need to cheat to get my needs met, then I would rather just say no to it all together. It saves a lot of heartache for both parties involved!

    I’m at a point in my life where I’m becoming more independent and starting my career in sales and I’m weening my way off of relying on men for money. Even before then, I could never be with a man exclusively just because of his money without there being any chemistry, passion, or true feelings. I have to actually want him as a person, both physically and emotionally.

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    ^^^hey nothing wrong with that.

    Marriage isn’t for everyone and if it is for you it will happen on your timeline

    But I meant if one married someone they weren’t sexually attracted to then the partners could agree to moreso an open marriage than cheating. So that way it would be like having the benefits of marriage (commitment, family, partnership, legal rights, etc) but also the benefits of dating (sex with person you’re sexually attracted to, sexual variety, etc) so to speak.....so people wouldn’t have to be in a sexless marriage but also so that people wouldn’t have to wait till the stars aligned to find the perfect person to marry - if they ever found that - they could marry a person who checks *most* of those boxes while having occasional dalliances with someone else who ticks the sexual boxes.

    Idk?

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Or what if you initially were not sexually attracted but as time went on you realized how great of a spouse this person was and grew to become sexually attracted?

    In the Tinder culture dating atmosphere - would y’all pass up marriage proposal from this situation?

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    If it’s an open marriage type of relationship, then yeah I would consider, since there would be a mutual understanding. And if the guy was truly a sweet, good person, but there was just no physical attraction, then absolutely! As long as he wants it to be an open marriage and is okay with that (of course, I wouldn’t tell him I wasn’t physically attracted to him lol). Honestly though, if he’s a great person who I really like, that will probably make me be more physically attracted to him, maybe not a lot, but I wouldn’t turn down sex from him either. And who knows, over time sex may become less important to me, and so it wouldn’t even matter long term, and I’d still be married to a great guy

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Now I’m curious if the men voted or just the women.

    I have a hard time believing men wouldn’t marry/stay married to women they aren’t sexually attracted to given the vast amount of married men who procure paid sexual encounters

    Surprised no males have barged into this thread yet lol!!!

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    ^^Um ...

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    ^^Um ...

    I've been MODZONED!
    I can’t read!

    Didnt realize you provided your insight

    though it does make me curious if the males voted at all and simply didn’t post or they did neither. I have a feeling the votes are majority females

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Hell no! I'm a highly sexual person so sexual attraction and compatability in the bedroom is very important for me.

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    though it does make me curious if the males voted at all and simply didn’t post or they did neither. I have a feeling the votes are majority females
    I voted (No).
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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    ^thanks for responding.

    Well I did kind of ask 2 questions in one

    So are you saying you would not marry someone you’re not sexually attracted to or are you saying you’d divorce your wife if you lost the sexual spark? Or both?

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    Default Re: Could you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to?

    I answered no, now.
    But I wasn't sexually attracted to my second husband, and it was a grave mistake.
    I was jilted by my first husband, who I was madly in love with, and sexually attracted to, beyond the beyond.
    So, it was a rebound.
    I thought that since I was getting older, that it's what I should do.
    Crazy, I know.
    He was stunningly gorgeous, but a lousy lay.
    He was possessive, ( always a turn off), jealous, and houded me for sex at least 3 times per day.
    A real sex maniac.
    Cross-dressing strap on loving, son of a bitch.
    When he got violent and abusive, I immediately left.
    So, the answer is no.
    And will always be no.
    I'm done.
    Just leave me in peace in my old age. Lol!

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