
Originally Posted by
Adrienne7
Oh, lady, I so feel you on this! First off don't be too hard on yourself. A hardwired response in our nervous system is sometimes to freeze up and not know what to do until after the fact. People train for years (think martial arts etc) to re-train that initial response. It takes practice, and lucky for us, the strip club is like boundaries boot camp.
I had a bad feeling about someone once so collected the $100 for 3 dances up front. Part way into the first dance, he had tried touching where he shouldn't and then was starting to try and pin my arms. I stood up and said "ok we are done here. You are making me uncomfortable". He didn't seem too shocked; at least he knew he was being an ass.
You will develop more of a radar; I admit I don't get cash upfront from everyone, just the guys who before we even go back for a dance are already trying to touch my arm, waist etc before they have even asked or spent. That way when you walk away you don't have to also negotiate getting payed.
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