Heads up this post is going to be a little long .
So a lot of people at my club think that I am very nice for whatever reason . And it didn’t really bother me before because I rather have people think that I am nice versus thinking that I am rude or mean . I feel like it’s starting to become a problem though because sometimes the guys feel weird about getting dances from me.
For example , yesterday I walked up to this guy and introduced myself. We literally talked for less than a minute and he told me that he felt weird tipping me because he feels like I am so kind . This was literally within less than a minute and it’s not like I gave him any personal information about myself to where he could think that . I’m dancing in Philly right now and I was born and raised in the Midwest so people can tell I have an accent and that I’m not from the area . I can’t even lie and say that I’m from Philly because they know from my “Mannerisms” and the way that I talk . I don’t want to appear overly nice because a lot of people in Philly think that if you are being nice to them it’s because you want something from them or you have a trick up your sleeve . People can already tell that I’m not from Philly and I don’t want them thinking that I’m this nice girl who has no family around and that they can take it advantage of me. I am naturally a kind person from what people tell me and when I did customer service at my other jobs people always complemented me and would sometimes tell my boss that I was one of the kindest employees that they met ( not trying to sound arrogant just trying to get you to understand where I’m coming from ). I used to have a habit of getting too personal with the customers ( even though I always lie and nobody at my job really knows the truth about me ). I’ve stopped doing this and I listen to the guys more and try to find out all about them . A lot of guys saying that they rather hear about me because they feel like they are too boring . I hate that honestly like why are you here trying to figure out my life story. I’m not sure if that ties in with me being too kind or what . It’s been difficult transitioning here because I’m originally from the Midwest and people act way different than they do out here in Philly . I just don’t want for anyone to feel like I’m being kind because I have malicious intent and I don’t want for anyone to think that they can take it vantage of me . Any suggestions are appreciated !



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And the minority who like the kindness will become ballers for you effortlessly.

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