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    Hi girls,
    I am new here and I would like to get some advice 🙏🏻
    I have never worked doing webcam, but I really want to do it now as I need some extra money and the flexibility of doing it from home might work very well with my personal situation (I have a daytime job and a kid to look after)
    I have a 5 years old that lives with me and I am going through a very messy divorce. My ex partner is trying to use the fact that I was a dancer years ago to get my daughters custody because apparently working in the sex industry makes me a terrible mother and influence for her. Needless to say if I start doing webcam and the judge doesn’t like it, that would reinforce their case against me and I might loose my girl’s custody and that would completely break my heart.
    Anyway I was wondering if there is any way to work doing web cam modelling and get paid on the side? During the divorce proceeding I need to provide updated financial statements and they are able to see my bank account so I can’t risk to get money sent to my account.
    Any ways to make this work? I am really struggling money wise and I think is the only way out, but also I’m terrified to end up being punished for working.
    Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading! X

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    Default Re: Hidden payments (risking daughters custody)

    With how webcam is set up especially for how they pay US models, you get paid then tax time they issue a 1099.

    Then your payment methods are tracked plus the cookie crumbs of your image all over the internet.

    So it would make sense to speak to your lawyer and wait til you know your custody situation before you get into webcam.

    Once you broadcast there is no turning back, and those company who offer take down content are full of shit, scam artist. like cam model protection and DMCA reports whatever

    Even if you are paid without a bank, IF you are in the US they send you 1099 confirming how much they have paid you. even if you don't file your taxes with it, it will catch up with you.
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    Default Re: Hidden payments (risking daughters custody)

    honestly, I wouldn't risk it. With webcam, its on the internet, and it's out there forever. There are ways to get paid without a bank but idk a lot about them, but bare in mind anyone can record you and upload it online, and it can be seen by anyone.

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    Unfortunately, we live in a society that looks down on the sex industry through fear of moral sin. In no way do I personally feel it correlates with parenting however, to others that is not the case. There is no way to hide a camming background, should someone perform a background check (Might be more difficult to find) or request financial statements, as it will show on the top of the statement the industry name. (SM, MFC, ect) You can setup a PO box and have your cam mail sent to that address, to prevent those letters from getting in the wrong hands. You can also have them send you checks, rather than it being directed to your account. It is difficult to join the cam industry, when you are trying to hide being a cam model in any form. You have to keep in mind, that anyone can see your face in the cam world and though you may be able to hide some financial information, you will never be able to hide your image. At some point, they very well could find out about you being a cam model and you have to be comfortable with that before signing up.

    In other words, I would heed the above caution and not proceed any further with being a cam model.
    It is the opposite of what you want to achieve in retaining privacy.

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    Actually webcamming in this situation sounds too risky. The thing about being a webcam model is that customers in your cam room could easily record you and post your pictures and even videos of you all over the internet on free porn sites like youporn and pornhub. To make matters worse the free porn sites make it very difficult if not impossible for you to get your content removed from their websites, even if you were not the one who posted it there in the first place. If you absolutely want to stay in sex work, you could try phone sex but use someone else's pictures(with their permission, of course), and have payment sent in the mail by check to a P.O. box. But even then sometimes people can figure stuff out from Googling company name of the company whose name is on your checks. I'd just get a vanilla job for now until the custody battle is over with. There are vanilla gigs that you can work from home but most of them are customer service type jobs. You can PM if you want to because I went through a similar situation.

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    check out sites for freelancing, like upwork, flexjobs, or even WAHM FB groups. even learn some skills watching youtube videos, like web design or skills that come with decent pay on freelancing sites. there's anything from sales, customer service, transcriptions, virtual assistant, and all sorts of other things you could do on the vanilla side that earns decent pay. don't worry about being new to it. i even taught one of my friends that never worked online, an in person sales type, and he was able to get a full time gig within his first month freelancing online doing sales. sorry you have to go through this. in these circumstances, we always see the worst in people when they used to be our best friend




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    ratracerebellion is a good one for work from home jobs

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    ^ She could also just go indy & get physical checks & cash them somewhere? I guess that will possibly end up somewhere online too. Hmmmm.... What if you just cammed without showing your whole face?
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    I am on the UK but the problem might be the same here

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    Very good advices!!
    I think I am going to ask my solicitor what's his opinion on this and make my next move.
    It is very disappointing the stigma against sex workers is still a thing in 2019. Funnily enough the people criticising us are sometimes the biggest consumers... You should see my ex's porn collection!!!! XD
    I might come back with more newbie questions if I go ahead. Thanks for the help everyone!!

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