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    So on Saturday night I approached this guy. Everyone was kind of avoiding the group as there was a couple in it and nobody really approaches groups at my club if there is a woman in it. Lol.




    I’m just doing my typical going up to everyone and ask for dances. This guy was staring at me so I walk straight up and ask he says yeah and drops $150 just like that. Then we spend most the night together him spending probably $1000 all in all. He asks when I finish he leaves with his friends then they come back in because he told them he didn’t want to leave without knowing who I really was. Aw cute. So I think fuck it he’s cute I haven’t had sex in three years haha he has a good job he’s honest and his friends where cool. All in their late twenties.


    He message on social media, as soon as I left he left and found me. I didn’t reply to his message until late night on a Sunday. He’s gone on holiday or a work thing I’m not sure. He asked me if when he got back If I’d like to come to his for dinner. Hmm not a really date although I did mention I’m vegan and eating out can be a pain sometimes. Maybe he’s a good cook? Also it’s pretty positive sign he’s not hiding a wife or girlfriend. Also we live in different cites about forty minutes a part.


    Hmm what do you think I should do? Stripper mode and try profit more off him? Or just keep is casual maybe see where things go? Is he just trying to duck me haha?

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    Default Re: Should I have a date at his house?

    Well what do you want ? Are you going to charge him for your time or are you offering social time ?

    Either way , I'd honestly probably meet outside his house first. Make him do a nice meal OUT . More there is terms of safety. Have you screened him ?

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    Well on his Instagram he’s got a super nice house and car. It looks like he’s everything he said he was and the majority of his friends are in relationships as they where in the club too and on his page. But I think your right he should take me out first. I honestly don’t want to be paid for my time because I don’t want him to tell his friends he’s paying me in case it leads to more.

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    ^ Yeah, either way really he should offer to take you out not start the date at his house.

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    At his HOUSE? Yea, he just wants to fuck..


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    We don’t really have to explain his endgame, do we?



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    Default Re: Should I have a date at his house?

    Any man who suggests the first date should be at anyone's home, is looking to fuck and that's it.


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    How did he find you on social media?

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    I would have tried my best to keep him as a client at the club maybe even make him a regular and get as much as I can out of him there. Any man that wants to cook a meal at home on a first date is a cheapskate. Just because he lives in a nice home and drives a nice car doesn’t mean he can really afford it he’s most likely a poser whose living off of credit cards and is robbing Paul to pay Peter.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DarkPassion305 View Post
    I would have tried my best to keep him as a client at the club maybe even make him a regular and get as much as I can out of him there. Any man that wants to cook a meal at home on a first date is a cheapskate. Just because he lives in a nice home and drives a nice car doesn’t mean he can really afford it he’s most likely a poser whose living off of credit cards and is robbing Paul to pay Peter.
    Unless you are a professional chef, yeah, agreed on the cheapskate thing.
    Agreed on that he could be drowning in debt & not liquid financially at all.
    Also, people photoshop and steal pics to post on IG all the time. You have no idea if that's really his house or his car.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    Ok, any man who wants you to just come straight to his house instead of meeting at a public place is only looking for sex. If that's what you're looking for(you mentioned that it has been a while), then go for it. Don't expect a serious relationship from him though because he's more than likely just looking for nsa sex. It would probably be best to keep him as a regular at the club if you want to continue to make any money off of him because once you meet him otc for free he's not going to suddenly turn into a generous sugar daddy. High likelihood to be a nsa booty call type of arrangement where he'll contact you only when he's horny.

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    + 1
    I vote that whatever you do , charge.

    Chance of a love connection meeting that way is so small it’s best to just be covered / compensated.

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    Girl he’s tryna fuck... you’re just a stripper to him remember that. Not saying that’s bad because you sound like you’re down for that kind of thing, but don’t get your hopes up!

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    He's more than likely just trying to have sex with you.. Why else would be take you to his house. Fuck that.. get some money. If he's not paying for a date I wouldn't see him. Someone here's already mentioned that he sees you as nothing more than a stripper.. This is very true. It's just how it is, and the proof is in the fact he won't even take you out to dinner. Fuck that!

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    I agree with the above. I’d also like to add in that I disagree with the idea that accepting money will ruin future romantic possibilities. I dated a guy for nearly two years and I met him at the club. I’m sure one can connect the dots and guess I was, erm, going above and beyond just mere dances with him outside the club. But he proved himself trustworthy before I stopped asking for money from him.

    And he was a good boyfriend, and I’d have the best time just talking for hours at a time with him about complete nonsense. He’s so imaginative and engaging. But alas, there was problems too and we had to end.

    I won’t condone doing what I did, but if you must, put up a price tag. And make sure it will be a high enough one that he will be discreet.

    But even then, in my opinion, you will most likely save yourself headache if you just leave it all behind in the club. That’s what I’d advise.
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    Okay I don't know about the rest of yall, but him having your social media and knowing where you work is bad news unless you don't care if everyone you know and your future jobs know you are a stripper at this point in your life. In the future have a fake real name, a fake social media "your don't use much" and on your real social media have everything set to private with a pic that isn't your face or hides most of your face on your profile pic. You don't know this guy and he could black mail you.

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    It could be her dancer media.

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    Ok decided I said no and will try get him back in the club. He is not that hot so I’m not DTF lol. Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences and advice! Also I’m not just a stripper I have a main vanilla. Dancing is just extra cash and a bit of fun for me. I gave the guy a chance to take me out and he blew it. Moving on! Xoxo

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    Thanks for coming back to update!

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    "Dinner at my place"
    oh. okay dude.

    If I were you, I'd act super enthused. "Yes of course! that sounds amazing. I can't wait!"
    Then keep texting him "just a few minutes away!" "be there in 5" "ugh bad traffic" "On my way!!"
    But just be sitting in your bathtub sipping hennessy. with no plans to ever show up

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    Oops I just realized this thread is dead

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carmen Elixer View Post
    "Dinner at my place"
    oh. okay dude.

    If I were you, I'd act super enthused. "Yes of course! that sounds amazing. I can't wait!"
    Then keep texting him "just a few minutes away!" "be there in 5" "ugh bad traffic" "On my way!!"
    But just be sitting in your bathtub sipping hennessy. with no plans to ever show up
    I wouldn't lead a man on, you never know how someone could act when angered. The dude spent 1k so I'd be grateful for that but I would not go on a first date to someone's house. A public place is the way to go, imo. If he is not biting, he is not that interested. He probably came home and after having sobered up, was like WTF I spent a grand on that girl, might as well try to "get my monies worth".

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    Quote Originally Posted by KenzieJ View Post
    He's more than likely just trying to have sex with you.. Why else would be take you to his house. Fuck that.. get some money. If he's not paying for a date I wouldn't see him. Someone here's already mentioned that he sees you as nothing more than a stripper.. This is very true. It's just how it is, and the proof is in the fact he won't even take you out to dinner. Fuck that!
    Oh he’s got some dinner alright.....BEEF ..... stuffed in your taco!

    im kidding

    But yeah don’t let your guards down. A lot of these pick up artists get thrills out of taking strippers out the club and fucking them.

    Him suggesting a date at his home is 1. Reckless on his part cause he doesn’t know you and you could be a professional rob artist 2. He wants you on his turf so if things go down, the bed is just a few feet away 3. Perhaps he feels like he blew all that money on you so now it’s time to “cash out” IF you know what I mean

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carmen Elixer View Post
    "Dinner at my place"
    oh. okay dude.

    If I were you, I'd act super enthused. "Yes of course! that sounds amazing. I can't wait!"
    Then keep texting him "just a few minutes away!" "be there in 5" "ugh bad traffic" "On my way!!"
    But just be sitting in your bathtub sipping hennessy. with no plans to ever show up
    Lol!!! Such an evil plan lol

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    The well usually dries up once you take it out the club...
    Dress to kill the wallet.

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