I was having a fun time with a dancer in a private dance. She was aggressive, and I didn't mind at all. By "aggressive" I mean things like pinching nipples, lightly choking me, things like this. None of this did I ask for, but I did find it all (somewhat surprisingly) enjoyable (surprisingly because, choking at least, was not something I've ever experienced before. I've lightly choked, I've never been lightly choked).
At one point she said "I love how responsive you are. This is what I like in real life but a lot of times when I try it with dudes here they're like 'stop you're being too aggressive!'"
So my strange question is, does this strike you as plausible or as a line?
Why would it be a line? Basically, I am having a stereotypical "did me and that dancer have a real moment" moments. Our tastes, so to speak, seemed to coincide a great deal. I ended up paying for a full hour which... I could afford but I've never done that before and possibly never will again because it's pretty extravagant tbh. We talked a lot about how we seemed unusually compatible. She emphasized several times that she was having actual fun, like, truly enjoying the experience and not just doing a job. I would like these things to be true but with dancers, it's _part of the job_ to play at having that experience sometimes, isn't it?
She gave me her instagram account afterward and had offered her personal facebook account. This was after she had said something like "that was a lot of fun" and I said something silly like "I feel like we should be friends IRL, like sharing numbers or something." She got a look on her face--kind of distant like she was thinking, which I would expect if this was all a routine she'd just jump right in--and said finally "okay, we can do that. I don't usually connect with dudes after one time" (something like that) and we connected on instagram.
The instagram page she gave me mentions her "fans" and has an amazon wish list for people to order for her from, so it seems like a fan page rather than a personal page. It also mentions how she's a "mother" and a "collared sub" to one person and a dominant to all others (which we had talked about during the dance as well--our shared interest in kink and the reversal of both of our usual roles being part of what had contributed to the 'unusual compatibility' factor in our conversations) so that felt a little more personal like it's not _just_ a fan page, but she knows she has fans. (Which is no surprise.)
Anyway, I can't tell if it was all just exactly a routine she runs through with lots of guys or if it was true that we had an unusual connection--not "personal" connection exactly but a... this-is-more-than-just-work connection?). I'm actually cool either way, but I am really wanting to know which it was. And I feel like if I ask her directly it will be a rude question. I'm sure she has to deal with 'betrayed' feeling guys on occasion because I know we dudes are weird and I want to avoid making her feel like that's where I'm coming from, but of course it's hard to ask about something like this without it automatically seeming like that's where I'm coming from.
Well there you have it. What's your professional experience tell you? Does this sound like a likely routine, an interesting not-just-work moment, or something kind of in between or both?
I've already offered to buy her a book we talked about during the experience (American Gods) so I'm probably sliding right over into the fan category
And hey if you're here, you recognize this story and guess what this is what I'm wondering.
(Edit: I focused on the "you're too aggressive" question in the title of this post because that was the one thing she said that stuck in my mind as possibly not plausible and just something she says to guys to make them feel special.)




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