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    Girls, I really need some advice here...

    I think I’ve hit a MAJOR burnout: I hate to be touched. Not being touched is out of question. Clubs in my area are all full contact and guys grab you even if you’re not doing dances. Yes, I can tell them not to touch me when we are just talking on the floor and I can walk away, but I can’t prevent them from it. Plus I think every dancer knows the situation where you’re doing a dance and the guy is trying to grab your crotch or wants to lick your nipple and while I don’t let them, it’s still super annoying and tiring to have to fight them off all the time.
    Anyway, I used to be ok with it all but now I’m just soooo tired of this. It makes me feel kind of sad, it makes me cringe.
    I’m going to look for a job in my field but I know it’s not easy and it’ll take me sometime to find it. When I do, I’ll still need to dance once in a while because my salary starting out won’t be high at all.
    So I have to keep dancing for at least another year and I’m just wondering how I can bear with it? Any advice?

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    Either take extended breaks or travel dance somewhere where it's cleaner but you may end up spending most of your profit on travel expenditures.

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    My guess is, generally, up north. I heard Minneapolis is getting to be higher mileage in general but there’s a club or two I think that enforces no touching. There’s also other places like Duluth or St Cloud in Minnesota. Possibly other areas too. In Portland, you just have to find the right club. Or in smaller Oregon towns like Medford and Bend, those are strict about no touching (and I assume have $ potential, because customers actually travel longer distances to get there thanks to being the only club within reach)—you just have to be patient and deal with their slow hiring process and work the dayshifts at the days they want to fill you in at first before you can work nights and get the schedule you want.

    I’ve heard about places like Orlando or Nashville also being no touch as well.

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    Definitely would suggest a good long break if you can afford it. That could be 2 weeks or months. Think of your life in a balance wheel and spend some time on the other areas in that break. I take long breaks a LOT. I notice how bitchy and unproductive I start to get when burn out comes. It's not worth it anymore to me and I am making no money.


    When I notice my break is done ...

    I find myself thinking about the money I could be making on a Friday (nottt to be confused with that guilty feeling when you don't go in on a busy night or stop working at the beginning of your healthy break) or Saturday, I start getting some motivation back and thinking about when I will start again, I might go on Stripper web or SW community ig accounts, and BOOM..... I'm ready to get hustling again.

    So ready that I am getting ready for work at 8 or 9pm and not between 10 and 11
    So ready that I feel like hell ya look at this opportunity I have to bank thank god I am a dancer
    So ready that my bag is organized and packed and I have a plan going in like a smart stripper. LOL
    And best of all... so ready that I am bubbly and in a good mood when I am talking to and dealing with *eyeroll* customers and coworkers so now I'm making easy money again.

    So the advice I would like to share is : Try the healthy break and do some other things that feed your soul instead for a minute to make you miss it.
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    Oh do what I did, quit dancing and get into doing low paying vanilla work and live the "real life" for a while. You will dream of going back into dancing after that lol

    But I want to stress the importance to sticking to your rules, no matter where you work. If you start doing anything you are not comfortable with, you may slide into deeper depression. No money is worth that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adelina View Post
    Oh do what I did, quit dancing and get into doing low paying vanilla work and live the "real life" for a while. You will ne dreaming of going back into dancing after that lol


    YES. Did this..WOWOW did I miss dancing. Definitely suggest this 100% works like a charm. Ugh 8am-6,7,8pm for 5 days... for a paycheck that I could've made in one night. Woof...made me appreciate that I am young and able now.

    But it also helped me build my resume in the meantime so it has two benefits.

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    It sounds like just the bare minimum you need is a break from getting pawed at which is understandable . You might have to travel dance . Or take a break and just eat the " missing " dancer money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StellaRose View Post
    My guess is, generally, up north. I heard Minneapolis is getting to be higher mileage in general but there’s a club or two I think that enforces no touching. There’s also other places like Duluth or St Cloud in Minnesota. Possibly other areas too. In Portland, you just have to find the right club. Or in smaller Oregon towns like Medford and Bend, those are strict about no touching (and I assume have $ potential, because customers actually travel longer distances to get there thanks to being the only club within reach)—you just have to be patient and deal with their slow hiring process and work the dayshifts at the days they want to fill you in at first before you can work nights and get the schedule you want.

    I’ve heard about places like Orlando or Nashville also being no touch as well.
    I heard some of these little places like in the Dakotas/Montana/Idaho are no touching. I used to think that of Wyoming as well, but I'm seeing more stuff recently to suggest it is definitely 2 way touching there. Bummer!

    Idk what OP is looking for. If majorly banking on a consistent basis is the goal- I am gonna guess it is much easier with grabby clubs/grabby customers.

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    You could cam.
    When the thought of another man touching me made my skin crawl, that's what I did.
    I danced for over 20 years. When you're done, you're done.
    Just a thought.
    Or.... Maybe work as a domme in a dungeon?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamourmilf View Post
    You could cam.
    When the thought of another man touching me made my skin crawl, that's what I did.
    I danced for over 20 years. When you're done, you're done.
    Just a thought.
    Or.... Maybe work as a domme in a dungeon?
    So the whole domme thing seems to be "illegal" in some places for one thing.

    How does one even get started doing this job? It isn't like I am gonna bring randos to my apartment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by random stripper View Post
    So the whole domme thing seems to be "illegal" in some places for one thing.

    How does one even get started doing this job? It isn't like I am gonna bring randos to my apartment.
    I wouldn't domme out of my apartment.
    Aren't there any dungeons near you?
    Or, just cam from the comfort of your home.

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    Start dooing cam or pso (phone sex).I was a stripper for 15 years & when I got that taste of working from home making the same amount I was sold No more grabby men, annoyying greedy micromanaging mngrs demanding a schedule from me * lastly no more bs dressing room drama from catty jealous coworkers.
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