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    Morning everyone,

    I think I found myself in a situation, but curious to see what others here have to say.

    This past Saturday I was sitting with my ATF, having conversation like we always do. At one point, she looks at me and says "I am shocked after all this time you have never asked for my number". I told her I haven't because I respect our boundaries and her trust in me to talk about all things, even her life OTC. She then tells me that after all the years of dancing and movies that she has ability to read people, and finds me to be rare in that I have a genuine interest in her. Later on while having a dance, she tells me that we should get together OTC for dinner or something fun. I told her that I would love that and would be honored to have a conversation in another setting. Needless to say, I did not push for her number before I left, but instead said I would see her this Friday.

    So, I know entertainers need to hustle to make ends meet. Even if you think you know the hustle, some hustle may be sooo good, you don't realize until you have been hustled. In this scenario, she knows I take care of her. I never ask for extras or even to meet up OTC, so are her intentions really to just want to spend time with me?

    Our conversations typically range from how her week has been, to helping her plan her next gig after she stops dancing, personal problems we are having, etc...

    As for walking out last week without grabbing her number, I wanted to see what would happen if I didn't get it. Would she keep insisting on giving it to me (bad sign), or would she just let it be since she offered once.

    Am I just falling for the game and being naive? Or should I pursue this?

    thanks all

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    Default Re: Reading into things?

    I think men have gotten used to playing too many games.....

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    Ask yourself, what do you want out of your relationship with your ATF? According to her words, she wants to go to dinner or go do something fun with you OTC. Are you interpreting it as her wanting more than dinner? If she wants just dinner and you are ok with that, going out for a dinner or something fun shouldn't be an issue. I think you are starting to fall into one of these two camps of thoughts:

    1. Imagining things like she is interested in dating/sleeping with you when all she asked for was a dinner outing.

    2. Becoming suspicious of her intentions aka worried about her hustling you when all she asked for was a dinner outing.

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    In terms of what I want.....nothing serious, but I enjoy our conversations. I would love to be able to have them in a setting OTC. If something more happens, I am obviously ok with it, but not looking for that. I think I am just afraid that my wanting to learn more about her is falling into a hustle. Maybe I am reading into things too much. thanks...

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    Default Re: Reading into things?

    Idk.

    Hell we are all “hustling” each other ALL the time.

    Whether it’s persuading your wife to come home in sexy lingerie, persuading the kids to clean up their rooms, persuading your coworker to turn in a report on your behalf, or persuading a big spender to keep spending/spend more

    Idk.

    Most women who have been getting money from dudes are not going to want the money flow to stop so I assume her suggesting to meet you outside the club is to persuade you to keep spending/spend more in perhaps a sugar daddy type or P4P type setup.

    I’d assume she likes you or at least likes spending a time with you as some customers are so annoying and cringy and weird af that no amount of money is worth tolerating them.

    Often times when dudes suggest OTC it is to their benefit. Her suggesting it means she wants to benefit in some way (most likely financial) at the least and possibly some other reasons as well.

    Maybe even just ask her - “hey bubbles I enjoy spending time with you here and I’m open to new ideas but I’m curious, what made you bring up the phone number/otc thing?”

    if you don’t trust her or don’t want anything more than dancer/customer dynamic then politely decline and continue status quo. If you trust her and are open to other dynamics then carry on

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    Default Re: Reading into things?

    How could we possibly know what she really wants here? You're the one who has had countless hours of conversation with her, not us. You're the one who knows the age, looks, personality and other differences between the two of you, not us. We may each have our own suspicions, but this is all way too open ended for us to really do anything other than speculate endlessly.

    Besides, at this point, who cares? Right now all she's asking for is dinner. So if that sounds appealing to you, then take her to dinner. Simple. Then just take it from there.

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    Is this another "is the dancer interested in being my girlfriend?" threads? Well, it's obvious that she at least thinks that you're decent and safe enough to meet up with you outside the club(OTC). She might be looking for more ways to earn OTC where she won't have to give a house fee, split $ with management and other strip club staff, etc. There's no way of knowing exactly what's going on in her head since none of us are her. If you want to get dinner with her, then tell her. I'm guessing that she will expect to be paid for her time though.

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    Default Re: Reading into things?

    Sounds like the OP is a little bit of a white knight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PaulDrake View Post
    Sounds like the OP is a little bit of a white knight.
    He does. I love white knights

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adelina View Post
    He does. I love white knights
    LOL!!

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